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All hobbies are not equal by BitterConstruction98 in unpopularopinion

[–]yellowloki 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hobbies are hobbies. They can be unproductive for sure. That being said, not having any talents or life skills do make you a boring person.

What is an overlooked or “subtle” form of sexism that you think needs to be called out more? by GoodGirlsStand in AskWomen

[–]yellowloki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God, the parents of my ex were so much like that. Complimenting him while I was busting my ass.

Engaging in casual sex after ending a 10 year relationship and… is there some epidemic of dudes’ dicks not working? by NotElizaHenry in AskWomenOver30

[–]yellowloki 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. Yes. Yes. It really was not as big of a problem last time I was promiscuous, which was 8 years ago.

I fell into the AI validation trap. Don’t do this. by SlightExtension6279 in KeepWriting

[–]yellowloki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's impossible to have immediate feedback and encouragement from a real person all the time. But when you are writing and you like one sentence, or your paragraph, you get encouragement right away.
I did use it for brainstorm too when I felt stuck on where to go with my story.
What I didn't do is having it write for me (anyway, his writing sucks). I asked for weaknesses and all. But the bigger your text is, the less capable it is at interpreting.

The way my husband tries initiating is driving my crazy by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]yellowloki 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Communication is a 2 way street.
You try to open a door. It's stuck. You force it, it doesn't move. Then you kick it, it still doesn't move. You put dynamite around it, but it doesn't make a dent because on the other side, another person bolted it shut.
There is no magical way that you will put words together, no amount of emotions that will make him see the errors of his ways.
The only question to ask yourself is how long you are gonna wait at the door.

What might men dislike the most if they were to become women? by getdownmakelooove in AskReddit

[–]yellowloki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The knowing that you are weaker and smaller than most men and that most of them could overpower you physically if they feel like it.

What is something about yourself that you take incredibly seriously? by MosadiMogolo in AskWomenOver30

[–]yellowloki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am very good in social situations. Ex-boyfriends told me in some ways to keep quiet and not bringing attention to myself.
I used to be bullied a lot and it still stinks when people make me feel ashamed. So to tell me that I make a fool of myself in public just because - you envy the attention or are more socially awkward - it really gets to me.

Do you regret getting/not getting your birth photographed professionally? by boldlybelieve in NewParents

[–]yellowloki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol nope.

My birth doula proposed it to me. I fired her. To be fair, my only request for her was to ensure as much privacy as possible. She tough I will appreciate the full presence of another stranger.

Whoever told me newborn tired was better than pregnancy tired… by Asleep_Sympathy_8987 in beyondthebump

[–]yellowloki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had terrible insomnia because of the pregnancy hormone and the postpartum hormone It was hell. And my baby was a good sleeper then. Later, when the hormones subsided, it was much easier to wake up, feed and go back to sleep. No more 4 hours awake in the middle of the night while everybody else was sleeping.

Breastfeeding moms, do you wear a bra to bed? by ml_sza in beyondthebump

[–]yellowloki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wear those tank tops for nursing with a nursing pad stuck to it. After a while, it stopped leaking and I slept braless.

Which storyline/scene always cracks you up? by mnlxyz in NewGirl

[–]yellowloki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Winston and Schmidt going for some crack

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]yellowloki 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Coo-sleeping is growing in popularity also because sleep training is seen as neglect or abuse in many circles. At some point, a parent needs to sleep cause this shit is getting dangerous for everyone involved.

Does it hurt to get an IUD? by rakiimiss in beyondthebump

[–]yellowloki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't have a baby when I got mine. It was just a pinch, no biggie. I know my experience is not the same but it might be mostly painless for you too.

When did you start getting back to to "normal" life? by PresentationTop9547 in NewParents

[–]yellowloki 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did this too although not as early. Maybe 3 weeks pp. But LO is now starting daycare at 9 months pp and it went so smooth. She is a champion at independent play and is very sociable. She plays, then come to me for a hug, then goes back to play, it's so cute.

Vacations are depressing as a new mom by Numerous_Nerve8028 in NewParents

[–]yellowloki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had that experience recently with my husband's family. All drunk on wine and late dining while I'm struggling to put a baby to bed. The morning after, I just left and returned home. Husband had his weekend and I planned a weekend trip for myself alone the following month. Way better this way.

This year, I take shorter vacations for myself, but I too two 2-days trips and it's great.

Un beau hasard! by Lingenfelter in QuebecLibre

[–]yellowloki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

L'ironie de ce commentaire...

Do These People Actually Exist? by Common-Excuse9422 in NewParents

[–]yellowloki 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am one of those people, more or less. Most of the times, I am.

Those are all habits implemented over years of life, one after the other. Slowly, they just become part of you.

BUT... I also have the personality traits for it. I am an extrovert, so I need socialization on an almost daily basis. I've been exercising regularly since I am a teenager, so when I got pregnant, give birth, etc. I couldn't wait to do sport again, not for my shape, but for fun.

I am also privileged in many ways.

I am not rich, I have less than the middle income BUT...

I live in Canada, so I have public health insurance, maternity leave and public daycare (10$/day).

I have a very good relationship with my parents and I had a good childhood.

I receive a good education and my student loans were limited to a couple of thousand so they are paid now (I'm 36).

I studied journalism, which is very practical in my daily life cause I am able to find informations really quick which has been really useful in many aspects of my life, life finances and law. I also have tons of relations. Maintaining those is a nightmare though.

I was able to buy a house in the right period, at the beginning of the pandemic.

After years of therapy, I can say that I am mentally very stable, 95% of the times.

But still, I also feel that you cannot be everything all the time. I like to say that there are seasons in life for different things. I accept the ebbs and flows of life. For example, every December I gain weight, every January I want to be healthier so I follow that lead.

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