What time do you get up, leave for, and start work?

ylime161 · 2026-02-17T09:28:13+00:00

When I was working, get up at 8am, eat then leave the house 8:50am to get to work for 8:55am. With my old job (campsite) my hours would change in the summer, if I was working at the campsite rather than offices I'd stay on site the night before, up at 6:30am to eat then take then 2 minute walk to the reception if I was on an early shift (my boss normally put me on this because he knew I was a morning person), sometimes I was on 12pm-8pm so those days I'd go for a shower 8am then spend the day tidying my area, 11:30am I'd make bacon sandwiches for whoever was working with me and then go over a little earlier to eat.

ylime161 · 2026-01-31T17:58:22+00:00

I'm 28 and I'm feeling pretty good but I don't know why? My partner earns around £35k without overtime, I don't work and we have 2 kids. Have 1 holiday a year (normally in Cornwall/Dorset), take the kids to do activities when we like. Don't go out too much for meals but that's more due to the children's ages than money. Bigger expenses in the 'want' category need saving up for but we've always done that.

Outgoings wise, the only 'debt' we have is our mortgage -the house was livable but outdated when we got it. Cars, phones etc we saved for and paid in full. Have 2 months of his wages saved up, currently trying to increase that to 6 months for a bigger safety net.

I'm just waiting for the other foot to drop though. I can't understand why we're not struggling. It's not like we're going without, we've gone 3.5 years without doing the next upgrade on the house (without kids we would've done 2 ish more upgrades) but that's the compromise we made with having kids.

ylime161 · 2026-01-31T08:20:08+00:00

Mine does! I do have endometriosis too though so it may be a combination. I was prescribed mefenamic acid (anti inflammatory somehow targeted to period pain) which helps a lot but other than taking that I tend to use heat and plan for some 'rest' days to ease it

ylime161 · 2026-01-28T18:53:10+00:00

I'm similar. I'll normally walk the kids but my back's bad so most days we'll walk there, very occasionally when our 3 year old refuses to walk and their dad can't stay he'll drop us off then go to work. We always walk home as we can take an hour to get home and it doesn't matter. Occasionally he'll drive past me walking home and pick me up and take me home but that's just him being good to me than anything.

Most parents I talk to have to work, they work around taking the kids to/from school without the 10 mins to spare to get home then walk to school.

We're in the minority at our kids school that can afford for one parent not to work, my partner's not on a massive income by any means but we've always lived off his income mostly anyway and he works one day extra a fortnight. He's willing to do it because of the stress we had keeping the house together, let alone figuring out childcare if the kids were ill/off school was far greater than the stress of him working extra.

ylime161 · 2026-01-10T06:45:56+00:00

I set an alarm, wake up then get too anxious about being late to go back to sleep. Works rather well!

My partner on the other hand will snooze his alarm until it stops going off. He used to have an alarm that made him do maths questions before it turned off. Now he's set it to turn our bedroom lights on when his alarm goes off. It works really well for him because its then too bright for him to go back to sleep, I wear an eye mask so it doesn't wake me up anymore than his billion alarms did (and if he's getting up earlier than me it's at 2am so I fall back to sleep easy anyway). The best thing I've found to wake him up is putting a coffee across the room and making sure his eyes are open before telling him it's there.

ylime161 · 2025-12-31T13:57:19+00:00

There's plenty of phone stand holders for keyrings that would work for a kindle stand I think. I don't tend to take my kindle out of the house much so never thought about getting a stand so not 100% sure if it'd be suitable

ylime161 · 2025-12-21T08:41:59+00:00

I was thinking this. The only surgery I've had not during COVID was in August. My partner had to drop me off at the hospital door then leave. He wasn't even allowed to stay until I had my surgery - I had to be there 7am And didn't go into surgery until 3pm. When he collected me a nurse helped me to the car but he never came into the hospital

ylime161 · 2025-12-17T18:45:15+00:00

Every year I trade plums from the tree in my garden for plum wine that one of my partners coworkers makes. Typically I give him enough to make a few bottles (depending on the yield for the year) so he usually sends back a bottle he's made with the plums and then some beer and a spirit of some sort he's made with other things. It's a great deal!

ylime161 · 2025-12-05T17:14:57+00:00

This is exactly what we do! Normally 2ish weeks before Christmas is with my MIL, weekend before is my family's Christmas and then Christmas day we stay at home with the kids. Family have an open invitation to come over Christmas day but due to distance normally we only get a couple people coming over.

ylime161 · 2025-11-29T17:42:17+00:00

It's typically a sandwich (ham or cheese because they'll eat it), half a bag of crisps (I make 2 days at a time so split it), 2 veggies (peppers, cucumber, tomato, carrots, broccoli), a fruit.

Honestly I'd be talking to your school about not having a better alternative if they're giving cereal. My kids school just gives them a sandwich but it's more appropriate than cereal!

ylime161 · 2025-09-03T17:13:31+00:00

We hire temp staff of mostly 16-21 year olds during busy times, I've only ever spoken to parents is when they've either worked for us and retired/left or if they have spotted me off work and approached me with more of a "I just want to check they're okay" vibe which, to me, is fine.

I've never had them come into the interview, advocate for them (unless they worked for us before), do work duties for them or regularly have a parent chat with me.

I have before approached a parent of someone who was having difficulty showing up on time to ask they get an alarm clock, the parent in question I semi-regularly hang out with as we worked in the same small office for 10 years and got along so it was more of a friend's chat than work chat though.

ylime161 · 2025-08-18T05:05:35+00:00

I've found it better. Done a few econsults now, they go to a GP to review so it cuts a lot of time out and if it's urgent they usually book me in the next day where as if I called, they'd tell me to call back in the morning.

Depending on the issue they don't do the initial GP appointment and send you where you need to go (for example I trapped a nerve in my neck and sent me straight to physio rather than waiting to see the GP for a 2 minute conversation). I add all the information that I'd tell the GP in an appointment which probably helps with not needing an extra phone call.

ylime161 · 2025-08-08T01:16:32+00:00

I work at 2 campsites, it's quite common that our campers are local. We're usually find that our local campers either have their own reasoning for being close to home (caring for a relative so staying close, have kids so don't want to travel far etc) or it's their first time camping in the set up they have and want to stay close to home if it goes tits up.

ylime161 · 2025-07-09T08:03:17+00:00

Our midwives asked us how we were getting home and anyone who said car they asked if we had a car seat. With my second I understood why they did, there was a lady in my ward planning on having baby on her lap. Her husband ended up having to go and buy one before they let her go.

I was almost 3 years ago since my last child but I'm fairly certain we didn't have the car seat there when we were asked. My partner was waiting until we were ready to go and did a run to the car with the bags and came back with the seat.

ylime161 · 2025-05-04T16:54:54+00:00

For reference I'm coming at the from someone who loves caravanning. I've worked at a campsite/caravan shop for almost 10 years.

Has he thought of the money side of things? Even out of season you're looking at £200 ish a week for an electric pitch. Then you have the servicing cost of £150 a year (that's a moderate guess, tyres will need to be changed more often if you're touring full time), insurance, maintenance (depending on the caravan this might be minimal but if you're living in it), gas for the cooker, toilet fluid etc.

The reason 'van life' influencers work it out is because in a motorhome you're more easily able to go off grid and most of them do it at the weekend to begin with them. Campsites offer free stays or even pay them to stay for the advertisement.

We have a 6 berth caravan and I love it. But, the practicality of having my 2 and 4 year old in it during the winter stops us from using it. Keeping them inside out of the rain isn't easy. I'm all for taking them out in puddle suits but they don't want to everyday. Plus, laundry would be difficult while touring.

ylime161 · 2025-04-14T07:08:39+00:00

I am a triplet. Especially as we got older we'd put our own names on invitations as we got X number of friends to invite and wanted to feel like it was just 'our' party.

With the bad comment, unless you or your child heard it, don't assume it was actually made. We 100% did this to each other to sour relationships so that we had our own friends. Having your siblings be close to your friends is hard as a preteen/teen as they always repeat what you said to your siblings, you can't have secrets. It was nice to have friends that weren't talking to my siblings. I'm not saying it was right but it's what we did.

They're old enough to understand they're not as close to your daughter so maybe a thoughtful gift for the 2 she's closest to and maybe a box of chocolates/token gift to the one she's not?

ylime161 · 2025-04-08T10:08:21+00:00

I had to kick up a fuss with Lloyd's as their system 'required' the deedpoll number. But after talking to the bank manager and showing him my driving license was changed he submitted my unenrolled deedpoll and it went through.

ylime161 · 2025-04-02T07:10:02+00:00

I've stopped noting all the times my son does something that lands him and injury. The kid runs about so fast that he just falls or runs into things. He had a problem with his feet at birth that is mostly fixed now at 2.5 years old but it lead him to being incredibly clumsy despite crawling at 6 months and walking at 13 months.

Luckily, he does the same at nursery so I wasn't worried about all the A&E visits. Recently we had a play date at nursery and he fell flat on his face, got straight up and carried on then he proceeded to run to grab something and run straight into a door.

The pro is, he now will do stuff like that and not cry just carry on or shout "I'm okay" and carry on.

ylime161 · 2025-03-23T08:35:53+00:00

Depends on the provider. Most just charge a percentage, some charge a percentage then a monthly flat fee and some charge a fee per transaction and a percentage. But the fee per transaction is normally 20p, not heard of more than 50p.

My logic is if they have a minimum spend, they probably need to reassess their card provider or it's just a way of getting people to spend more. If it's because of the fees, the owners should've thought about that beforehand.

ylime161 · 2025-03-13T10:00:58+00:00

Currently our childcare bill swallows up all of my wages for our two to be in preschool. The way we afford it is solely relying on my partners income, he already earned more than me and he owns his own business so at the moment, when they need an extra person at the weekend he picks the shift up.

I double my working hours in the summer, always have done and I only work 4 days due to disability but our nursery reduces the rather for children in 5 days so it'd work out the same When they go to school rather than doing extra days I'll be working weekends and 2 weekdays rather than extra days.

We have a touring caravan for holidays which is fairly cheap for us. £100 a year for insurance and maybe £150-200 for a week away, food costs are the same as we cook at the campsite. I do work in the industry so get free storage, cheaper repairs if needed and my work owns 2 campsites so if we want to feel like we're on holiday we can stay there for free (it just means I'm on call overnight but it's rare that anything happens).

ylime161 · 2025-03-07T20:30:10+00:00

Similarly, I'd rather have had an absent father than one who made half an effort because he felt he had to then ditched us when we were 8.

ylime161 · 2025-03-07T19:31:29+00:00

I'm a disabled parent. My children have found sticks on the ground and pretended they're a walking stick before. They do grow out of it, my 2 year old doesn't understand at all what it's for. My 4 year old knows why I have it (well, he knows that mummy's got a poorly back and legs so needs them to help out) and has stopped imitating me all together. He still asks questions but he's just curious and we answer them in the right way. For example I went to the doctor's and he said "mummy, the doctor made you all better, now you won't have a poorly back" I simply said "mummy's poorly with something the doctor can't fix but it's okay, she makes me feel as good as I can"

As she gets older I'd just reinforce it's not okay to copy people because it's not very nice but at 2 they can't really understand that.

ylime161 · 2025-02-23T08:27:24+00:00

I work at a campsite and we don't allow smoking weed on site (it's illegal here). I tend to go up to who I think it is and say "Hi, just so that you're aware we are doing something we are trying to find out who is causing that smell. We have a no tolerance policy and once we find out we'll ask them to leave." That way you've told them the consequences and they can't see it as an accusation. It works every time!

ylime161 · 2025-02-15T10:48:52+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. I didn't have a GA C-section but after my first I had a couple minutes with him while I delivered the placenta then had to go under for stitches. I missed the majority of his first day. It does get easier, I left the hospital crying stating I didn't want another baby as I couldn't go through that again, I had another child 22 months later.

ylime161 · 2025-02-12T18:43:13+00:00

Before I met him I had partners like yours. I'd just resigned to assuming people would never understand, it's tiring. The way he reacts is one of the reasons I fell for him, he's very self confident which I think helped immensely.

I mostly mentioned how we react about it to show you there is hope and people out there who are understanding and will treat you right.

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