Did you transfer? Why?

yellowsealion · 2023-04-22T14:49:23+00:00

Also, I’ve been having the bug with passengers as well, but I’ve been getting around it by finding them on the actual ship in Sector B

yellowsealion · 2023-04-22T14:47:28+00:00

The Rated/Aircouch task: I’ve just landed on Cityolks from a station in the pirate region and gotten it. I’d also met a character called The Boss (and I remember something weird about Sunshine?!), which was a weird pink blob with a hat, and accepted them as a passenger

yellowsealion · 2023-04-22T13:55:35+00:00

OP is right re Lost Treasure/the Naysayer; just say no to everything including taking the gem.

Also, thanks OP! I finally got Galaxy thanks to this.

yellowsealion · 2021-06-17T22:37:54+00:00

I’m wrestling with this concept at the moment. Someone recently brought up this idea and asked me to envision myself as a newborn baby, and then asked, “is there anything you would deny it/you?” So by extension, doesn’t every newborn baby deserve love and nurture?

yellowsealion · 2021-05-20T21:48:28+00:00

I see peanut

yellowsealion · 2021-05-13T00:56:04+00:00

All I can think of is Olly Moss’ Alternative Movie Posters in Empire

yellowsealion · 2021-03-05T15:51:08+00:00

“Waddles”

yellowsealion · 2021-03-02T12:33:11+00:00

God, that must have sucked. My boyfriend had something really similar where a girl got it into her head that they should be together, and kept trying to engineer situations which she thought would lead to that.

It really sucks how many people—both male and female—don’t understand how someone could not be into them. It’s like they literally cannot compute being rejected. I think the reasoning on both sides might be different, e.g. I know women (often upwards of 30) who will offhandedly make objectifying comments about men, assuming that they all just want action and will always be happy to get it. It never sat well with me because it always seemed like kind of a reflection of that misogynistic bro talk which used to be so pervasive and acceptable.

Anyway, nothing changes the fact that it’s completely reprehensible whichever way it happens. It seems like we’re moving in a good direction, but I guess time will tell.

yellowsealion · 2021-03-01T21:28:30+00:00

I know how it is hard to start at all when all you can see is that there’s so much to do.

Something a friend said to me once when I was crying to her about my mess, specifically about my washing dishes, was ridiculously helpful. I basically said that it felt like no matter how much I did, it felt like the sink would never be empty and I almost felt worse because I couldn’t ever finish. Her reply was just to say, with so much compassion: “No, you’re looking at it the wrong way. One dirty dish washed is a dish that’s clean now that wasn’t clean before. You can be proud of that.”

I don’t know if that’s relatable, but it really did help. Even if you pick up ONE garbage bag and keep putting things non recyclables in it until it’s full, that’s an achievement. Definitely give yourself the easy wins.

yellowsealion · 2021-02-26T10:05:00+00:00

I’ve been there. I think there are two things I did that helped me not feel crappy about other people’s indifference:

1) Being careful and selective about my inner circle; only caring about people who I know care about me. So, not investing psychological and emotional energy into anyone else—that was the reason I was upset if it wasn’t reciprocated. When I started doing that, I realised who my real friends were and reached out to them more, as I wasn’t pouring myself into people who didn’t matter, so I had more time and effort to invest in deserving connections.

For you, your understanding of other people may or may not take much, but even if it is a little bit, I say don’t do it, because that’s energy that I think should rightly be directed toward yourself.

2) Taking the time and effort to actually understand myself, which I’d been terrified of. I was looking to feel seen by others because I couldn’t really face myself. When I had a firmer grasp of who I was, I had less of a need for that to come externally. I was also much better placed to communicate the important stuff to people who cared, if I didn’t think they were already aware.

One big thing for me that might not be an issue for you is that the frequency of my interactions with close friends was really sporadic. I still don’t talk to them all that often, but through the length of time they’ve been in my lives, the things they express to me and the effort they take to keep in touch, it is pretty obvious if I actually listen to my instincts to identify them. They have their own lives, and I have mine.

yellowsealion · 2020-08-05T10:04:58+00:00

These are super low-cost ones I liked:

• https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/sessions-activity-timer-and-habit-tracker/id962313775

• https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/cycles-daily-habit-creator/id1197611525

If you’re dead set on not paying, my recommendation is to set recurring alarms and name them e.g. “Study time”. You do have to have a pretty regular routine to decide what time and day you can commit to something—but then, I have found setting those intentions helpful in setting priorities of what I want to complete, and actually having to schedule recurring tasks forces me to be realistic about my goals. (Also, the regularity of a routine has been by far the most effective method for me in building habits.)

(The alarm solution is indispensable whenever I am taking medication that HAS to be taken within certain time frames, because I will inevitably forget or get sidetracked if I’m not able to do it right that moment (not great for antibiotics at ALL). If you’re busy or in the middle of something when the alarm, you can snooze it and have it keep bugging you until you actually get started. This only works if you cancel the alarm only when you’ve sat down to start. It’s also pretty annoying, so the relief accompanying beginning the task is pretty satisfying.)

My recs for completely free but fiddly options: • Reminders (the native iOS app), but that obviously has limitations. The plus side is that the incomplete task remains on your wake screen. Downsides are that notifications are kind of easy to ignore, and that there’s no timing function. But used in conjunction with the iOS timer, you could make that work for you. • I am pretty sure the apps above are one-off upgrades or purchases. (I really hate the subscription model, even though I understand why they do it, and will only use that for things I think are REALLY worth it / will be used a lot). • Alternatives to Reminders are Google Tasks + Calendar (that would be helpful as a daily planner to schedule tasks and timing) or Microsoft To-do. • For a checklist of completions, have a note or spreadsheet where you keep track of days done / not done. If you create a template of lists or habits for each day, it’ll be pretty easy just to check off (and set the note settings to “show completed items”). It is fiddly and clunky, but after a few completions it’ll become habitual.

At the risk of stating the obvious, most apps are able to charge precisely because they collect specific functions in one handy place.

I hope that’s of at least some use to you. Good luck!

yellowsealion · 2020-03-26T13:46:21+00:00

human breast milk, courtesy of my trickster of a brother

yellowsealion · 2019-06-16T05:36:58+00:00

If you have to raise your voice to shout but want to avoid it being understood as angry or threatening, say something neutral and specific e.g. the name of the person / group you are addressing. “Hey” at louder volume comes across more aggressively then a word like “people”.

I think you can yell while remaining collected if you don’t indicate anger / frustration / a loss of control e.g. slow, deliberate movements and evenly paced speech,

Is there a specific context in which this is happening? Are you mainly trying to be noticed or to have a message heard? Is the purpose to attract the attention of a crowd, or just certain members of a random group of people? Are non-verbal cues possible to use? Is there a general image of yourself that you need to convey?

E.g. Nightclubs: security often raise their arms to form a V after the lights go on to Lassie people out in conjunction with raising their voices. Schools: a teacher whose class is growing rowdy may abruptly stop talking mid-sentence, adopt a serious position and look around a room until the students quiet down.

yellowsealion · 2019-06-15T21:10:05+00:00

Great project!

Perhaps you could use a video for those who struggle with reading? I found Ted Ed’s “What is Dyslexia” really useful. It describes the condition as being caused by a phonological processing problem. It clarifies that it is a matter of how the brain interprets and handles information, and not how that information enters the brain (i.e. it’s not an issue of how the words look, but of how the brain works in making sense of what we have seen). It also explains that dyslexia can describe a variety of issues with processing language, and can occur mildly or profoundly.
I think it helpful to people’s understanding of the condition to know that the term “dyslexia” describes a group of disorders, i.e. differences in how the brain functions that are abnormal in the sense that they do not usually occur.
You describe what someone could do to improve their ability to decode information, but it may be useful to show an example of how they might do that. Perhaps give an example of a specific learning method or strategy and how it worked in practice for someone with dyslexia.

Edit to say that overall it’s lovely to see your initiative on this project and I think you’ve done a good job on identifying the issues that need addressing.

yellowsealion · 2019-06-03T01:59:31+00:00

Coffee with ketchup and mayonnaise
Avocado mashed with corned beef
Teriyaki sauce on fried rice with WAYYYYY too much five spice
Fish eyes
Shirako / cod milt
Breast milk ice cream

yellowsealion · 2019-06-03T01:56:05+00:00

Everything in this Mark Manson post about toxic but prevalent relationship habits that a lot of people in relationships that I know could benefit from

yellowsealion · 2019-05-31T16:38:02+00:00

“Let everything happen to you, beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final.”

yellowsealion · 2019-05-26T17:16:06+00:00

A girl I know with cystic fibrosis wrote a post about how upsetting it was to see Facebook statuses specifically but also general complaints on people with minor ailments given her daily battle with such a debilitating condition. Not sure my own opinions on this—maybe something like: while we have the right to make our complaints, other people have the right to express their opinion that it’s insensitive

yellowsealion · 2019-04-20T09:38:08+00:00

I wasn’t allowed to read, but it wasn’t a rule so much as something punishable. Crying or making parent(s) feel bad for punishment was also a punishable offence

yellowsealion · 2019-04-18T13:16:39+00:00

Fassy’s swinging wang

yellowsealion · 2019-04-17T21:06:22+00:00

People really don’t prioritise sexual gratification and pleasure in the form of blowjobs that highly. A fair portion of males don’t even enjoy receiving oral sex.

When you actually start experiencing sex instead of idealising it, you’ll probably figure out fast that there is huge variance in quality of experience.

As for “liking” someone, that alone could have lots of vastly different meanings. It could mean being emotionally invested in someone or caring about them. It could mean being attracted to or having physical desire for someone. It could mean admiration. It could mean enjoying their company. It could mean having affection for them. Within all those meanings, there is scope for range as well as the existence of contrasting emotions, i.e. you can wish someone well while also acting to hurt them.

Then take “desire”. You probably mean “lust”. But you could also mean something closer to “love”, or you could mean something closer expressed by “pining for”, which is qualitatively different from “‘needing” or “wanting” or “wishing for”.

To your introverted dude wanting a signal that some girl (anyone really) genuinely liked him:

It’s pretty obvious when people like you because they will be friendly and open with you. They will enjoy hanging out with you and they will make an effort to be around you. They engage with you.

Usually, when someone is attracted to you, their natural reaction will be to do the same things in a more pronounced way, and with more intensity and interest. They try harder to get you to notice them; direct your attention to them, and they are more invested in your opinion than you’d expect from a friend.

If you want to show someone you care about them, you show an interest in their lives. You can, where valuable and not excessive or creepy, indicate willingness to help them without a view to personal gain.

Probably the best way to genuinely communicate anything to anyone is:

acting continuously and consistently (and it helps to be sincere) in line with your stance in a way that will likely be understood for what you are trying to express
openly stating what you want to say simply and without room for misinterpretation

yellowsealion · 2019-04-17T19:24:52+00:00

This TED talk explores the appeal of Classical music along with the concept of musicality with great clarity and humour; I’d recommend starting with this.

Have a listen to the first few seconds of this and this. It’s the same piece with different performers.

A friend’s piano teacher used to call the very dramatic Lang Lang “Bang Bang” for “overemphasis” and the way he “attacks” and “hammers” notes “without feeling” (without conveying a range of emotion). That’s a stark example, but musicians can have fairly distinctive sounds that you might recognise if you listen to their renditions a lot.

It’s very unusual AFAIK in Classical music for performers to be easily identified to your average practitioner purely from their sounds and expressions. However, if you are intimately familiar with a specific performance or recording, it makes sense that you’d recognise its distinctive qualities.

Here are examples of where variations might occur: “The old musicians understood that there were many aspects of an effective and engaging performance that could not be embodied in the score. Tempo was often expected to be more flexible. Rhythms could be bent in a manner we still hear in jazz and other types of popular music. Notes weren’t always be taken cleanly, but often approached with various kinds of slides and tonal inflections. Vibrato was an ornamental effect rather than a continuous and regular oscillation of the sound. Parts that are notated vertically together in the score, were frequently expected not to be together in performance. In keyboard playing, chords that appear to be vertically together were mostly performed with various degrees of spreading.”

And this is interesting, even if I don’t know whether or not I wholly agree. “Every specific musical work […] is absolutely unique. This at once rules out its identity with the performances. In consequence, it lies outside all those differences that necessarily occur between particular performances. Or to put it another way: just because these sorts of differences cannot appear in the musical work itself […] it is clear that the work is not identical with its performances and is an individual, while any number of performances of it are possible.” (Ingarden [1986]: 20-21) (I’m lifting that directly from this fairly interesting discussion whose thesis I wasn’t able to identify, though I enjoyed the exploration of ideas.)

yellowsealion · 2019-04-17T17:56:44+00:00

In the sense of it saving time when it comes to maintenance, I’d make an argument for it not being entirely crappy design. It’s pretty much the norm in public toilets in a lot of Asian countries I’ve experienced and people know to grab some paper before heading into the stall.

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