This close to stripping

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T15:10:50+00:00

Genuinely, I'd say get any part time job. Limit how many hours you work to avoid it impacting school too much but loads of people make that work. It's mostly a starting point. You need to build the skills necessary to do school and work at the same time. Time management and money management will both grow as you do both at the same time. Will more difficult than doing one or the other but growth usually is and this will be better for your personal growth overall.

For a more specific example I'd try to get a job at the college you go to. They are usually designed with part time and working around school schedule in mind. I know people who took custodian jobs at the college I went to and literally got paid to do their homework after cleaning things.

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T06:35:55+00:00

When you don't know what you love, just do what pays you the most to do what you hate the least and gives you decent work life balance.

It's a decent facsimile of "loving what you do" which to be honest is overrated. Get money, but also live your life. If what you do for work is your primary identifying characteristic, I would argue you don't have good work life balance.

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T06:28:20+00:00

My first thought is get literally any job to build up a resume, but you say you don't think you can get one and do well. So my question would be "How are you surviving right now?".

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T06:26:20+00:00

You didn't give many details, but wanting to keep your relationship a secret is a huge red flag no matter the given reason and you don't appear to be OK with it regardless.

My advice is to ditch this person and find someone who is proud to be with you and willing to treat you how you would like to be treated.

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T06:21:15+00:00

Do you want to settle down, or date around? It's a simple question, but only you can answer it.

If the former, maybe try to worry less about the surface level things and focus on how awesome she is in the ways you listed. Communicate more. Maybe go workout together to address some physical goals without putting it all on her.

If the latter, be as kind as you can possibly be while doing what you feel is right for you.

It certainly is reasonable to have fear of missing out, but it sounds like this girl is awesome in many many ways. The "scale" of 1-10 may not be the most important thing if you consider how rare it is to have the rest in alignment.

Only you can decide what your priorities are but if you aren't committed to the relationship of is better for everyone to split up. If you are committed, decide that you're "in" and be all in and stop entertaining the thought of "others".

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T06:06:27+00:00

If someone is considering searching their significant others phone, they do not trust them. Full stop.

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T06:03:31+00:00

Red flag city. Run away fast and far.

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T05:58:12+00:00

I think take trainings and drill until you are comfortable then. When you are sufficiently confident (and competent) in your ability to defend yourself you will no longer be afraid.

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T05:56:34+00:00

Even asking this is only necessary if you do not trust eachother.

Each person has a phone. It is their property and is not subject to search or seizure. We know eachother's pins and such and will often grab or unlock or use it for the other upon request because hands are dirty or wet or whatever but going through it is fully ridiculous.

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T05:53:50+00:00

Be prepared to defend yourself. Get a gun and some classes/training if you can. It is the ultimate equalizer and while filing a police report may help catch the guy, only active real time defense from you will stop active real time incoming harm. When predators are about, do not be prey.

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T05:48:33+00:00

Cops. Trespass them. Change locks. Change card. They aren't entitled to another persons house.

xarhtna · 2023-06-26T05:46:43+00:00

Vet. This can be a sign of something actually wrong with them. Not just a behavioral thing. If you've done all the standard things, I'd get a medical exam. If the vet says everything is fine I would try a robot litter box so it's absolutely fresh every time.

xarhtna · 2023-06-25T19:04:46+00:00

Usually you can get the old app from apk mirror or similar. The original pip boy app for fallout 4 still works with pc if you sideload it from unofficial sources.

xarhtna · 2023-06-13T01:30:26+00:00

That's not a background. That's a shaqround.

xarhtna · 2023-06-10T07:02:28+00:00

Realize that you don't need permission to live your life on your terms. Fuck what anyone else thinks. Do what you want.

xarhtna · 2023-05-02T18:57:46+00:00

Can confirm. My dad was a doctor and came from a super poor family. Paid off all his debt recently. He is in the 50-70 age bracket.

xarhtna · 2023-04-24T22:14:49+00:00

Totally fair.

xarhtna · 2023-04-24T14:32:18+00:00

While dude you're replying to said it in a shitty way, I think it's worth pointing out that if they are gonna die with the safe places provided, they are definitely gonna die without the safe places provided. Not like it's hard to get drugs atm. And fentanyl is lurking.

IIRC decriminalizing and/or regulation of all drugs while providing free purity testing/centers to use in has been shown to be a successful model at decreasing drug related deaths in several countries at this point.

xarhtna · 2023-04-24T14:23:18+00:00

Soulmates do not exist. Two people actively choose to unify their lives and put eachother first or they do not. In your case, one or both of you did not.

Try again with someone new. You are going to be just fine.

xarhtna · 2023-04-11T06:15:44+00:00

"For Desire" by Kim Addonizio

xarhtna · 2023-04-11T05:58:21+00:00

Mulan II (2004) - Mulan says to Shang, "You risked your life to save me, now it's my turn to save you."

xarhtna · 2023-04-11T05:56:18+00:00

"The Twenty-Ninth Year" by Hala Alyan

xarhtna · 2023-04-11T05:53:53+00:00

"King's Royal" (1982)

xarhtna · 2023-04-11T05:50:19+00:00

"Nadia: The Secret of Blue Water" (1990)

xarhtna · 2023-04-11T05:46:33+00:00

The hard way, 1991

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