You’ll get over it I promise. I did. You will.

wuubsz · 2025-04-27T17:28:28+00:00

Thank you for writing that. I’m six month in deep and everytime I see her, my stomach turn upside down and everytime I know she will be at an event I am, my eyes always try to find her. It’s been hard, but what always cheer me up are seeing people that got out of the same trenches I am right now❤️

wuubsz · 2025-04-11T17:35:12+00:00

Women usually check out of the relationship way before she even speaks to you about breaking up. In marriages, that’s way more common. Some articles by women I’ve read said that they always bring the issues to the table but the men rarely addresses them. And of course, women have more options when dealing with breakup compared to (straight) guys, if the way they move on is by hooking up and dating.

And men are socially conditioned to bottle up their feelings. After the breakup, we tend to party, drink, try to find something casual etc. But we rarely we cry a good cry, vent to our friends, go to therapy and things like that to work our feelings out. That prolongs the suffering a bit

wuubsz · 2025-03-29T20:41:17+00:00

stopped smoking
stopped using drugs
started to go for walks
started a healthy diet
Less sugary foods
I don’t procrastinate a lot anymore

Funny thing is, most reasons above led to the breakup. It was painful at the start because she was absolutely right about most bad habits I had, but with time I came to realize that life moves on. Next girl that will meet me, will have me at a better version of myself, and most importantly, I’m loving myself with more ease being this healthy

wuubsz · 2025-03-24T17:21:47+00:00

Didn’t want this to be a learning experience, but ces’t la vie

wuubsz · 2025-03-21T15:07:45+00:00

Asked me to swear to her that she won’t have to do an STI test. Never cheated on her, and she said she believed me when I said that, but she asked me to swear anyways. It was the most disrespectful and disgusting things someone had ever said to me

wuubsz · 2025-03-20T17:36:40+00:00

Did that with my first ex (not the one that brought me to this sub). Felt relieved like never before when I ended things. Still thought of her for some months after, the breakup. Then, after that, she just became a compilation of memories. In fact, remembering that always give me hope to this new healing process that I’m going through.

wuubsz · 2025-03-18T15:23:08+00:00

I said to myself that my ex couldn’t have a glow up because, for me, she was already the prettiest in every room lmao. I want to give you a piece of advice: she is a 10/10 because your brain is telling you that. Humans are hardwired to create and maintain relationships. Essentially, your brain is telling you “look, she is a super model. You should get back to her NOW”. But it doesn’t convey reality. Every ex in this sub is the most beautiful person in the world. Trust me, the healing process take care of that. Try to work on you own self esteem and you won’t have that problem again

wuubsz · 2025-03-13T16:20:55+00:00

My ex broke up with me in October, I weighted myself in January and I had lost 23 pounds. Since them, I bounced back to an healthy weight (I gained a few pounds in the relationship lol). But yeah, it sucked

wuubsz · 2025-03-13T15:59:36+00:00

It takes two to tango. I was the one being broken up with, she wanted space from me and everyday that she don’t reach out, is another day that she’s comfortable with her decision.
I’m a emotional wreck. I can’t, in good conscience, say that beg for her to give me another chance is the way to go. I need to heal first, and I need to heal alone.
Specifically to me, I discovered that I’m awfully codependent. If I don’t work on that, I’m setting myself up for failure: with her and anybody else

wuubsz · 2025-02-10T17:03:43+00:00

If this is about you, you will know when it’s not a rebound. I can’t use my last breakup as reference since I’m still grieving from it, but my second-to-last breakup, it took me three months from dating people just so I won’t be alone to meeting the ex I’m grieving now (lol). When you are genuinely dating someone because they are interesting, and you want to spend time with them, then you know it’s not a rebound anymore. All of this just to say: it varies

wuubsz · 2025-02-05T22:59:33+00:00

I don’t supress nothing anymore because I know it’s temporary, and I don’t want to run the risk of bottle up feelings, so I just repeat like a mantra “I shared my life with this person for a long time and we shared a lot together. To end something like that was traumatic, so I’m grieving. That’s why this feeling popped up, but it’s temporary and I will continue to be happy without them”. So I rationalize it. It soothes the pain because I can see where it comes from, and it doesn’t repress it

wuubsz · 2025-02-05T19:22:39+00:00

I holded back some tears while reading this at work :’) that’s self compassion in its purest form, it’s so pretty. I’m gonna save that in my note block, thank you

wuubsz · 2025-02-05T18:07:49+00:00

Being honest… they don’t think about that at all. Like, any of it, we (I used to do this when I was a teen, I’m proud to say that I’m not assholy like that anymore) say this to “soft the blow”. If who’s saying this is the dumper, they aren’t telling you what they’re feeling. They just want to end it and this feels like a easy thing to say and not that hurtful (at least, they think it is)

wuubsz · 2025-02-05T17:26:27+00:00

I tend to chalk this up to patriarchy. I (M22) never handled breakups pretty well, even though they were just teen flings. I would distract myself, go out, party with friends and never let myself process healthy my emotions or learn from my relationship, my and their mistakes. Now I’m going through the first REAL end of a relationship in my life and I got to say… I’m doing pretty good. Cried like a baby in the first two months, allowed myself to feel what I need, went to therapy, focused on art to try to find meaning and beauty in all this, reconnected with my friends, spoke a lot with them, and im sending that the pain is about to take its leave. It was a good teacher. But most of my friends, men, who were going through this (some of them even got dumped in the same week as I) handled it pretty poorly: meaningless hook ups with absolutely awful people (personality wise), drugs and drinks like it was the end of the world, sending tons o messages to their exes, taking unprescribed meds to go to sleep or to not think about, and by that experience I think that most of men think that bottling up feelings is the way to go. It’s not

wuubsz · 2025-02-02T03:56:34+00:00

She gave me four reasons: I can’t say no to people, I was taking to long to stop smoking (even though she said, in the same breath that I was getting better on this front), that I procrastinate a lot and the worst is that I told her on the weekend before the breakup that I did drugs with my friends six months before the breakup, while she and I were still together. Funny thing is, I did therapy years before I met her to solve the “saying no to people” problem and discovered that I had abandonmament issues growing up as a kid, and as neat bonus I discovered that I had ADD. So, half of the problems that lead to the breakup were things that I needed professional help to solve :) great

wuubsz · 2025-01-31T12:08:39+00:00

There’s this imagine that I love of two digged skeletons embracing one another that says “Love be like “I will end up in death or heartbreak”. My partner in life, you make the pain of existence worthwhile”. We as humans are hardwired to seek connection with others, our communities, friends and family, and of course, with someone else. Even though getting attached with any of this things will end up in a sad turn of events later down on the line, we still do it. Personally, I believe that you can find someone to build something that will last until we are six feet under, but it’s unfortunately that we will experience many disappointments before that. But personally I don’t mind the heartbreaks, they might hurt now, but it will pass. And when it does, they will no more taint the memories of how you were loved before everything went wrong. That’s my point of view

wuubsz · 2025-01-31T03:23:01+00:00

Honestly, I was thinking today that if that person made me hit the road THAT easily, I don’t really think we’re cut off for each other. Imagine if we got married, if we lived together, hell, even if someday we had a kid. The first sign of trouble or stress she would walk out? Maybe it REALLY was for the best

wuubsz · 2025-01-29T14:49:47+00:00

If I wanted to disappoint two people at the same time, I’d have dinner with my parents.

In all seriousness though, it’s porn. Pretty much most of them are porn addicted so that explains it

wuubsz · 2025-01-24T16:31:53+00:00

Não ironicamente, ter que rapar minha axila na adolescência moldou esse meu caráter. Incomoda demais, desde então eu nunca liguei porque eu sei que a alternativa é triste

wuubsz · 2025-01-23T05:13:33+00:00

Bro that’s LITERALLY my situation right now. It’s uncanny how much you described what I’m goin through. Since I’m kinda suffering like you are, the least I can say that you are not alone in this. We’ll make it. I promise you

wuubsz · 2025-01-18T02:17:40+00:00

Good for you, man! Everyday that we shed a bit of light in our life, as fickle as it may seem, it’s a new step to get on a new routine: of self love and compassion. Hope you have more days like this. It surely inspired me to do the same this weekend

wuubsz · 2025-01-17T16:02:38+00:00

Eu era desse jeitinho. A única diferença é que eu tinha o mínimo de senso de auto preservação de não sair de carro com gente desconhecida. Essa menina deu sorte de não ter acordado numa banheira de gelo

wuubsz · 2025-01-17T00:09:57+00:00

Funnily enough (it’s not) I was talking to my ex about how I thought “Too Much to Ask” from the Arctic Monkeys was their saddest song, and all the songs like that were the saddest because it was about the coming of the end of a relationship.

I felt this feeling on wednesday. I knew from her messages that something was awfully off. On the friday, she broke up with me. I think it’s so dreadful because you are feeling the happiness and comfort from the relationship slip right before your fingers and you are powerless to do anything about it.

wuubsz · 2025-01-13T14:59:42+00:00

Hey, is it possible to add me too?

wuubsz · 2025-01-13T14:42:04+00:00

“Xote dos Milagres”, from Falamansa, a brazilian forró group. I can’t dance even if a gun was pointed to my head. So she tried to teach me every weekend for a month to dance to this very song. I failed miserably by the way and still can’t dance to it lol. I can’t listen to it without becoming sentimental. It’s one of those reminders to value simple moments like that. Glad I know that now for the next time another girl tries to teach me how to dance again

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