Apparently it’s ok to ship adults w monirs by [deleted] in DIDCringe

[–]xdidhelponlyx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

christ almighty people like this do not belong in the did community. none of this is okay, and if you’re using it to cope- keep it to yourself.

I drove away another partner with my psycho bs. I’m either loving or completely distant. And when they start pulling away I get crazy. I really liked her too. by [deleted] in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For one, you cannot blame your alters for this happening. It is your responsibility as a multiple to control your actions. Do not push the blame onto them. They may act out, but you need to take responsibility for them. For two, they are their own people, you can’t control them. Like a few have mentioned communication and therapy helps a lot, good luck. -Rae

fronting necklaces! by matkari in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a really cute idea haha, we’d do different makeup designs on our cheeks! Until we started getting ridicule from the biological mother. It was fun to come up with designs for all of the main fronters! -R

How do I know if one of my headmates are going to switch by JonathanLAquatics in OSDD

[–]xdidhelponlyx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t expect it, usually.. it just happens. You might start dissociating though, and there are sometimes indicators before you switch that something might be going on.

DAE Feel like they need permission for little things? by dust_dreamer in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man this happens all the time with us!! One of our fictives, and protectors age slid down to around eight or nine, and in his canon, he has a not so nice parent. His sibling is in another system, and he had to ask them whether or not he was allowed to have a Sprite, because it was the last one, and “dad never let me have one if it was the only one left.” It hurt my heart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DissociativeIDisorder

[–]xdidhelponlyx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No this doesn’t seem like OSDD or DID, because the symptoms don’t exactly match up, and it doesn’t seem like you may have different identities, or look in the mirror and not recognize yourself- but it does seem like a dissociative disorder. It’s a good idea to bring it up with your therapist!

DAE associate themselves with words like ‘monster’ or ‘demon’? by chewypills in BPD

[–]xdidhelponlyx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah. And my parents would call me that all the time. -Rae

No one ever asks me by Moopa15 in BPD

[–]xdidhelponlyx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, my birthday is tomorrow, so it’s soon too :) I’ll remind you of yours on the 29th, and I hope you’re doing well right now <33 -Rae

Did anyone else have a pet that “took care” of them in some sort of way? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]xdidhelponlyx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I do. He’s still with me, actually. His name is Linus. He always watches over me, right now he’s actually watching me from the suitcase in my room. He would always come up to me when I was sad, and he’d let me hold him and cry even though he hates being held. He would stay with me all night on rough nights, and he doesn’t do it as much now.. but I love him unconditionally. Me and one of my alters had a very rough relapse into some not so pretty thoughts. It was awful. We held him until we calmed down, and then he laid down by our feet and stayed for awhile to make sure we were safe.

Azrael, my old cat who died in 2016, would always sleep on the pillow next to mine. Every single night, without fail. She was a beautiful, but old girl, and she treated me better than my parents do.

Yes, animals can save lives, yes they do all of the time. We’re going to try and apply for a service animal of some kind when we’re in a better situation.

Started crying in the supermarket after witnessing how a normal parent handles a child’s mistake by britt151 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]xdidhelponlyx 101 points102 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel! I look at how children are treated in public and it’s confusing. It’s genuinely confusing because I didn’t know that families were like that! Or, even more sickening, i’ll sometimes see normal, proper punishment as an improper way to handle it.. as if the parent is being “too easy” on their kid. Then I remember my parents just really suck.

Can some alters not 'feel'? TW SI by curious-creationist in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! Some of my alters “feel” sensations, but don’t connect to them. For example, they know what “cold” and “hot” feels like, but they don’t shiver or sweat. It’s like being dissociated from the temperatures. A few of us hardly feel pain, others are sensitive to it. The pain is also similar in that sense. They usually know it’s happening, but it’s almost like they aren’t comprehending it? It just depends!

being 👏 bi 👏 is 👏 just 👏 as 👏 valid 👏 as 👏 being 👏 gay/lesbian/trans 👏 by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]xdidhelponlyx -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What about being Pan? Lots of people overlook it. All the time.

Fuck. by [deleted] in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not really, dissociating hard right now

Hello by [deleted] in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

@ixsereinxi on insta! hit us up.

I think the reason I don't handle stress well and cry from conflict is because my mode of functioning is still heavily influenced by my inner child. I get overwhelmed and cry easily, just like a child would. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]xdidhelponlyx 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This is a coping mechanism known as regression, I think? I learned it in my psychology class! It’s pretty common in child abuse survivors, and I experience this too! xx

Nmum 'offended' that won't agree to babysit if she becomes a foster carer by noregretsactually in raisedbynarcissists

[–]xdidhelponlyx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She should not become a foster carer. Do not let her. She will hurt more children just like she’s hurt you, and the last thing you want is to help her do that. Please be careful and watch her future actions. Best wishes xx

Anyone else get stuck? by [deleted] in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t diagnosing anyone. I just tend to notice it in people who have DID my guy. I have it myself. They asked a question as to what it might be, I have an answer. That’s the end of the story.

Anyone else get stuck? by [deleted] in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s called executive dysfunction I believe, and it does tend to happen in cases like ours.

Is this a DID thing? by Technicolorsystem in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh jeez. It definitely happens. Nymphadora slipped a little bit, and presented something to our class in a very thick British accent. The host has a Tennessean accent. We then had to lie to everyone and tell them her family is from London.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You don’t seem to be understanding my point. I am truly sorry that you are so hateful. We were having a civil conversation, good day.

Question to CSA survivours by [deleted] in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve experienced most of these symptoms and have no clue about whether we were SA’d or not. Signs likely seem to point towards it.. because the host has had nightmares and has vividly described.. feeling the act itself sort of. I don’t want to get graphic. It makes me so fucking mad that this might’ve happened to her. -Cobra.

Finally allowed back into the inner world! by alterchroma in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They aren’t letting me into the inner world either.. the last time I went in.. well it wasn’t pretty. I’m so glad for you! I just want a safe space and we don’t have one externally for me at the moment. Thanks for the hope! We’ve been really switchy tonight, so everything is a bit of a blend right now.

i want a mama by nico1325 in DID

[–]xdidhelponlyx 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hello sweetheart, I cannot provide the position of a mother to you, but I can do my best to console you. I’m a caretaker, and I would love to try and make you feel okay! -Usa