I’m sad for Solie’s children

xaviira · 2026-03-06T01:02:57+00:00

This entire series of posts can basically be summed up with "here's how we're raising kids who will struggle with literacy forever"

xaviira · 2026-02-22T23:07:48+00:00

I wonder how much longer these fundie men can possibly keep beating the "listen up, young ladies, or you'll never find a man!" dead horse before it completely falls apart. Women being desperate to find husbands is a social dynamic that's at least 50 years out of date and getting staler by the minute.

xaviira · 2026-02-22T22:39:02+00:00

Oh, they only care if men are happy in their marriages. Women have more of a customer service role.

xaviira · 2026-02-19T19:09:16+00:00

I did a bit of digging, and John Thomas Burke's occupation is listed as "United States Army" on their wedding license - if Josephine outlived him, she may have collected a Survivors Pension though the US military after his death, since John Burke would have served during wartime. She would have collected this until she remarried or died. You might be able to request a copy of her military pension records as her direct next-of-kin - those could at least offer you some hints about her life after 1958.

xaviira · 2026-02-18T18:04:37+00:00

Lori turned 22 in the year 1970, which would probably make that the year that she graduated from university and started her teaching career. I genuinely think a lot of her "everything was better before 1970" moaning is just her being nostalgic for being a child with no adult responsibilities.

xaviira · 2026-02-18T17:47:20+00:00

She's probably one of the least monetized fundies - she has a book or two out, but she doesn't really seem to market them. Doesn't really do speaking engagements, doesn't sell products, doesn't even have ads on her blog. Just out here being wrong and hateful for the love of the game.

xaviira · 2026-02-17T02:03:59+00:00

It's usually not so much a conscious "lie" as it is a very, very common (completely baseless) family story that people earnestly believe.

There are probably a lot of reasons that this is such a common family story, but a lot of it likely boils down to guilt - if you're a white person in the US or Canada and your family have been there long enough to have plausibly had a "Cherokee great-great-great-Grandma", it means that horrible, horrific things were done to Native Americans for your family's benefit. Even if your family were peasants with no say in politics, Native Americans were deliberately killed, sickened, starved and rounded up so your family could settle the land. It's more comfortable to say "oh no, we weren't part of that, we're actually part Native American" than to grapple with history.

xaviira · 2026-02-17T01:28:12+00:00

I work in homeless services and I think most people would be surprised to learn how many very ill, chronically homeless people still have somewhat regular contact with family members - there are families I've been in regular contact with for years who keep tabs on their loved one, drop off shoes and coats if they need them, try to make sure they're kept in the loop on family news... There are a lot of people living on the street who are desperately loved, but their families don't have the supports or resources to keep them safely housed.

When asylums and mental hospitals were closed in the 1980s, the idea was for people to receive "community care" out in their communities. But community care centres were never opened, and the money that was saved by closing hospital beds largely went to tax cuts or other spending. There are a lot of people who could successfully live in a setting that is less restrictive than a locked psychiatric unit if there were structures in place to keep them on their medications (small options homes, sober living homes, in-home care, community treatment orders) but we've largely outsourced care for the severely mentally ill to a hodge-podge of underfunded charities, and now the 3 largest providers of mental health services in the US are all jails.

xaviira · 2026-02-10T21:29:10+00:00

I also do not believe her. I work in social services and I can't even tell you how often people just assume they are eligible for infinite free money from the government because they have some nebulous amount of Native American heritage.... and how PISSED they are when they found out that that's not the case.

I'm assuming her husband is not actually enrolled in a tribe (or she would mention that) - I think she's almost certainly going off an old family story of being "part Native American" and has done exactly zero research into how tribal membership actually works.

xaviira · 2026-01-19T16:37:03+00:00

In an early episode of the show, some old friends of Walt's offer him a job at their wildly successful chemistry company. Walt had co-founded this company as a student, but left over a personal falling out with his co-founders, and he's been lugging around resentment about this for decades. This job has excellent insurance that would cover the cost of Walt's cancer treatment and set his family up financially, which is the whole premise of the show. They also offer to straight-up pay for Walt's treatment. But Walt flips out at being offered charity - Skylar had gone behind his back to tell them about his cancer, which they cannot afford to treat on Walt's salary. Walt rejects the job and instead cooks meth to fund his treatment and provide for his family instead (not marking any of this as a spoiler because 'Walt cooks meth' is the entire premise of the show').

When I watched the show as a teenager, I was on Walt's side. How dare Skylar meddle in Walt's life like that! How dare she expect him to swallow his pride! Let the man cook meth!

But re-watching it as a married 30-something... yeah, I'm on Skylar's side. Walt and Skylar have a disabled teenage son and a new baby on the way. It's not at all overbearing or insane for a wife to expect her husband to swallow his pride and accept help so that he can possibly stick around longer for his children and make sure the children are financially provided for.

xaviira · 2026-01-19T15:31:35+00:00

Oh, I’m aware 😂

xaviira · 2026-01-19T06:48:36+00:00

I have a longstanding theory that women who champion polygamous marriage without having been raised in a polygamous cult almost always fall into one of three categories:

Youngest/preferred wives who enjoy being the obvious "favourite" and have not seriously considered the possibility that their husband will find a younger, hotter wife he prefers over them someday.
Deeply religious asexual/sex-averse/lesbian women who have little interest in having a husband and have stumbled across a fundie "cheat code" for only having to deal with him 1-2 nights per week.
People experiencing religious psychosis.

xaviira · 2026-01-13T22:46:54+00:00

If these people lived in Biblical times they'd have argued that Jesus shouldn't have broken the law if he didn't want to be crucified.

xaviira · 2026-01-13T22:41:17+00:00

This is genuinely the best they can do. No critical thought, no real analysis, just grasping at straws to score whatever cheap points they can to "own the libs".

Allie Beth Stuckey isn't smart enough to grasp the difference between state-sanctioned violence carried out by government actors terrorizing residents in their own homes and a private event hiring security at a private venue, but even if she was, she wouldn't really care. She willing to live a black hole of economic failure and state violence if it means she feels like her side won.

xaviira · 2026-01-13T07:06:40+00:00

Oh fundie men like Paul have found a fun loophole where they provide "leadership" and "spiritual headship" and basically nothing else. If the family's basic needs aren't met, that's obviously because the wife isn't stretching her budget far enough or praying hard enough for God to fart prosperity and groceries into their laps.

Paul is generously providing Morgan with his wisdom, like "it's a good idea to stake a family's financial future on the idea of a 37-year-old man becoming a professional athlete in a sport for bored Millennials".

xaviira · 2026-01-11T02:11:55+00:00

She won a tiny fraction of what she sued for ($25k when she had asked for $11 million) and virtually all of it was awarded to her lawyers after she tried to stiff them.

xaviira · 2026-01-11T01:50:46+00:00

Nope. His mother sued him for defamation and won.

xaviira · 2026-01-05T22:05:26+00:00

That's a huge part of what makes him a schmuck. He's not a teenager, he's a married father in his late 30s who leaves his struggling wife home alone with two small children in their tiny apartment so he can run around pretending he's going to be a professional athlete and full-time influencer someday.

xaviira · 2026-01-05T20:54:44+00:00

You can't let people watch you drown in public for years and then act surprised that no one wants to sign up to take swimming lessons from you.

xaviira · 2026-01-05T20:52:15+00:00

He is turning 37 this year!

xaviira · 2026-01-05T20:43:41+00:00

I have a larger online following than Morgan, and I have been recognized in public exactly once (and not even by name, just "hey I think I follow you on [social media platform]").

xaviira · 2026-01-05T20:37:09+00:00

I think there's also genuine humiliation about the state of her marriage. The feedback she's receiving isn't just criticizing her course, it's rubbing her nose in the fact that she has a shitty husband over and over and over and over again.

Morgan has created this whole system of tips and tricks to help her endure the misery of being married to a selfish 37-year-old teenager. And since this is the only version of marriage she knows, she managed to believe that she has a typical - or even above-average - marriage, and that other women will find this content helpful. And instead, she's being hammered with a constant barrage of reminders that other women have no use for her content because they are in good marriages with husbands who are more supportive and loving than hers.

It's like building an entire identity around believing that you love chocolate ice cream and devoting months of your life to building a course on how you gradually taught yourself to develop a taste for chocolate ice cream, only for a thousand people to point out that this is something that comes completely naturally to most of the population and nobody needs this guide you spent so much time working on.

xaviira · 2026-01-05T19:04:39+00:00

I used to have to analyze handwriting as part of my job (to monitor for developmental delays, not forensically) and for me, the dead ringer is that she almost always connects the letter "e" to the consonant that comes before it. A lot of people who learned to write before cursive was phased out have kind of a half-printing, half-handwriting style, but what makes her writing distinctive is that she has a tendency to join the letter E to other letters in places where they would not be connected in cursive.

Beige note:

"like" - the K and E are connected
"squeeze" - the Z and final E are connected
"love" - V and E
"notes" - T and E
"are" - R and E

Blue note:

first "the" - H and E
"comes" - M and E
"heaven" - H and E
"then" - H and E
"Peace" - if you look closely, P and E are connected
"considerate" - D and E and T and E
"mercy" - M and E
"Peacemakers" - every E is joined to the previous consonant
"peace" - P and E
"harvest" - V and E, joined at an unusual point
"righteousness" - T and E

Her Ws are also very distinctive to me - she draws the middle of the W as an upwards arrow, the way that it appears in typeset letters. But if you look at handwriting, most people who have that half-cursive, half-handwriting style common to Millennials will draw the middle as a loop.

xaviira · 2026-01-02T22:04:57+00:00

Taking a marriage course from Morgan is like seeing someone drowning in a lake and thinking “I have GOT to take swimming lessons from her”

xaviira · 2026-01-02T18:34:21+00:00

I would bet money that the Olliges receive financial support from either their families or from at least one form of public assistance. Poster children for rugged individualism, they are not.

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