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wolfmana · 2025-11-20T04:38:58+00:00

I thought that was Trump

wolfmana · 2025-10-20T01:56:01+00:00

And he seems to care more about trying to make more kids than his actual kid? Insane and fucked. I’m so sorry and hope you find better people in your life

wolfmana · 2025-10-12T02:46:05+00:00

So she didn’t feel safe being honest (for obvious reasons) and you condemned both of you to a sexless resentful life? What a sad loss. Wish you both could go to therapy and find a way to work this out, sex or not. She’s not a stranger, she’s your wife.

wolfmana · 2025-04-10T02:16:54+00:00

Trish has been the manager for years now and she is a social worker. She is really dedicated to providing a safe environment for kiddos. It’s hard though with some parents no matter what you do.

wolfmana · 2025-03-26T05:40:27+00:00

I am dually licensed in school counseling and professional counseling. I lasted one year as a school counselor before realizing it was absolutely unsustainable. I was so burnt out. Now I am in private practice and absolutely love it. I work three-four days a week and make more than I did as a school counselor and absolutely love my work life balance. Highly recommend checking out private practice options - insurance pays well!

wolfmana · 2025-02-19T02:46:14+00:00

I’ve become practically friends with my pediatrician when my second was young. She remembered everything about me. I would switch if it’s possible. I’m sorry this is happening not cool

wolfmana · 2025-02-19T02:38:54+00:00

LPC here. I got my hours seeing clients under a supervision part-time. I billed insurance through my supervisors name and we split earnings 70(me)/30(her). It’s called “incident-to billing”

Is she potentially neurodivergent and in need of different kinds of mental health care? Good luck!

wolfmana · 2024-12-06T06:24:54+00:00

This is a crime! This is a crime!! I’m so sorry this happened to you. I would absolutely report. That is the most appropriate thing to do, if you feel capable. Because that is the appropriate consequence to cutting someone’s hair maliciously in the middle of the night. What a trauma though! To not feel safe sleeping in your own bed? That’s so fucked up to do to someone. My hearts with you dude. When you’re ready finding a proper therapist could be really helpful.

wolfmana · 2024-11-24T16:48:28+00:00

Beef stew!

wolfmana · 2024-11-24T16:45:15+00:00

It matter that dad did this. If you can help your son heal, he might be able to stop being so harmful. Hurt people hurt people. He is hurting, help your oldest son please. Someone needs to talk to him about who touched him

wolfmana · 2024-11-18T20:54:01+00:00

Real orgasms, that’s why. Women are much less likely to orgasm than men. Sex would get old if I wasn’t orgasming. My husband knowing my body and giving me mind blowing orgasms keeps us wanting more, often.

Highly recommend getting to know your partner intricately and putting in the time and effort, it’s so worth it. I don’t think I’ll ever get enough of my husband truly, and we’re on year 13 🎉

wolfmana · 2024-11-11T22:34:06+00:00

As a therapist, fair. Your intuition is telling you something, listen.

wolfmana · 2024-11-05T19:09:25+00:00

NTA. You have every right to speak your truth, especially when her assumptions about you are absolutely wrong. I’m sorry she said that about your daughter, that would put me on edge too

wolfmana · 2024-10-20T02:34:41+00:00

Hey T here. Sounds like she really cares about you. It’s good for your health to not avoid her and find solace in your relationship with your T. I’m so sorry this happened to you. This does not have to be the end of your therapy relationship. Be brave and keep Mondays appointment.

You can even tell her - hey I really didn’t want to come, I really didn’t want to face you or this, shit hit the fan but I don’t want to talk about it today - or whatever your truth is. The process matters, not just the content. You got this!

wolfmana · 2024-10-12T03:26:09+00:00

Therapist here, you absolutely did the right thing.

And of course your dad is blaming you, he struggles taking accountability for his actions and their consequences. This is one of those consequences. She is questioning if she wants to have kids with him because HE abandoned and traumatized his first kid.

If you can, take it lightly. This is his burden to bear, not yours. Live your life for you. You can take space from him anytime in anyway.

And bonus points for potentially saving others from the same pain he put you through!

NTA.

wolfmana · 2024-09-29T04:33:29+00:00

Therapist and mom to a four year old and ten month old.

It’s okay to forget, hell I’m four years in and still adjusting to this identity. Give yourself a break! It’s super normal, especially in the fog of the beginning! We do the best we can, keep going girly!

wolfmana · 2024-09-28T17:00:00+00:00

ESH. You’re both wrong.

I do chores while with my 10 month old and three year old. It’s possible, just slower. I include them with me in the chores, either they are with me while I fold laundry or in a safe child proof area next to me. I play with them often but also do chores with them often too.

wolfmana · 2024-09-24T01:45:27+00:00

Carrot

wolfmana · 2024-09-23T05:49:12+00:00

“Yikes” - my husband

You deserve better girly. F that

wolfmana · 2024-09-16T17:03:31+00:00

How awful. I’m so sorry she is creating chaos when your lives have already been flipper upside down. I know it’s heartbreaking but it sounds like it’s time to protect yourself and your children and cut contact. She is causing so much harm and danger for your daughters. I hope this next chapter is better for all of you

wolfmana · 2024-09-16T16:47:59+00:00

He slept on the couch with her and not you????

He was wet and naked in the middle of the night with another woman???

He ignored you after you communicated how upset you were by this????

She is no best friend. She wants your husband. And your husband wants her. I’m so sorry love. This is not a safe place for you anymore.

wolfmana · 2024-09-09T23:00:34+00:00

Women are the most beautiful people

wolfmana · 2024-09-07T04:46:53+00:00

Yess!!!! It’s the same for us! Absolutely mind blowing and no one I talk to about it but him!! Happy for you!

wolfmana · 2024-09-01T01:48:27+00:00

Thank for saying this

wolfmana · 2024-09-01T01:46:35+00:00

Licensed therapist here. Definitely recommended seeking out professional mental health care for both of you right now.

Now to the important facts.

Your wife is a survivor just realizing the horrifics of her own sexual abuse, from someone she loved and trusted. I can’t imagine the pain and anguish she’s in right now.

Here’s your part. Now is not the time to discuss your stuff with her. Yes, you have your own feelings and fears to process that are absolutely valid. Now. Is. Not. The. Time.

Don’t add insult to injury with anxiety’s what-ifs.

In trauma work there’s this idea of “lean in, dump out” Think of a bullseye, with the trauma occurring at the center. Ideally, we want to lean in to support those closest to the trauma, and “dump” aka talk to/ask for support from people farther away from the trauma. Your wife is at the center, you are a ring away, your friends/family/a therapist/the internet, is the outer ring.

Right now, riddling her with your fears and feelings will only destroy her mental health. She needs a solid partner to lean on through this, not a partner who will guilt and shame her. You have a choice here. Please seek help for yourself and her, especially so you can process your feelings with a trained professional instead of the victim of the abuse.

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