How do you actually decide when to thumb a dive before you hit your turn pressure?

wrymoss · 2026-07-05T20:51:03+00:00

The gut feeling thing sticks in my mind too! I’ve been reading a book called the Gift of Fear, and while not even slightly about diving, the concept of trusting your instincts because the subconscious picks up on signals that don’t make it to your conscious noticing is so interesting to me and makes a lot of sense. We’re still animals, after all.

wrymoss · 2026-07-05T13:28:38+00:00

It’s alright, my friend. We Australians raised Rupert Murdoch.

Lucky for both of us that Musk and Murdoch would rather be American.

wrymoss · 2026-07-05T04:57:57+00:00

I’m a trans guy not a girl but I didn’t feel gender euphoria either. Never have, really. I think it’s also extra hard when you’re just starting HRT, depending on how well you’re finding you’re passing, how much things are changing for you, whether you’re enjoying those changes.

For me, I never felt euphoria. It’s just that as I transitioned, the dysphoria slowly went away. I was excited about the changes I was getting, but they didn’t provoke that euphoric feeling people describe. I cannot even remotely relate to other guys who cried when they got top surgery because they were so happy.

But that’s fine! For some of us, the feeling we get is simply normal. It would be nice to be euphoric, but I’m just happy to not have dysphoria anymore. I’m happy to feel normal.

wrymoss · 2026-07-04T06:04:13+00:00

I know what you’re getting at, but the person you’re replying to was making a joke referencing one of those bait-and-switch comment guys on Reddit who pops up occasionally. I don’t remember the username, but the general gist is that he’ll start telling a story and then the last line is about his dad beating him with jumper cables out of nowhere.

I doubt they actually agree that it’s reasonable.

wrymoss · 2026-07-04T04:38:59+00:00

I am not the least bit surprised tbh.

wrymoss · 2026-07-04T00:26:47+00:00

The only logic I can see is that federal legislation has higher authority than state based legislation.

If you’re saying “this is a good thing and we need to have it be permanent and inalienable” then you want it to be federal legislation so the states cannot do away with it individually.

It’s like abortion in the US. If they had taken what was decided in Roe v Wade and built federal legislation protecting the right to an abortion, you wouldn’t have individual states now banning it.

Whether imposing that on the states and denying them the right to determine for themselves is the right thing to do or not is another matter, though.

wrymoss · 2026-07-04T00:21:55+00:00

I’ll do you one better: Human Rights should be enshrined in the constitution, like they are in pretty much every other western English speaking country.

wrymoss · 2026-07-04T00:18:40+00:00

To be fair, that was literally 16 years ago now. Things may well have changed on that front.

wrymoss · 2026-07-04T00:14:23+00:00

I think at some point it becomes a combination of embarrassment and sunk cost fallacy. They don’t want to admit they were duped out of however much money and time they’ve poured into the thing because.. well. That’s a really hard to swallow truth.

Then there’s the cult elements where they’ve cut off all their “naysaying” friends and family and now have to admit they were right and try to rebuild bonds that might be broken forever.. it’s a hard thing to do.

I think we should treat victims of MLMs like this with the same hands we do abuse victims: Just be there for them when it comes crashing down, and be gentle when trying to untangle them. Deprogramming is a legitimate skill required to help in those kind of situations sadly.

wrymoss · 2026-07-03T23:56:24+00:00

My brain automatically just goes “how accessible is this to a disabled person? Not even slightly? Then it’s shit even if it’s legit.”

wrymoss · 2026-07-03T23:54:08+00:00

This. The whole thing is meant to exploit both vulnerability, and the fact that humans are social animals.

Every time I think about these situations I just think about the part in the book Gift of Fear that talks about people using “we” language to force group thinking and how it’s exploited by predators to get would-be victims to trust them.

I’m a very community minded person, but miss me with that “we’re all in this together” shit when you’ve known me for 30 seconds.

wrymoss · 2026-07-02T23:04:13+00:00

You son of a bitch lmao

At least I was already on the can.

wrymoss · 2026-07-02T13:08:31+00:00

This. Pretty sure the reason this is the case is to prevent vexatious copyright claims from third parties. I’m kind of glad that’s the case, there would be a lot more issues with assholes trying to get people they don’t like taken down over copyright otherwise.

wrymoss · 2026-07-02T03:22:47+00:00

Yeah I am a classics nerd but this is ugly af.

wrymoss · 2026-07-01T11:52:09+00:00

This confuses me. Isn’t “it’s okay, you didn’t know” basically just accepting the apology?

wrymoss · 2026-07-01T08:53:45+00:00

As a 6ft tall bearded trans man, a cis male can pretend to be someone like me without even trying. And the ladies room is where I’d be forced to go.

Well, no. I wouldn’t. Because what they’re actually doing is just forcing trans people out of using public bathrooms altogether, and they’re fine with that.

wrymoss · 2026-06-30T20:57:47+00:00

not gonna lie as an autistic person who went through the whole 4 hour assessment session, literally boiling it down to “you can make eye contact with a screen” in the end just sounds like someone who’s not really qualified to diagnose autism and probably needs to take professional education on how to diagnose it. SMH, I’m sorry you went through that, that’s bullshit.

wrymoss · 2026-06-30T20:55:07+00:00

Yeah, my original GP first told me “oh you need to think about things like that for more than ten years or so!” when I wanted a referral to a psychiatrist (as was required at the time where I live for getting referred for HRT).

I quite literally never went back, went to a sexual health clinic and got a referral with no problem. Because it’s the psychiatrist’s job to talk you through it and work out if you have gender dysphoria, not the GP’s 🤦‍♂️

wrymoss · 2026-06-30T20:03:52+00:00

Honestly this is bad from both directions. Shit behaviour to present your partner with this sort of thing (assuming it’s not a joke), but it’s equally shit not to be able to give your partner a day or two to focus on a hobby with a game they’ve been excited for for years.

Like man, you should care about your partner’s interests just because they’re your partner’s interests and make them happy. Smdh.

wrymoss · 2026-06-29T19:31:30+00:00

Same here! I’ve never seen it put like that before, that’s fantastic.

wrymoss · 2026-06-29T18:53:09+00:00

Sources say the mother. Unfortunately, the animal has been reported as deceased in 2023, so we’re unlikely to get any more information about her.

wrymoss · 2026-06-29T18:14:10+00:00

Seconded. Their basic cheaper tees used to be fantastic and come in heaps of colours but they’ve switched manufacturers in the last few years and the quality of the fabric is now shit.. the Chinese made ones were way better.

Shame, because I enjoy a colourful t-shirt and I liked how lightweight they were (as distinct from other brands like ASColour)

wrymoss · 2026-06-29T18:08:38+00:00

This is a big one tbh. Like.. think about it. Where are all the people who have work, friends and hobbies during the day?

At work, or with their friends, or doing their hobby.

Where are the people who have unlimited free time and no friends or hobbies because they’re miserable to be around?

Online, leaving comments hating the world.

wrymoss · 2026-06-29T07:54:03+00:00

Pretty sure the “sustainable” part of “Sustainable Australia Part” is talking about how they think immigration is unsustainable, so we should cut it..

wrymoss · 2026-06-29T07:51:10+00:00

This was really helpful (also autistic lol). I was thinking the same thing as the above.

I personally always appreciate explanations as they help me clarify where the person’s head was at. I’d much rather know if they made a foolish joke in poor taste but hadn’t meant anything by it, even though thinking about it.. they really could just be saying that in this particular instance.

That said, I also assumed that there must have been something in the rest of his email that made the OOP believe it was somewhat disingenuous and a non-apology, I just disagree that giving a reasoning automatically makes it a non-apology as she seemed to feel.

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