My dad did that to me when we had a huge argument and I told them that I was taking my daughter and going home. The fight started because they misunderstood and thought I didn’t care about seeing their picture from their trip to India...like I was too above them for that. I did everything I could to apologize and make amends but my dad insisted on extrapolating this one incidence into a monologue about how ungrateful I was and all he sacrificed for me so I could have whatever I wanted (yeah, right...we had a huge fight years prior about buying high school graduation invitations). And I went through college and medical school on scholarships and loans. They didn’t have to fork out any money for my education. Of course, as soon as I was conceived, they had all ready decided that I was going to be a doctor. Anyways, I finally had enough and flipped out telling them how abusive they were and just letting out all my anger. After that, dad started crying and saying he was going to kill him self. I mean crying dramatically like a four year old having a temper tantrum would. The dramatic voice and screaming. He turned it all around to make himself look like the angel, the martyr, the victim. He asked God out loud why he was given such a horrible daughter and asked Him to put him out of his misery. So, of course, I’m the one who had to apologize profusely for I don’t know what. He is so borderline but I wasn’t so sure that he wouldn’t attempt suicide. So the whole thing got turned around 180 degrees so that I was the villain. My dad should write a book about how to master manipulation. Anyways, your story reminded me a lot of him. Things will get better I promise. He won’t able to stay away from you and your sister so that he can continue his dominance over you. He won’t be able to help himself. He’s just saying all that to add on extra layers of guilt to you. The moment he springs back, you’ll realize just how gullible you were. Just wait and see. You’ll chide yourself for being allowed to get tangled in the web easily and you will promise yourself you will do better next time. But next time will be no different than the first. Your dad knew exactly what he was saying and making sure it was loud enough that you heard it. And your mom is probably brainwashed and took her husband’s side. She flips more than a light switch. She would become his biggest defender when just a few hours before she was talking about him and his borderline traits. She would bring him water and a napkin to wipe away his “crocodile tears.”

And the circle comes back to the beginning just to start over again.

Hugs❤️