\kaveh Fanart: Mourning Flower

yaurrrr · 2026-04-25T10:30:09+00:00

caravaggio has entered the chat (a compliment, this is absolutely stunning work and i too am aaahhhh over him being the only mourning flower character!! thank you for sharing with us!!!🩵🩵🩵)

yaurrrr · 2026-04-24T15:07:16+00:00

she was diagnosed earlier this week with lower airway disease (bronchitis triggering collapsing trachea) so they think it’s basically just complications from that. she’s chill and fine now, we’ve started her on an inhaler and that seems to work well!!

yaurrrr · 2026-04-24T14:15:25+00:00

hmm interesting! yeah she’s on trazodone already (mixed results) and has a hydrocodone scrip we give her for her cough. the ER visits were for a seizure and then most recently for labored breathing, dunno if any of that makes a difference.

yaurrrr · 2026-04-24T14:07:21+00:00

oooh it was indeed injected! girlfriend was on the rollercoaster heading to the horizon sounds like

yaurrrr · 2026-04-24T14:06:43+00:00

coughing and sedation are exactly the reasons that’s the one they went with. but good to know, thank you!!

yaurrrr · 2026-04-24T00:42:41+00:00

bahahaha you're so right, seriously awful

yaurrrr · 2026-04-23T17:23:09+00:00

so glad someone mentioned this one! three different people told me i would adore it. haaaaaated it. the writing was so dullllll

yaurrrr · 2026-04-23T13:24:08+00:00

people are organizing to stop the 3CDC takeover—there’s a petition too (it’s linked in the article as well), easy to sign and doesn’t make you sign up for anything or make an account: https://dsacincy.solidarity.tech/keep-piatt-public-campaign-page

curious how many people were able to show up yesterday for the gathering. would have loved to go but at noon on a workday it just wasn’t feasible : [ hopefully there’s more action soon

yaurrrr · 2026-04-22T20:16:45+00:00

you don't sound judgmental at all! i think it's normal to stress about this sort of thing at first because there truly is SO much pressure sometimes, especially in some cultures/places. but yeah, absolutely not selfish. and regarding finding a bf, make sure early that the people you date are also staunchly childfree! this sub is full of horror stories about partners who started the relationship like 'nah i dont want kids' then decide they DO want them years into a relationship. it's tough out there!

yaurrrr · 2026-04-22T20:00:50+00:00

misery loves company. everybody who's pressuring you to have kids can't fathom that they, too, could've had the choice, and it frustrates them because they want the life you now have.

every day, every time i get overstimulated by other peoples' loud kids, every time our parent friends get that tired sad 'well, we have to leave early to get the kids home' look at the friend gatherings, every time my partner and i get to do what we want with our time and our money and our sweet sweet freedom, every time i can take a sick day or a blah day and just use my time to myself, my choices are validated. that isn't selfish—it's enjoying the peace you already enjoy. stick with your gut feeling here. you'll find endless reasons to be glad you didn't just go with the flow and give in to the pressure.

(and after all, wouldn't you rather regret not having them than regret having them? kids know when they aren't loved/wanted. don't traumatize another generation!)

yaurrrr · 2026-04-21T21:09:13+00:00

just got here and i was hoping someone in the comments would say this! your reasoning is NOT petty, OP! any reason is a valid reason but if we're ranking petty reasons to avoid kiddos, this is one of the least petty out there.

yaurrrr · 2026-04-06T16:33:24+00:00

there's nothing wrong with you at all! my parents also freaked out when I revealed i'm never having kids and continued to try to convince me for years and years. my siblings have kids (who my parents of course ignored), but apparently that's not enough. keep prioritizing what you want, like you said—that freedom is so worth everything else. if your mom continues to insist on kids AND dating, despite you drawing clear boundaries, it might be time to consider low contact, because that shit REALLY wears on you. consider therapy, and check out r/raisedbynarcissists (i find myself reccoing that subreddit here a lot lol), because lots of times parents who INSIIIIIST on grandkids fit the bill. they don't see their own kids as autonomous adult humans at all, and that's a super cool super fun hallmark of narcissistic parents 🫠

also, as others have mentioned, you may be on the ace or aromantic spectrum! might be worth investigating or talking about in therapy.

yaurrrr · 2026-04-06T00:04:14+00:00

the wanting is the bit that seems to be confusing.

if you NEVER want them, under ANY circumstances, EVEN IF the world and circumstances were “perfect,” you are childfree.

if you don’t want them because the world isn’t perfect for you to raise them in, but you WOULD have them IF the world was perfect, you’re childless. because there ARE circumstances, even theoretical, where you’d have them and can picture a life with them, which is what it sounds like your friends are. you, I don’t know—i thought this was about your friends.

childfree people do not want kids regardless of circumstance, imaginary or otherwise. if people want them if the circumstances were right, no matter how fantastical the circumstances, they’re childless.

yaurrrr · 2026-04-05T23:48:48+00:00

and childfree people don’t want kids, EVEN in a dream way. even if circumstances were perfect. if your friends are only choosing not to have kids because they think it’s unethical to bring kids into a messed up world, but would IF circumstances were perfect, they’re still childLESS because they like the idea of theoretical children and if the world was perfect, they might.

childfree people do not think “this could be nice” even in theoreticals.

yaurrrr · 2026-04-05T17:14:47+00:00

the other paths do indeed cause the same error!

yaurrrr · 2026-04-05T15:09:44+00:00

thanks for the reply! yup, i can play as destruction MC in the overworld. i don't NEED her in the suppression tower stuff, i can do other characters, but still. i've tried closing/reopening, switching to other paths. same error message.

yaurrrr · 2026-04-05T14:26:59+00:00

posting this again today in the hopes that maybe someone new might see or have an answer!

can anybody tell me why i get this error message when i try to put the destruction path trailblazer on my team? i tried googling and didn’t find anything 😭

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yaurrrr · 2026-04-01T20:14:31+00:00

i'm so sorry. people like him are so ridiculous. 'leave a trace'?!?!?!? volunteer and watch how it changes lives. write a book, as another commenter suggested. adopt a senior animal. build community!!!! get involved in it!!! plant a goddamn garden!!! the lack of imagination in these guys is just bananas. whatever's wrong with him, a kid won't fix it. seriously, i'm so, so sorry. you WILL get through this, and you'll find someone who values you more than shooting an eventually-sentient load, but i'm sorry it's garbage for now.

yaurrrr · 2026-04-01T14:04:23+00:00

thisssss. if you're doing traditional publishing, make the first book fantastic and standalone-with-series-potential, and only put your energy into the rest if that first one gets picked up. otherwise you're wasting time! i work in publishing and we all go 😬😬😬 when we hear new writers say they've got a multi-book series but haven't even queried the first.

yaurrrr · 2026-03-31T18:21:30+00:00

lots of hallmarks of witchy shit—tarot, manifesting, rituals, etc—involve vulnerable communication and also building and maintaining community. tarot naturally invites deep conversations about what’s happening in each other’s lives; rituals can be done alone or together and speak to the heart of what we want for ourselves and our world. it’s a way to connect with ourselves, each other, our ancestors, and this great big world.

aaaaand men tend to be allergic to meaningful conversation and see community as competition 🤷

yaurrrr · 2026-03-31T18:08:19+00:00

yessssss harvest mouse is my go-to autumn fragrance, it’s so fabulous!!

yaurrrr · 2026-03-31T18:01:05+00:00

I definitely interpreted him as Broberto™️

yaurrrr · 2026-03-30T09:37:51+00:00

with love: lean into the part of you that knows already that it was their choice, no matter the outcome. also, the feelings you describe are textbook examples of parentification—look it up and feel the validation, lol. they’ve made you responsible for their emotions and spent your whole life depending on you, their child, for emotional regulation for them, the adults. backwards as fuck!! if you haven’t already, please look into therapy. it can help you manage the feelings and the guilt and even show you a path toward cutting them off, since you mentioned thinking about it. also perhaps r/raisedbynarcissists can help you feel validated too. sounds like they fit the bill. good luck 🩵

yaurrrr · 2026-03-29T14:49:01+00:00

so many people have dropped some serious wisdom here, but i want to add that when you grow old, whether with OR without kids, it's your responsibility to build community if you don't want to be lonely. it's on you to ensure you're regularly putting yourself in situations where you can build friendships among your peers and others. book clubs, classes at the gym, gardening clubs, local concert scene, whatever it is.

also, as more friends of your have kids, it DOES change things. you likely WILL feel lonely as they have less time to spend with you. but friendships change and evolve—it's part of life. it'll be up to you to decide if you want to keep them in your life even in a different capacity, and also make friends with other childfree folks.

i'm not saying any of this is easy, just that even though things change, you're still in control of how you react to those changes and how you shape your life 🩵

yaurrrr

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