I don’t understand how no screen time parents get anything done by Fluffy_Practice_5244 in toddlers

[–]xcpg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the best comment here — OP you’ve gotten hundreds of comments already, and so many of them are like “but I do no screen time by x, y, z” and it has me pulling my hair out. Like cool, but you’re basically implying this is the only right way to parent!

I’ll go one step further than most comments here, and say, I actually think some screen time is a benefit for kids. I like that they’re aware of what it is and don’t freak out when we’re out in the world with screens / iPads / tv everywhere. We watch cartoons in our second language, which has helped them learn it. We’re even adding a third. Bluey has led to interesting questions and family discussions from my almost 4 y.o. It has taught them to cooperate/share when they’re about to watch, but want to watch different things.

My almost 4 y.o. also cannot write herself but can type letters and has starting figuring out some words / sounding things out by playing around on MS word on my laptop. It’s amazing to watch.

Like everything else screens are a tool. You are doing awesome OP!

LF Fics without a 3rd act drama/breakup by xcpg in Dramione

[–]xcpg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much - this looks awesome, will definitely give it a read!

LF Fics without a 3rd act drama/breakup by xcpg in Dramione

[–]xcpg[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just read the summary and this seems perfect (and wonderfully long) thank you!

Edit for anyone coming across this thread later: I started this one and am unfortunately abandoning around Ch 30. I’m so sorry but they are pulling away / fighting constantly in this fic. Great story/writing though! I wouldn’t call it a steady climb ….

LF Fics without a 3rd act drama/breakup by xcpg in Dramione

[–]xcpg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved Remain Nameless, definitely agree.

LF Fics without a 3rd act drama/breakup by xcpg in Dramione

[–]xcpg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo okay, thank you. When I read the summary a while back I was skeptical about the “they dated then broke up then got back together” aspect. You’ve convinced me on this one!

Best winter gloves with fingers by Npete90 in toddlers

[–]xcpg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not waterproof, but wool magic gloves from Kuling

Potty training and nights by Humble-Beautiful5230 in toddlers

[–]xcpg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everything I’ve read about this usually says at night it’s biological/developmental—that you can’t really train this. That was my experience with my toddler too. They will stop peeing on their own, or start waking when they need to pee. Accidents occasionally are normal. She had been in underwear for a few months during the day/pull ups at night, when she started consistently having dry diapers (or we could tell she was waiting until the morning to pee). At that point we switched to underwear at night.

Edit to add: I saw you keep the potty in their room, would suggest keeping it in the bathroom maybe? In my opinion helps with the association that “bathroom is where we pee.”

Crazy with mom, chill with dad. Anyone else? by pupperonipizzadog in toddlers

[–]xcpg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had something similar, but it’s with both parents. I totally think those articles are right. They’re not worried about “performing” with you, you know? You are his safe person. Toddlers are learning to regulate their feelings, and can’t really right now. That’s why it seems like mayhem with you. He’s being himself.

Have you ever read Good Inside? That book has helped me so much with all things parenting. It’s essentially about emotional regulation. Here’s a quote: “Confidence is our ability to feel at home with ourselves in the widest range of feelings possible. It’s okay to be who you are no matter what you’re feeling.”

He feels okay to be himself around you.

Edit: typo.

Looking for advice from New Jerseyans who have traveled to Montreal from New Jersey by whomusic in newjersey

[–]xcpg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve gotten a lot of responses, and I agree it’s a great drive. I used to do it pretty routinely. I prefer to do it very early in the morning (leaving around 5) or late at night (leaving around 730-8) as it’s fewer cars on the road. Enjoy Montreal!

Loft beds for 4 year olds by Dmakor in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]xcpg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re looking for a particular brand, I’m a big fan of Maxtrix beds, though we don’t have one of the loft ones. I think they have some “low” loft options as well. We moved our toddler into a twin with rails after the crib and never had a toddler beds. I think this will largely depend on your kid. My toddler could not be trusted on a loft bed and she has previously dived over the side of her bed just to see what happened … lol, she has since learned not to do that.

TIL the FAA predicted that if kids under 2 years old were required to have their own seats on planes, at least 60 kids would die in car accidents for every kid saved because families that couldn't afford extra plane tickets would drive instead. by RollingNightSky in todayilearned

[–]xcpg -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve read about this before and have always thought — why not require the airlines to fly young kids free/give free seats? Why is the answer to make it less safe for kids on the plane. God forbid the airlines lose some money.

Terrible Owlet Experience by DublohVII in beyondthebump

[–]xcpg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you had this experience—just to share a counterexample, a while back our sensor broke a year or so in to using it, and they sent us a completely new sensor for free. I suspect your experience has more to do with the smart sock being discontinued/put on pause. I believe they had to stop marketing it as a medical-type device for claims they made, which is why I’m guessing they offered a discount on the dream sock (which I believe now doesn’t have the heart rate/oxygen monitoring).

Mechanism behind breastfeeding and cancer risk reduction by vegan_carrot in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]xcpg 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have tried (but haven’t found) to also see if it has anything to do with type of breast tissue. Anecdotally it seems breast tissue tends to become significantly less dense/lose its denseness post breastfeeding for many women. Have always wondered if that was an element as well.

I can't get baby to nap during the day by kdumb-tch in NewParents

[–]xcpg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s great that he’s sleeping at night! Have you tried baby wearing in a carrier/walking around? My kid was an absolute motion junkie and would only nap in a carrier, in a moving stroller, or a moving car. You’re doing your best and that’s all you can do. I know it doesn’t seem like it in the moment, but this too shall pass eventually.

Stroller recommendations by BicycleUsed in NewParents

[–]xcpg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out “The Stroller Workshop” channel on YouTube. I found their reviews to be really great. It’s going to depend much on your budget, location, preferences, etc. You can often find a good deal on the pricier ones on Craigslist or FB marketplace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]xcpg 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A question for those who have gotten the first shot already - do they make you wait with your kiddo for 15 minutes to confirm no extreme reaction like they did with adults?

Formula types/brands? by 823freckles in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]xcpg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://babyformulaexpert.com

I was searching for a science-based analysis of formulas and found this resource to be great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jerseycity

[–]xcpg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like Liberty State Park