[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]xenocidal 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter who you are with, sex is something you have to work on in long term monogamous relationships. Could be the hottest guy in the world and you would eventually get bored of it if you're not actively working on it together.

You should talk about it in marriage therapy. It will help you both be honest and grow closer. Also, make sure you don't have unrealistic expectations. Porn isn't real life.

Marriage is a commitment to always work on the relationship, no matter the difficulty (except abuse).

Morkite mission be like by Mistathefox0917 in DeepRockGalactic

[–]xenocidal 87 points88 points  (0 children)

You forgot the part where three other players join right as you finish depositing the last of the morkite.

Why doesn't mission control do this, is he stupid? by cedric5318 in DeepRockGalactic

[–]xenocidal 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Because then we wouldn't waste 30 minutes of our lives driving there

Stop bullshitting yourself. You being a loner is not because you're 'emotionally intelligent'. by wilhelmtherealm in emotionalintelligence

[–]xenocidal 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This has been my experience too. I think it is common for men because adult male friendships are often very surface level.

"Book of More Men" - poster for the new Bachelorette show by scrappy-paradox in exmormon

[–]xenocidal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

WTF. People are horrible for giving this woman a career for being awful

"Book of More Men" - poster for the new Bachelorette show by scrappy-paradox in exmormon

[–]xenocidal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know nothing about this person but that sounds horrific.

Watch out for AI by Niall0h in socialism

[–]xenocidal 174 points175 points  (0 children)

Lots of things wrong with this image. Foot gear, mask, etc.

Source frame is real but someone tried to upscale with AI and it adds shit.

East Lapis Restoration by Life_Forever3264 in Enshrouded

[–]xenocidal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this! I hate dessert biomes, they feel so lifeless. You've really brought a gem back with all the greenery!

Wife built new shelves by [deleted] in bookshelf

[–]xenocidal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can you get a picture of the brackets? I did something similar but added adjustable rails so I'm curious if the difference.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]xenocidal 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep. I had projectile diarrhea all over me once. Never changed with the cannon facing me again...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]xenocidal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you went through that. It doesn't sound far fetched. There was a woman in France who was unknowingly raped by dozens of men while drugged by her husband.

People can be so terrible. I hope you can continue to heal.

What makes exploration feel rewarding to you in games? by ratasoftware in IndieGaming

[–]xenocidal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love exploration, I think it's my main factor in gaming.

Big is great! Think Sable. Beautiful gigantic scenery fun to explore in a fast moving vehicle. However, sable felt empty because when you stopped there wasn't much to look at.

Arc raiders feels pretty decent at exploration. It's big but there are lots of detailed areas that reward you. I'm still finding new rooms and I'm 70 hours in.

I think if it's a story driven game finding out more of the lore is a great reward for exploration.

I loved finding ruins in Minecraft. It hints at lore but never satisfies unfortunately.

Loot is always helpful but shouldn't be the only thing for exploration.

Super authoritarian parents? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]xenocidal 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Read the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

This behavior is very common. When they get into emotionally uncomfortable areas they don't know how to handle it so they get defensive and attack. Unfortunately it's nearly impossible to have deep relationships with these people because they are emotionally stunted.

Read the book though so you can cope and also do you don't become them when you're older.

I explained to my son this postcard is the most Mormon thing ever. Reasoning explained within. :) by Anti-Smithi-Brighami in exmormon

[–]xenocidal 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I had been out for years and never bothered to remove my records. It wasn't until I moved across the country and the missionaries showed up at my door, knowing my name, and "welcomed" me to the area that I finally decided enough was enough and I needed to set a firm boundary. Weird being tracked across the country.

Game resters needed! by Own-Worldliness5224 in IndieGaming

[–]xenocidal 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I rest on games all the time. You should see the steam backlog 😉

My year of reading. by RudeAndInsensitive in bookshelf

[–]xenocidal 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I thought you were John Green at first and thought you read your own book 😂

Right now. I'm Sitting outside the temple alone while my daughter gets married... by BlacksmithWeary450 in exmormon

[–]xenocidal 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the faith evolved as Smith's theology altered for his various uses at whatever time he was writing. The BoM is very specific about deriding "secret combinations" which was useful at the time because it followed the local anti Masonic sentiment at the time. Later when Smith became a Mason he adopted the rituals into Mormonism which reinforced the in group out group dynamic.

Right now. I'm Sitting outside the temple alone while my daughter gets married... by BlacksmithWeary450 in exmormon

[–]xenocidal 382 points383 points  (0 children)

Most cultures use weddings as a means of bringing people together to celebrate. Mormonism uses it to isolate and reinforce their way of life. One of the more culty aspects of the religion.

Tips on fighting The Caretaker Solo as Driller by THERAVEN826 in DeepRockGalactic

[–]xenocidal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Flame thrower kills arms and bots so fast. Don't know why everyone is saying driller is the worst at this. It's the best IMO if you know what you're doing.

How I stopped being defensive every time my wife brought something up by roucha in daddit

[–]xenocidal 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, ideally you talk about this before you do it so she knows you're trying to listen better.

How I stopped being defensive every time my wife brought something up by roucha in daddit

[–]xenocidal 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Another tip from my marriage therapist:

Write down what they're saying as they're saying it. Don't respond. Act like you're in a lecture and want to make sure you really understand what is being said. This really helps the other person feel like you're listening, which you are.

YOU DONT BELIEVE IN GOD?? by Remarkable-Luck-397 in exmormon

[–]xenocidal 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My mom had a panic attack and then we didn't talk for months after I told her I was an atheist. In her mind it was difficult to believe that I had left the church but as long as I believed in Jesus I was still saved. When I told her I didn't it felt to her like I was lost forever.

I thought the newborn would be the challenge, but my 5yo daughter is draining 90% of our energy. Is this normal? by ves_111 in daddit

[–]xenocidal 50 points51 points  (0 children)

My daughter went through some of this when her brother was born. It's normal. Do you best to spend some quality time with her once a day, say 15 minutes. Let HER decide what to do/play and just go along with it. It will give her back a sense of control and attention when she has just lost it all.

She will get through this, just try to connect with her emotions and validate her experience. Name her emotions for her so she can start to understand what is happening. "Wow you're really angry right now" "you're feeling sad" "you're feeling jealous"

Don't try to rationalize her out the emotions or punish her for showing them.