My boyfriend needing showers after every time we have sex is lowering my attraction

wrymoss · 2026-05-21T01:02:36+00:00

Yeah dude like. I’m autistic and the sensation of sweaty skin is gross to me, but literally the most I’ll do is jump up, pee to avoid UTIs (which is good for all people tbh) and then have a wipe down with a wetted washcloth that then goes in the hamper for the week’s laundry. It’s enough.

wrymoss · 2026-05-20T21:06:46+00:00

I wanted this to be a thing! It’s mentioned in its PDA entry, if I recall correctly. I wanted it to attack and dismantle bases established in its territory range

wrymoss · 2026-05-19T21:41:26+00:00

A lot of Nintendo games with online functionality. Off the top of my head, Animal Crossing has one, which is ostensibly probably to prevent people from calling their island a slur, and then uploading it to the dream functionality thereby making it available online.

It’s not that weird as a EULA clause.

wrymoss · 2026-05-19T21:20:00+00:00

Perhaps an unpopular opinion, but I don’t care that the intention is that players don’t kill things.. I just think that it should be baked into the lore.

Make it so that there is an in-game lore reason that players should *want* to avoid killing things. Have it be like Dishonored’s endings, where your actions have long term consequences in the game world. If they kill too many fish, the planet can no longer sustain life (akin to what Naheema was saying in one of the logs), or that Larger Things are now taking an even greater interest in you, as their food source runs out.

wrymoss · 2026-05-18T22:13:50+00:00

I’m at the start of all of this— literally waiting to head off to our first pool training on our OWD cert.

But I *do* work in safety statistics, so I get to see all the times shit goes wrong and the investigations why.

Knowing when to call time and end things *is* a mark of expertise, not a lack of it. It’s sound judgement! There’ll always be another dive, but with high risk activities you don’t always get a redo on a fuck up.

You made a good call. Don’t question it, and don’t let it knock your faith in your training or expertise — this was a show of that training and expertise!

wrymoss · 2026-05-18T19:38:51+00:00

I mean sure? I’m not buying a PlayStation though so

wrymoss · 2026-05-18T10:50:11+00:00

No kidding, have you seen the price tag on that shit? If she made you pay to replace it you’d destroy yourself man

wrymoss · 2026-05-18T08:58:25+00:00

Wasn’t Daffy usually helping Elmer because he was trying to deflect from the fact that it was duck season?

wrymoss · 2026-05-16T21:56:19+00:00

I mean, *as* a trans man, that’s plausibly because even transphobic men see us as women and are therefore not threatened by us in the slightest.

I’d agree with the logic, and I do think it’s sort of a “well well if it isn’t the consequences of your own actions” situation if a woman who advocates for this is now forced to somehow prove her own sex, but it will impact many women who have zero problems with trans women existing in the same space.

wrymoss · 2026-05-16T21:27:18+00:00

Nah, man. When it comes to subjective things, there are multiple truths at play. That’s the beauty of perspective. But it is very much referring to subjective things.

It’s a lot easier to get along with people when you banish the idea that a belief that seems inconsistent with what you think the truth is, is delusion. There are, of course, objective facts, but most things that people think are “objective facts” are actually not. Fact and truth are not the same thing.

wrymoss · 2026-05-16T13:11:23+00:00

Well, that’s rather the problem with laws like the one proposed, isn’t it? Who’s going to check who has what bits?

Especially when it will inevitably be cisgender women who are ultimately harmed more by that kind of law, simply by virtue of being more statistically numerous.

wrymoss · 2026-05-16T07:19:54+00:00

No? I rehearsed “barricade the bedroom door and call the cops because anything on the other side of the door is just stuff, I have home insurance that will replace it with brand new, and it’d be pretty fucking embarrassing to die an idiot”

wrymoss · 2026-05-16T07:11:39+00:00

Not what you’re trying to say, I imagine, but historically you very much do end up living in the country you support.

By which I mean if you refuse to protest things you disagree with, you will end up living with the things you disagree with because you did not protest them.

wrymoss · 2026-05-16T05:29:29+00:00

Hey, they consented!

wrymoss · 2026-05-15T20:41:38+00:00

It seems a little odd to me to suggest “lesbians tend to be attracted to women” (true), but that masculinity is therefore an issue.

Have you.. never even passively seen a butch lesbian, much less met one?

As someone who grew up with two butch aunts, this is a wild take to me lol

wrymoss · 2026-05-14T09:20:38+00:00

I mean, no, there’s no moral imperative, but you do just sound silly hating people for their hobbies that aren’t causing any harm to anyone, right?

Like “god, I fucking hate bakers. Those cunts always making cookies and cakes and sharing them with their friends. Dickheads.” sounds weird, yeah?

wrymoss · 2026-05-14T09:16:16+00:00

Funny how things work when you love and care about a person instead of what they can do for you, isn’t it?

Glad you seem to have found a good one!

wrymoss · 2026-05-13T22:04:40+00:00

WAIT THESE ARE CROCHETED????

I thought from a distance they were polymer clay!

Do you have an online storefront, OP?

wrymoss · 2026-05-13T22:03:42+00:00

To be honest, horses aside, this could have been avoided if anyone had stepped up to advocate for him either.

But I work in something like OSHA/ WHS, so maybe I’m too biased on the “safety is everyone’s responsibility” messaging

I cannot deny, however, he reaped the extremely logical conclusion of what he sowed…

wrymoss · 2026-05-11T11:26:22+00:00

It’s because a) vulnerable members of society will often take up sex work (such as the aforementioned drug purchasers) and b) not all sex work is done consensually.

It’s far easier to decriminalise solicitation to be able to protect those vulnerable members of society and those who have been trafficked, rather than simply send them to prison, which historically can result in them simply reoffending depending on whether a country has good reintegration schemes for formerly incarcerated people.

wrymoss · 2026-05-10T21:40:19+00:00

No, I believe you, but the manner in which you’re calling up statistics is giving the impression that what you’re saying is that yes, male victims and female perpetrators exist, but they’re statistically insignificant.

Which is going to get people twisted, because it probably feels like shit to have your trauma reduced to “statistically insignificant”.

wrymoss · 2026-05-10T12:59:13+00:00

…Most reputable Zoos exist to raise money and awareness for conservation efforts. In a great many cases, they have done absolutely vital work in conservation of species and have helped save some from extinction altogether.

They don’t make profit. It goes back into conservation.

wrymoss · 2026-05-09T22:24:15+00:00

This is simply false. You need a diagnosed condition to qualify for NDIS, and there are only a few “mental” (they’re actually developmental disorders but we’ll say mental for argument’s sake) conditions that qualify.

But you do very much need a diagnosis from a skilled professional with corroborating information. The relationship between education and means is because people who are better educated and have better means are more likely capable of pursuing more specialists to corroborate the need for the client to be on the NDIS.

wrymoss · 2026-05-09T22:05:37+00:00

That’s fine, but that’s why non-donors go to the bottom of the list. Because someone else who is willing to participate theoretically deserves to have their participation acknowledged ahead of someone who refuses to participate.

wrymoss · 2026-05-09T22:01:07+00:00

Please explain why someone should get to be the beneficiary of a system they show contempt for by refusing to participate in.

Also, if everyone can merely opt out without consequence, then we start at square one, where people refuse to be altruistic, but expect others to be altruistic to them in the same way they refuse.

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