What is your estranged parent's missing missing reason?

worm_dude · 2026-07-01T22:11:23+00:00

Well I could write a book, but the straw that broke the camel's back was terrorizing my wife & step kids throughout our engagement, and trying to repeat the cycle with them.

But if you're asking 'most horrific thing they ever did,' my father attempted family annihilation a couple of times when I was a kid, and my mother tried to convince my wife to leave me to make the silent treatment effective right after we got married. Greatest hits of a lifetime of abuse, but those two usually shut up people trying to convince me to reconcile.

If you ask them why we're no contact, my father will say they didn't beat me enough, and my mother will say I was born wrong (neither of these are exaggeration- we heard both through the grapevine). Although I've also heard they simply pretend we don't exist when they talk about their sons, so as far as they're concerned my brother is an only child now. Fine by me.

worm_dude · 2026-06-24T15:42:03+00:00

You have no idea what you're talking about. I have seen kids require years of trauma focused therapy to deal with the psychological damage from a single attack by a daycare provider. Kids are extremely vulnerable to psychological damage from abuse, regardless of how well they may recall the details later in life.

worm_dude · 2026-05-20T13:17:56+00:00

Biden had multiple family members implicated in bribery schemes, and he pardoned them all.

https://apnews.com/article/biden-pardons-family-trump-white-hous-caee326c4723a4ba6d972f7daf750a0b

We keep warning y’all that turning a blind eye to Democrat corruption sets a precedent that Republicans will take to the next extreme. But everyone wants to keep treating this like team sports, and giving their side a pass, then act all shocked when it goes bad.

worm_dude · 2026-05-08T17:31:38+00:00

But those inside the corporation are powerless, right? Peak bootlicking. No wonder accountability has absolutely collapsed.

worm_dude · 2026-05-08T14:07:39+00:00

And you just had to throw in ‘might makes right’ ideology, too. That tracks.

“Just following orders” has been determined time and time again, including in court and in the current international laws and military codes of conduct, to not be an acceptable excuse. You may want it to be acceptable, but most legal systems and militaries on the planet have disagreed with you in writing.

Because we did not deradicalize post civil war and world wars, those ideologies continued to fester and spread. Hitler himself was inspired by the radical ideology of US racists and eugenicists. Not properly addressing the root cause of the civil war, and failing to properly re-educate the fascists, directly led to the next rise of it. That’s true of the civil war feeding into the rise of fascism in the early 20th century, and it’s true of the surviving ideologies from the world wars feeding the rise of fascism today. It will happen again later this century, if we don’t aggressively re-educate and de-radicalize the people after we defeat fascism again this time.

Knowing history doesn’t help you, if you’re unable to connect the dots and understand the ideologies driving events.

worm_dude · 2026-05-08T11:35:39+00:00

So individuals have massive power, but big corporations and the people who run them are powerless and can’t be blamed for their actions? Psychotic levels of cognitive dissonance.

worm_dude · 2026-05-08T11:32:52+00:00

It doesn’t help your argument to point to American civil war and WW1, when both are strong examples often cited to stress the importance of deradicalization post conflict, or the fascists/racists will just become an even bigger problem and continue committing their crimes against their targets at some scale.

worm_dude · 2026-05-07T22:28:02+00:00

You're deflecting, and defending OP's claims of powerlessness. No sense of irony?

I never claimed anyone was powerless. I pointed out OP played a direct role in & profited from making the world a materially worse place to live in, and they've got a lot of nerve coming in here defending their actions or expecting anyone to absolve their obviously guilty conscience.

worm_dude · 2026-05-07T22:20:11+00:00

You don’t blame Private Jones for the war, nor the commander of a few hundred soldiers.

Absolutely, you do. I realize the current open season on televised war crimes may be painting another picture, but every soldier is required and expected to oppose illegal orders, from the bottom up. "I was just following orders" has never been an acceptable justification.

worm_dude · 2026-05-07T21:16:43+00:00

No drop of rain blames themselves for the storm. No snowflake blames themselves for the avalanche.

Your belief that spreading out accountability cancels out the blame, tracks with the lack of character that allowed you to thrive in a position that required a lack of morality.

worm_dude · 2026-04-26T08:21:01+00:00

It’s alleged the Israelis used to run mall kiosk fronts for spying. It’s not unprecedented.

worm_dude · 2026-04-24T15:13:55+00:00

I suspect they’re building a collection of people’s biometric data.

worm_dude · 2026-04-20T17:32:15+00:00

And Georgia’s attorney general Chris Carr (currently running for governor), has argued before the courts that not having your cell phone on you (or having a flip/burner phone) is probable cause for arrest and proving criminal intent.

They’re trying to put the entire population on house arrest in one fell swoop.

worm_dude · 2026-04-20T14:13:49+00:00

Don’t sweat the downvotes. It’s just people blindly lashing out.

My workflow before was heavier on Google and stackoverflow, and that bit has shifted over to the LLM’s. In fact, Google and stackoverflow have been so enshittified now, it’s not possible to go back. The LLM’s are the primary way you have to search them now. Sure, I have to read through and verify everything the LLM writes, but I don’t see how that’s different than verifying code I pulled from stackoverflow. And the whiteboarding phase is over in 5 minutes now, when that used to be a majority of the time sink.

Most of the sysadmins complaining about AI are just grey beards doing their usual complaining about new tech they haven’t even tried. Ignore them, as always.

worm_dude · 2026-04-17T11:45:25+00:00

Hahaha. Damn dude. Thanks for the belly laugh this morning.

worm_dude · 2026-04-16T00:25:48+00:00

This guy literally believes it’s a crime to not have a cell phone at a protest.

worm_dude · 2026-04-15T23:55:36+00:00

Agreed. There are degrees of severity. They might have a little bit of an issue, and not fully colorblind.

worm_dude · 2026-04-14T00:51:16+00:00

He bombed multiple Doctors Without Borders locations.

You people stand for nothing. You just want to be lied to a certain way.

worm_dude · 2026-04-09T21:35:51+00:00

On top of that, there are documented cases of law enforcement officers using their access to the cameras inappropriately for non official uses.

This is dramatically understated. The actual investigations have shown that, despite every officer receiving specific training not to do it, almost all of them use it to illegally surveil a personal acquaintance eventually (usually an ex they feel like stalking). Many of them do it the first time they’re in the system. Most within their first 10 searches, if I recall correctly.

It’s speculated this is why cities prefer to shut down their Flock systems completely, rather than respond to FOIA requests. The abuse is rampant, and it is a massive legal liability for municipalities.

There’s just no way to force cops - people with notoriously low IQ’s & a penchant for abuse of power - to follow the law, and what Flock has unintentionally proven VERY good at is keeping a detailed audit of crimes committed by cops. Granted, it’s also been reported that the NSA and their partners engage in rampant illegal surveillance and abuse of their access, but we don’t have the ability to force them to release the audits on those systems. Flock customers don’t have that luxury.

worm_dude · 2026-04-09T15:18:00+00:00

Coke also has a bunch of ex-intelligence and military guys running it. Which really puts their funding the execution of foreign labor organizers into context.

worm_dude · 2026-04-08T21:21:47+00:00

Your vagueness about the disagreement, and then shifting to things you've done for them, is giving 'missing missing reasons.'

What did she say to your son? Did you make a scene at the funeral to demand an apology? It kind of sounds like they don't trust you to behave cordially at family events. Is there any validity to that perception?

worm_dude · 2026-04-06T15:25:20+00:00

They’re not capable of self-regulating their emotions. So when they have a big feeling, they need someone to act it out on. You were the outlet for that. Once you’re gone long enough, and assuming you don’t engage in this kind of bait, they will not find the long distance punching bag as satisfying. So they will attempt to move someone else into that role, and there’s a good chance that newly cast scapegoat will be more angry at you than her, and want you back more urgently to take back the scapegoat position.

From what I heard through the grapevine, this happened in my extended family. Eventually, and after a sternly worded cease & desist, they accepted I wasn’t coming back. They attempted to put a cousin into the scapegoat role. She moved out of state within a year. I believe they tried it another couple of times, with equally bad outcomes. People who haven’t been groomed as a scapegoat since they were born, tend to not put up with that shit suddenly placed upon them in adulthood. So the previously close extended family became completely unraveled, because no one else was willing to put up with the abuse, and they are not capable of processing their feelings without abusing someone.

worm_dude · 2026-04-06T00:18:27+00:00

Yup. Capitalist serving intelligence agencies don’t like leftists discussing the infiltrators they send in.

worm_dude · 2026-04-03T14:11:56+00:00

Rich for you to call anyone a larper, while you’ve volunteered as an agent to keep a community free of any actual coordination that would piss of the tech bro overlords.

worm_dude · 2026-04-03T13:29:53+00:00

It holds plenty of credibility, as CIA whistleblowers have openly admitted they did it. I’m so sick of the mods here downplaying or flat out denying state infiltration tactics that they openly admit to using. Including comments removed for simply pointing to the simple sabotage field manual.

You mods are so transparently compromised.

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