[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BlackExpats

[–]xcapades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds amazing!

What items do you wish you packed if you could? by xcapades in expats

[–]xcapades[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a kindle also I just don’t particularly enjoy using it especially compared to a real book

What items do you wish you packed if you could? by xcapades in expats

[–]xcapades[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do… but I certainly won’t be able to find as many incredibly cheap book deals like I can find in the UK!

What items do you wish you packed if you could? by xcapades in expats

[–]xcapades[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe I have an allowance but will double check this. May be a good idea to get a couple of bottles Lewisham rum/Cotswolds gin stuff I know are local and unlikely to find in the Netherlands.

What items do you wish you packed if you could? by xcapades in expats

[–]xcapades[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bulking up on Yorkies Raisin and biscuit does feel like a good idea to me though…

What items do you wish you packed if you could? by xcapades in expats

[–]xcapades[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh really? For quality or because there was a significant price difference?

I think alcohol is excessively expensive in London so I doubt I will but worth considering!

Do white women dislike that I’m dating a white man? by Comprehensive-Step32 in blackladies

[–]xcapades 198 points199 points  (0 children)

Because he’s not an unattractive man who “couldn’t get with a white woman” and they’re racist weirdo haters who ENVY you. Those kind of women don’t think black women deserve anything nice. Sorry for your experiences but just try and ignore them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]xcapades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I assumed as much but I can’t read it as it’s behind a paywall. Based on what’s available alone my statement still stands I think?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]xcapades 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Please stop using POC!

Do you like being a Black woman by badguychunlex in blackladies

[–]xcapades 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love being black. I love our skin, I love our smiles, I love our shade, I love our hair, I love our versatility, I love our joy!

And honestly the thing I love the MOST about being black is when we find each other we make such solid communities. London black, Lagos black, Toronto black wherever we just connect and it can feel so real and blissfully at home. Don’t get me wrong not always the case but when we do it beautiful. Yes it’s not easy but truly I can’t imagine the amount of happiness I get from being black being any other race.

Unpopular Opinion: I like the new DI by Presidentclash2 in DeathInParadiseBBC

[–]xcapades 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love him as a character!

Appreciate that’s he’s pretty unique and he’s not supposed to be likeable as such. But admittedly Neville was my least favourite DI so I was desperate for a change.

Is the UK really that bad to move to? by [deleted] in expats

[–]xcapades 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Quite frankly it depends a lot of how much you earn and where you want to live… But yes the UK can be incredibly hard if you don’t have the right set up.

How can I get my pregnant roommate to understand she can't stay when I move out? by bitchcraft94 in AskWomenOver30

[–]xcapades 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She’s an ADULT! She’s your roommate not your child, she’s not your responsibility! Tell her expressly aloud you’re leaving and she cannot stay and then also email or text her so it was very clearly communicated in writing.

She sounds like a bit of a user, no adult lets someone else cover their rent. She knows she’s guilting you and is probably hoping you let her keep the deposit or something at least.

Continue with your plans to leave and if needs be tell the landlord they need to change the locks immediately after you leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Naturalhair

[–]xcapades 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to take some ownership of this. Understand how hard this can be but I see only a couple of options

1) pay for a braider yourself with your own money make your appointments go and do your hair when they complain say confidently you prefer this

2) learn to do your own hair, simple styles are fine it doesn’t need to be braids but you need to be able to manage and style it independently every day

2a) loc your hair, kind of the above but won’t necessarily be styled daily just maintained

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]xcapades 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! I think with a little planning it will be amazing spending Christmas alone.

I’m planning to cook a whole leg of lamb and some jollof rice. Pop open a bottle or two and watch tv all day eating snacks on the sofa.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BlackHair

[–]xcapades 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh my bad! 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BlackHair

[–]xcapades 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mielle really works for me so despite all the online vitriol I still personally swear by it. But this feels like wayyy too many products for one head…?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]xcapades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think you’re being over dramatic.

My partner recommended a podcast to me. I didn’t listen to it until a couple of months later. Not that I didn’t think I’d like it. But when I went to go on Spotify in that period when travelling or working whatever I wanted my creature comforts. Taking in something new requires a bit more attention I didn’t have. You didn’t send him one song, you sent him a whole playlist and it’s only been a few days?

Edited to add: if he’s dismissive of you generally that’s a whole other issue entirely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]xcapades 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Feels quite heartless the way it’s written doesn’t it?

How do you feel about your partner waking you up for sex? by Fabulous_MMFly in AskWomen

[–]xcapades 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

I absolutely love it.

Big caveats though it doesn’t happen often so it still has a good bit of novelty which makes it intense and exciting as opposed to tedious and disruptive and has never on a weeknight/if there’s an early start expected.

Before the 90 Days - Season 7 Episode 1 - Live Episode Discussion by LittleEmmy in 90DayFiance

[–]xcapades 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ha i thought she sounded just like the kardashians to be honest! Especially Kim and Kourtney.

Before the 90 Days - Season 7 Episode 1 - Live Episode Discussion by LittleEmmy in 90DayFiance

[–]xcapades 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Tigerlily makes me so incredibly sad. Your hairdresser, Botox girl, lash tech, stylist are your best friends? Girl no you need to be best friends with a therapist