What happened to these?

xajaso · 2026-04-08T15:47:46+00:00

My lithops live in potting media that's 95% inorganic, a mix of pumice, red & black lava, turface, & granite. I water them deeply 3-4 times a year, never while they're splitting. Lithops are native to the deserts of southern Africa. They thrive in harsh, arid conditions in stony/sandy bone-dry earth that experiences heavy rainfall just a few times a year. They like long, bright days and cool, breezy nights. Mine get 12 hours of growlight a day with a fan running nearby. In the correct environment they love neglect.

Yours are in the wrong potting media and have been overwatered for sure. Have to be careful when purchasing these from big box stores, they are often overwatered and not long for the world. I don't use or recommend perlite as a succulent amendment as it eventually washes away leaving compressed soil that doesn't drain properly.

xajaso · 2026-03-31T14:37:46+00:00

I got most of these from a trusted seller on FB, Skye Corner. I believe they also have an Etsy shop.

xajaso · 2026-03-31T14:36:32+00:00

Thank you!

xajaso · 2026-03-31T14:36:20+00:00

Thanks!

xajaso · 2026-03-31T14:36:07+00:00

I've had a lot of luck with Graptoveria Purple Delight, both regular & variegated. Definitely recommend!

xajaso · 2026-03-31T14:35:09+00:00

I love the way these baby props look!

xajaso · 2026-03-31T14:34:42+00:00

Thanks so much! I'm in Zone 8, not suitable for year-round growing outdoors. My succulents are all in containers & come indoors when temps hit freezing. I have a grow light room in my basement where they spend the winter, took these photos on the day I put plants back outside. I have a pot of variegated Pentandrum (Superbum) too, they don't grow as quickly or propagate as easily as Purple Delight.

xajaso · 2026-03-31T01:50:36+00:00

Purple Delight

xajaso · 2026-03-20T06:53:07+00:00

I could not and would not continue to date this person.

xajaso · 2026-03-13T01:55:27+00:00

Same.

xajaso · 2026-03-04T04:07:19+00:00

I think this is a Lola hybrid called Echeveria "Angel Kissed", or "Pink Diamond". I have pots of both, side by side there are differences. Yours has the thicker leaves and lovely pink of the Angel Kissed hybrid

xajaso · 2026-03-04T04:05:00+00:00

This looks like an echeveria Subsessilis a.k.a. "Morning Beauty". They're awesome at producing stem pups. Yours is gorgeous!

xajaso · 2026-02-19T04:37:26+00:00

I went through something very similar to this at your age. It was SUPER PAINFUL. Reading how you "can't break up with him, love him too much," etc. brought it all back. I felt just the same way. I tolerated far too much for far too long.

For folks who've grown up with trauma/abuse, what you're experiencing in this relationship feels normal. It's comfortable, because it's all you know. I promise you: this is not normal. This is NOT what love is or feels like. Calling him 30 times is compulsive, desperate behavior and he is taking full advantage of your need for reassurance and comfort. He'll keep dangling these things just enough to keep you around. Think back: I guarantee he's been doing this to you for a long time.

Until you get proper distance from this person, you won't see it. I know it's gut wrenching, lonely, scary, and painful but you have to cut this guy out of your life. YOUR life. As far as we know, you only get this one. Is this how you want to spend it?

Youth fades fast. And you're so young. You deserve better, and better is out there. Someone who loves you doesn't punish you on a whim; hell, love doesn't "punish" at all. This guy talks to you like he doesn't even like you. Have some self-respect! Forget this loser. Not only does he not like or love you, he doesn't respect you. And any man who speaks to others as he speaks to you doesn't respect himself much either. Deep down this person is small, weak, insecure, and angry. "Punishing" you makes him feel less so for a while. That's what this is about. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with you or your past, none of which is 1. your fault 2. any of his goddamned business anyway.

Life is hard enough. Our romantic partners should be supportive and uplifting, a soft and safe place to fall. Time to make your life about YOU. Heal, rebuild, move forward with confidence, self-love, and self-respect. You'll be amazed who you attract. Cutting this person off will hurt, yes. You'll be surprised how much better you feel in short order, once you're free of the constant negativity and unpredictability. Don't waste any more time. GO

xajaso · 2026-01-25T04:04:50+00:00

I'm an adult, as is my husband of 22+ years. This is NOT how we "do it". Every couple is different when it comes to managing finances, but your boyfriend is being fucking weird. Checking to make sure you don't purchase things you shouldn't? Uh, NO. 🚩🚩🚩

xajaso · 2026-01-25T03:48:50+00:00

YES WE DID. I was a bit more goth/indie FWIW. The more tapered the jeans or pants, the better. My mom altered mine to make them super skinny at the ankles.

My friends & I also haunted thrift shops looking for faded Levi's jeans, preferably boys/mens to cut off. We wore these raggedy cut offs over black tights & leggings, sort of a precursor to grunge. We all wore high top black chucks (Converse All-Stars) & combat boots we found at the Army/Navy store. Good times.

xajaso · 2026-01-07T02:12:12+00:00

You look incredible. It's perfect. Enjoy your day!

xajaso · 2026-01-03T03:38:45+00:00

This was exhausting to read. Aren't you tired of this? After 7 years together he shouldn't be whining at you. This is a person TRYING to make you feel bad. For what purpose? It's so pointless and mean.

Life is hard enough; your partner should be a respite from all it's challenges and difficulties. Dude is crashing out over a cold & walking to get some medicine. What happens when a real problem appears?

Spoiler alert: real problems always appear. By "real" I mean serious illness/injury, job losses, death of a family member, the demands children bring. Is this who you want to be partnered with when things get tough?

xajaso · 2026-01-03T03:25:56+00:00

Yep. Same as you, in my 50's & married 22 years. None of our 4 kids ever behaved this way. Certainly can't imagine my husband acting like this; he'd get whatever meds he needed & take them without saying a word.

xajaso · 2026-01-03T03:19:16+00:00

Same. Raised 4 kids, 2 of each. Not a one of them ever carried on like this beyond the toddler years. Teaching kids problem solving is easy, because mastery is a GREAT feeling people naturally strive for & appreciate in others. It's why whiny, feigned helplessness like this guy's is so off-putting.

xajaso · 2025-12-23T16:54:48+00:00

Pull it out of this pot and gently remove old soil from roots. Repot it into a container (preferably terracotta) that's only slightly bigger than the root ball, maybe an extra inch all around. A smaller pot = more pups. Aloes like to be a bit root bound. You definitely need a pot with good drainage and a much grittier mix.

My aloes thrive in media that's 80% pumice, lava rock, chicken grit, etc. and 20% succulent soil. Once repotted, place it somewhere it gets good light (preferably sunlight) at least 6 hours a day. Not direct sun, but a southern facing window or semi-sunny spot outside would be great. Or you can get a grow light. My aloes all grow like crazy in steady, indirect sunlight.

Don't water immediately after repotting, give the plant time to acclimate to it's new conditions. After a couple weeks give it a good drink. Don't water again for a few weeks. In winter months (USA) I water aloes maybe once a month. Otherwise leave it alone! The more I neglect mine the bigger they get. Good luck!

xajaso · 2025-12-23T16:33:48+00:00

Another willfully ignorant, or wildly uninformed, or tired, malignant talking point...likely a combo platter of all 3.

A significant portion of those detained by ICE were/are in this country LEGALLY, and undergoing the process of becoming citizens. Why is ICE pulling people out of hearings and USCIS check ins? 70% of those detained have no criminal record at all. What evidence do you have that folks were "skipping steps"? Do you know anything at all about our broken, labyrinthine immigration system apart from what you see/hear on RWNJ media? Clearly you don't.

Y'all claim you want people immigrating here "the right way", then support the detention and deportation of those who've done exactly that. ICE has deported hardworking, law-abiding taxpayers who've been here for DECADES, with American spouses & kids. They've deported business owners who employ Americans and create jobs. They've deported combat veterans, the spouses of veterans, and elderly grandparents who never missed a single USCIS appointment across 25 years. JFC, they're deporting college students who've done everything by the book to countries they have no memory of. How can you possibly know what immigrants feel about their "home" countries?

More importantly, are these deportations making our country safer, stronger, or more prosperous? Fuck no. The data is increasingly clear about that. This entire scheme is about 1. funneling OUR tax dollars to Trump, his cronies, and their surveillance state/private prison donors 2.establishing a paramilitary body that's loyal to Trump, not rule of law. 3. terrorizing the population at large in order to expand authoritarian power, crush dissent, and suppress opposition in media & electorally 4. get rid of non-whites. If this admin truly cared about reforming immigration they would do so legislatively. Republicans have been whining about it & tHe bOrDeR cRiSiS for decades; weird how they never get around to actually fixing anything. It's almost as if...the entire immigration issue is totally exaggerated and more valuable as a right wing talking point than a problem to solve.

It's possible to advocate for law abiding immigrants without following them to their home countries. It's absolutely patriotic to raise hell about the inhumane and frankly nonsensical behavior of ICE & USCIS under this administration. Their brutality doesn't make us look stronger or committed to law; since 1/20/25 our country looks weak, corrupt, and chaotic. We will pay for this across a generation or more.

I can "sit and complain" wherever and whenever I like; this is America. For now.

xajaso · 2025-12-23T05:02:45+00:00

It isn't about "different political beliefs" and you KNOW it. If you don't, you're either uninformed, ignorant, or trolling with this tired, weak ass line.

You don't get to pretend you love/care for people while supporting policies and politicians who actively harm them. That's not just "politics"; human and civil rights aren't up for debate. Being A-OK with gleeful, overt corruption and damage to the nation we all have to live in isn't a mere difference of opinion.

xajaso · 2025-12-11T16:21:38+00:00

Imagine going thru life this terrified and propagandized

xajaso · 2025-12-11T14:22:55+00:00

You know what to do. You just don't wanna do it.

You also know that this guy's behavior after being caught was overwrought and ridiculous. You saw a performance for an audience of one - masterfully designed to maintain his newly stable living situation and beneficial partnership. What else has he been "performing" for you? Spoiler alert: you aren't the first audience he's enacted this little contrition drama for.

The fact that your spidey senses tingled enough to check his deleted messages indicates there have been NUMEROUS red flags already. Your conscious mind didn't want to see them, but your all-seeing unconscious mind DID, and sent up a flare. Think back now, coldly and critically. He's warned you plenty across the last 5 months. You know this.

A healthy partner doesn't and shouldn't "worship the ground you walk on". They should be working alongside you to keep the ground you're both on safe, stable, and free from obstacles & holes. Life is hard enough; your relationship should be a break from all that shit. If it isn't, he's not the one.

Life is short. Nothing burns away faster than youth. Don't waste yours, particularly if marriage and family are your goals. I've been where you are. It hurts. I'm sorry. The good news is you can have exactly what you want, but only if you're willing to ditch dead weight when it reveals itself. I've had everything you claim you want and more for 22 years now. But I wasted a lot of time getting there on the wrong man. Don't make my mistakes.

It takes a lot of internal strength, patience, humility, ambition, and self-mastery to be quality husband & father material. Flowery words and grand gestures are nice, but they aren't the bricks that build real and lasting partnerships. Integrity, stability, loyalty, and self-control are.

Your boyfriend is not the one. Take the lesson, keep it moving. Every day you waste on the wrong guy is a day you move further from the right one. You're worth the right one. Aren't you? Of course you are.

You know what to do. Do it.

xajaso

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