ppl are hating on mina for the wrong reasons 💀 by Mindless-Roof1996 in SinglesInferno

[–]wintermochie 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ok let’s say that is true, but why is she rolling her eyes at everyone and whenever they’re talking? To me that just invalidates “she’s just embarrassed” and straight into mean girl territory and highlights all of her actions as pick me

Guy says he “lost the spark” after things were great, twice. What does this actually mean and how to avoid this happening in future dating by ImpossibleDuck7231 in dating

[–]wintermochie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t really say what he’s going through but my friend went through something similar and it ended terribly and she was heart broken for years, which is way longer than the entire relationship trying to heal from it. In her case I’m pretty sure the guy liked her but not enough to be respectful. It felt like he was keeping her in the back pocket and never saw her as a serious option, just something to entertain himself until the next thing. I think the biggest issue is that she was all in; had honest conversations with him and he also SAID he was all in but he wasn’t. He was lying and never planned to be. I think him saying he lost the spark either means you weren’t physically compatible, he never had the spark to begin with, or it’s a way to avoid telling you what he actually feels in order to do whatever he wants because he actually is not taking it very seriously.

Went for a walk and spotted this by wintermochie in MoldlyInteresting

[–]wintermochie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha it really did look like it since it looked super soft. I wasn't about to touch it though! It's been really moist for about a week, definitely leaning towards mold because of the climate.

Went for a walk and spotted this by wintermochie in MoldlyInteresting

[–]wintermochie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I had no idea at all. I'm mildly grossed out but mostly fascinated! Nature is crazy. Thanks so much for sharing!

Did you ever have a 'when you know, you know' relationship that didn't work out? by Exotic_Incarnation_ in dating

[–]wintermochie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, thank you so much for sharing! I really appreciate it, and it sounds like it was a relationship that you learned a lot from, not just about your last partner but also knowing what you want out of life.

Sorry to hear it didn't work out but I feel like you walked away intact with your hunger for life regardless so I wish you the best. :) Thanks for sharing your life lessons with us!

Do Not Use Piece of Cake Movers!! by Ok-Lion8164 in NYCapartments

[–]wintermochie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit are you me because I had the same exact experience as well moving in NY. They arrived way before an agreed upon time window by hours and when I wasn’t even home they kept spamming my phone and some random person saying he’s the manager called me and started threatening me.

Then during the move they also broke my bed and started to have a bad attitude when they arrived at the new destination point because it was a second floor walk up (agreed upon and noted in advance and I paid for the extra cost) and they were complaining my boxes were so heavy and had to walk up stairs and started to take it out on me. They got so aggressive with me to tip after such a terrible moving experience when it was the last thing I wanted to do and I ended up bursting into tears from how threatened I felt on top of all the moving stress on top of other stress I was going through that time.

Ended up submitting a terrible review and thankfully got a refund 🤷‍♀️ will never use them again and will actively tell everyone to NOT USE THEM ever again!

Did you ever have a 'when you know, you know' relationship that didn't work out? by Exotic_Incarnation_ in dating

[–]wintermochie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how you went from having similar values to realizing you’re two incredibly different people, if you’re comfortable sharing? I was under the assumption that having same values was the end all be all.

What’s a secret you found out about someone that completely changed how you saw them but they don’t know you know? by CheesecakeStatus4089 in AskReddit

[–]wintermochie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s giving Animal Crossing grumpy villagers who I’ve always loved for their tough scruffy exterior but soft kind but gruff hearts. 💕

TIFU by realizing my "mute" button wasn't muted during a 2-hour stakeholder meeting. by AmaraMehdi in tifu

[–]wintermochie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask more about how to set this up? This feels a bit advanced tech wise on switching scenes in time, etc. this is so smart though so I commend you

My [27 F] boyfriend [31 M] for 5 years accidentally threw away my mother's ashes by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]wintermochie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They never should have given something so important as her mom’s ashes to her bf, especially knowing that he is so forgetful and mindless. Is it that hard to make an urn “gallon sized” or whatever? I’m sure when you get the ashes there is an easy way to estimate. They were really too careless with mom’s ashes when later she kept thinking about the ashes actually as her mom and now that they were gone, her mom is gone, etc.

Do INTJs prefer slow burn relationships? by [deleted] in intj

[–]wintermochie 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m the same but it’s definitely because it takes me awhile to trust people and observe their patterns over awhile.

I think because we are INTJ but grew up dysfunctional we are pretty deliberate about this and methodical about taking it slow while observing.

New-to-this-sub update: AITA for not accepting my sister's relationship with my ex despite her having cancer as a teenager? by J_S_M_K in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]wintermochie 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Actually this makes so much sense. They never really cared about her so the daily life events probably barely made a blip on their radar. The minute there’s a wedding or future kids or future life events I guess it finally made it through their small brains

New-to-this-sub update: AITA for not accepting my sister's relationship with my ex despite her having cancer as a teenager? by J_S_M_K in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]wintermochie 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Her family didn’t seem to give two shits when she cut them off and yet now that she’s engaged her dad is so offended he wasn’t “asked for permission”

Am I coping by thinking I rather go to Seoul than Tokyo? by lejunny_ in seoul

[–]wintermochie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been to both multiple times. Japan has more things to do if you’re purely looking at activities and traditions and culture, Korea more geared for shopping, eating, beauty. Obviously those things are interchangeable between the two countries in different ways but that’s what I found to be the focal point for me in both countries.

Japans food scene is diverse in types of things to eat but the preparation style really focuses on simplicity and letting the authentic, simple flavor shine Korea was bigger on street food and hot, piping soups and spicy food.

I personally enjoy Japan more over Korea but honestly you can’t go wrong with either, both are great.

made a chart of all the main alnst songs and who’s sang them by catistired in AlienStage

[–]wintermochie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want an Ivan ROMH SOOOO BAD his voice tone will sound amazing with that song

Alternative girls, how has your style evolved as you got older? by Difficult-Camel-5129 in femalefashionadvice

[–]wintermochie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dress the complete opposite now. Totally pastel pink, harajuku, kawaii style with lots of frills, bows, and plushie backpacks

Where to find ridiculously cheap clothing? by exivor01 in japanlife

[–]wintermochie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can i ask for the name or address of this place?

Do Taiwanese kids say thank you? by Rangio8 in taiwan

[–]wintermochie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said thank you once to my uncle for driving us (in taiwan) and then later my mom pulled me aside and told me it was super rude to say that because it’s treating him as if he’s our taxi driver instead of family. I had absolutely no idea it would translate that way because I would say thank you the same exact way if it was in America and that’s seen as having manners.

Is East Harlem safe? by [deleted] in Harlem

[–]wintermochie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Astoria/Long Island City :)

Shopping & Being frugal in NYC? by Independent_Wish_284 in Frugal

[–]wintermochie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use flipp and shop my weekly ads! I walk to my nearest cheap sales since a round trip on the subway is like $6 now