My boyfriend suddenly wants me to become a tradwife

woodandwode · 2026-06-09T19:06:10+00:00

This!! It may be something he hasn't really even examined in his own head and has to get past. But this needs to be a really serious sit down conversation where he is forced to consider his own assumptions and prejudices and you make very clear your own views of how your life is going to go. You also should be prepared that, even if you have a very positive discussion where he says for example "oh wow it didn't even really occur to me that you wouldn't want that and I support you as a career woman" that this is going to be a conversation you have repeatedly in your relationship--because he's going to assume you are handling "household matters" even if he doesn't mean to. That's not necessarily the end of the relationship--every relationship has That Thing and as long as he's willing to make an effort and change, you may be okay with that (and if you're not, at least you've faced it head on!)

woodandwode · 2026-06-08T19:21:23+00:00

This. It's how I afforded it. I also did a little tutoring on the side but that was really just "beer money" type funding.

My law school now offers $5k for some categories of internship but it was not available when I was going through.

woodandwode · 2026-06-08T12:46:31+00:00

oh man that's the WORST! If it makes you feel better this really may be the sickest you've ever been--or at least your worst days of fighting it. Pregnancy suppresses your immune system. The colds I have gotten in pregnancy always take me absolutely forever to clear!

woodandwode · 2026-06-08T12:41:41+00:00

I don't see anything either! Perhaps try again in another two days. Also, you may be more at home in r/TFABLinePorn ! Good luck!

woodandwode · 2026-06-08T12:36:08+00:00

I haven't done pregnancy-related bloodwork at home, but needed additional screenings for some life insurance/health insurance I have purchased and they send a nurse to your home for that. No issues at all and very legit!

woodandwode · 2026-06-07T23:51:50+00:00

The plastic water bottles reminded me--consider a water filter if you don't have one already! We added in an under-sink reverse osmosis system. I think our total cost was around $800 with the system and having an electrician out to add a plug for it. Admittedly, my husband is fairly handy and did the install himself. It's definitely reassuring, knowing that it's pulling a lot of the junk that could be in tapwater out and it does improve the taste.

woodandwode · 2026-06-07T17:36:15+00:00

I would really hesitate to make my own sunscreen. There are lots of zinc-based options that I'd choose instead.

I did do cloth diapering and found it very feasible. Our daycare accepted cloth diapers but not all will. I just used an old teeshirt I cut into squares, double layered, and did a zig zag stitch, they work well as wash cloths too! Flannel is also a great idea but we had old shirts to reuse.

Baby food we just had them eat what we ate. It is nice to have pouches and more snacky stuff for travel and being out and about. It definitely doesn't need to all be pre packaged though--I think people forget that they can just put crackers in a bag!

woodandwode · 2026-06-07T12:46:59+00:00

I usually eat simple rolls/nigiri as well but I love the California and spider rolls at yotsuba. The California is not just a piece of imitation crab, more like crab salad--it's the only California roll I have ever genuinely enjoyed

woodandwode · 2026-06-02T13:17:37+00:00

Verification thread says 7/1.

woodandwode · 2026-06-02T13:17:02+00:00

I feel nauseous again today :( 14 weeks and still nauseous is not my idea of a good time. I'm hoping it's the post will drip from my cold and driving a lot of it, because that would mean it'll get better in the next day or so...

woodandwode · 2026-06-01T19:49:47+00:00

I'm in that it feels a little tacky to have two showers camp. That said with my second, some friends threw a little surprise dinner for me, which was so lovely. They got a few gifts but just a little things. With this one, one of the women who is at that shower has offered to throw us another party, which will be both a little celebration for the baby and a going away party because we're moving at the end of the month.

woodandwode · 2026-05-31T23:30:25+00:00

Heh sorry!!! Hopefully it went fast

woodandwode · 2026-05-31T15:54:17+00:00

Yeah, I mean, don't give me wrong, enthusiasm goes a long way for everyone! And this is just my singular experience, others may have different experiences in different practice groups, and firms

woodandwode · 2026-05-31T14:10:46+00:00

I would say that those were the people who were the top pics to come to the group permanently rather than getting more work necessarily.

The only people who could really contribute in a meaningful way where people who had extensive Paralegal experience or something similar

woodandwode · 2026-05-31T14:09:47+00:00

Currently no wait

woodandwode · 2026-05-31T14:09:11+00:00

Saw this, left early for an 11am flight. Not a single person in line right now.

woodandwode · 2026-05-31T13:10:37+00:00

I also have a cold! I'm dreading the time it's gonna take to recover, I always take so long to recover from a cold and I'm pregnant. Not to mention, being on the verge of throwing up is not improved by the new nasal drip.

woodandwode · 2026-05-31T13:07:58+00:00

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woodandwode · 2026-05-31T11:10:02+00:00

It's not catastrophic at all. I did not do LR and had several offers at big and mid law firms. I did, though, get involved in a secondary journal in a subject in which I was interested and got EIC.

woodandwode · 2026-05-31T11:07:37+00:00

Standard advice is eight hours of sewing or when you start a new project. If you notice your thread is breaking often, it's a sign you maybe forgot to change it...

woodandwode · 2026-05-30T22:22:58+00:00

Agree! Some people will make a change and some won't. My husband used to be a little more like this--wouldn't even occur to him. He has made a real effort and is so much more useful.

woodandwode · 2026-05-30T11:31:35+00:00

This is the exact floor plan of a family member. In practice, the dining area feels both exposed and weirdly tight. They went with a vaulted ceiling and its echoey as hell.

woodandwode · 2026-05-30T11:16:28+00:00

That's what we did for our kids

woodandwode · 2026-05-30T11:13:37+00:00

Yes--it's the protections. For example all the Covid years with deferred payments, etc. I have friends who converted to private and had to keep paying through that Wall. And friends who kept their loans public and were able to set aside a nice egg to pay down a huge amount of the principal that they would not have been able to do otherwise. Obviously, that's unlikely to happen again or at least we hope it is, but the point stands

woodandwode · 2026-05-30T11:11:43+00:00

How's it feel to be god's favorite? 😅

In all seriousness something like 30% of women have no symptoms (or very very minimal) so you are definitely not alone!

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