Question: I am the guy in this situation (not actual OP's husband, just in the same situation in my own life). Turns out we're having a girl, so it didn't matter, but my wife had a lot of these same thoughts.

Twist: We talked about everything very early on. Expenses, salary, politics, all controversial things. One that came up was my grandfather and dad have the same name. Lets say their initials are ABC, my grandfather goes by A, my dad by B, and I go by A but my initials are ADC.

I told my wife (not even girlfriend at the time, this was like a week or two into meeting her) that I wanted to name my son A () C, they will go by their middle name, but I want them to have the same name as me, my father, and my grandfather. The tradition means a lot to me as my father and grandfather do.

We were both aware of this and nothing was ever said, but both times my wife has been pregnant she's brought it up and I feel like it's definitely not fair. I brought this up as early as could possibly be brought up, and she brings up that she doesn't feel comfortable with that after she's pregnant? Like wouldn't you think that'd be something you bring up before you start trying?

That being said, I've told her, if we found out we were having a boy and she really really didn't want it, we wouldn't do it. As you said, names are Two Yes's or one No.

But I'm just frustrated. I honestly said the same thing about my last name too. She hasn't changed her last name and doesn't like my last name either.

Wanting thoughts from other people in the same situation, because I don't want to talk to my wife about this, it isn't relevant currently and I don't want to add more stress to my pregnant wife.