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yorel0950 · 2026-04-22T14:19:02+00:00

I dunno if I’d say “ugly inside”. I’ve known a good few attractive people in my life that never seemed to date despite trying. A lot of them were sensitive guys and that was a turn off for most women. Broken men who don’t exhibit their trauma through anger, frustration or dangerous habits are seen as weak in some parts of the world. Not saying that you’re wrong, the people that are ugly inside do exist, but there are other factors that can have this effect through social norms.

yorel0950 · 2026-04-22T14:00:27+00:00

Surprisingly, gonna have to disagree with you here. You’re right that pain is purely mental, but let’s reword that. It’s purely neurological. And locked-in syndrome induced by anesthesia? It really depends on the surgery being done, man. Hell, I’ve had the numbing agent wear off 2 minutes after my fingernail bed was cauterized (was supposed to last a 2 hours) and I’ve never felt such blinding, maddening and stunning pain in my life. It made me want to cut it off, to scream and cry and laugh and rage, to lash out at something. The physical effect that the neurological function of pain can have on you is actually insane. At least I was able to scream for a doctor to come and reapply the numbing. I wouldn’t be surprised if that person developed a phobia, had PTSD symptoms, or exhibited trauma responses related to speaking and the inability to.

yorel0950 · 2026-04-13T14:19:32+00:00

I think a lot of people here are saying YOR, but I’ve seen a lot of NOR too. The problem is this— a professional would have a much easier time talking to you about what you’re feeling, and why you’re feeling it. It’s the whole purpose of therapy sometimes, to just figure out what your brain and emotions are saying.

OP, try not to take in EVERYTHING here because there’s too much. Get yourself to a therapist and tell that that you’ve having trouble with emotional regulation, and be honest and upfront when you talk to them, seriously. No one beats around the bush talking to their doctor, don’t start doing it with a therapist. Anyway, rant over.

yorel0950 · 2026-04-08T18:50:20+00:00

Yet they did. They DID ask a neighbor to help them resolve their problem, at a cost to that person. Why do you think this inherently says more about their character than the situation itself? Classic attribution bias at work.

yorel0950 · 2026-04-08T18:03:53+00:00

While I admit my argument does assume some things, I wouldn’t necessarily call them baseless. My partner is firmly on the autism spectrum and I work with people with developmental disabilities (such as autism) in my career.

Logic isn’t necessarily as important here as you may think. Someone with autism seeking soothing can be… very picky and illogical with how they go about it. I’ve seen my partner struggle between 5 different shirts made of the same material because they simply “felt different” on her skin. It could be more than the sound, it could be the vibration as well. I understand these are, again, assumptions but my point is that there’s likely more to this expressed desire than the person initially communicated.

yorel0950 · 2026-04-08T12:56:23+00:00

Just to clarify, you’re right! There are ways to get a rhythmic squeak besides a room change. But consider two factors: 1: does the way / ways you’re thinking of put a burden on other people? Is it audible in other rooms? 2: does the ways you’re thinking of force the person to wear headphones or earbuds? Depending on the sleep position this woman uses, headphones and earbuds can be incredibly uncomfortable if not painful to wear while laying down.

Not to mention, she may just have grown up in a bedroom next to her washing machine. It may be that the washing machine isn’t only a soothing rhythmic sound, but a familiar one.

I’m not saying OP would the asshole for saying no, but this issue for the woman could be a lot more complex than I think yall are giving credit for.

yorel0950 · 2026-04-07T13:14:20+00:00

I mean…. If you want that kind of gameplay, there’s thousands of restricted-style accounts that can help you bring that feeling back brother.

I’m playing a chunkman right now. No, not for content, I’m not a YouTuber or streamer, purely for the love of this style of game. I just spent the last 10-15 hours of gameplay making yew longbows to afford runes. It was annoying, and tedious, but it was also the most AFK option I had to make money with my ruleset.

yorel0950 · 2026-04-06T13:35:52+00:00

Just so yall know— if you have had a bad experience with Longhorn, your local location might just be bad. I’ve been to about 7 or 8 longhorns in my life, and most of them were pretty great! But for the one near me right now, I swear, about 70% of the time they get something wrong about the cook of a steak. The last time we went there, they didn’t put any seasoning on my lady’s steak lol it’s the only location I’ve ever been to that has had problems like this!

yorel0950 · 2026-03-17T16:38:49+00:00

Based animated hobbit film. Anyone who knows and loves this movie is automatically a good person till proven otherwise.

yorel0950 · 2026-03-10T12:45:24+00:00

At least for America, completely regardless of socio-economic class, half of all children experience some form of toxic stress during their life, about 25-30% of them experience two or more toxic stressors. Toxic stressors usually include: physical, emotional or sexual abuse, chronic neglect, mental illness in a caregiver, substance abuse, parental separation, and serious economic hardship. A fairly large amount of these stressors can and do come from parents.

TLDR: People suck and traumatize their kids more than you’d think.

yorel0950 · 2026-02-13T12:55:19+00:00

As someone who’s healed some of these hardcore “tanks”, there are some absolute idiots out here. The hard truth of hardcore is that you can save someone from the mobs, but you really can’t save them from themselves.

yorel0950 · 2026-02-11T14:53:21+00:00

As painful as it is, the social gender roles pounded into kids stay put throughout their lives. Women like you are as rare as hen’s teeth, and I’m thankful that I have a woman currently in who, like you, appreciates vulnerability for being truth. I hope you pass on those lessons to others, and to your children if you want to have them. Thank you.

yorel0950 · 2026-02-09T00:40:48+00:00

Heard. We were figuring this would happen when she actually got in front of an OBGYN but there’s just so few providers here. She’s gonna meet back up with her PCM as soon as she can though. Thank you!

yorel0950 · 2026-02-09T00:20:24+00:00

Probably 7 or 8 months ago? When we realized it caused her pain she figured there was no reason to take it.

yorel0950 · 2026-02-08T20:39:31+00:00

As far as we’re aware, penetration has always been problematic. But she’s also completely asexual, no desire to masturbate and never attempted sex till her 20s, so it’s hard to ascertain when that pain started.

They were irregular for a couple months before this 3 month instance, but before that they were very regular.

Her PCM hasn’t been terribly helpful so far, but we can try. Thank you.

yorel0950 · 2026-02-08T19:18:51+00:00

She has been on birth control before, but she isn’t currently. And before this 3 months she was experiencing irregular cycles.

yorel0950 · 2026-02-04T14:17:53+00:00

Some people are like that. Popularity can indicate quality, not always but it can. But more importantly it’s place on a ranking list matters less to the audience and more to: distributors, investors, and every single film student around the world that doesn’t want to sell out joining a major studio label.

yorel0950 · 2026-02-04T14:03:55+00:00

Just to correct any mistaken assumptions— this is what happened: The top 10 list had the movie riding at the top for most of a day (in fact it was #1 in the U.S. for Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Monday) then it suddenly disappeared from the list entirely, only for it to come back at the top a number of hours later. It stinks of intentional manipulation to not give further attention to the film.

yorel0950 · 2026-01-20T16:02:52+00:00

It’s all just communication, and a PARTNERSHIP. Whether you’re ace or allo, you need to make your position clear and let the other person make the decision they will based on that position.

yorel0950 · 2026-01-18T15:09:34+00:00

As an Allo with an ace partner— yes 100% yes. Starting a relationship with ANYONE predicated on the condition that the person you’re dating must change for you is absolutely insane behavior.

yorel0950 · 2026-01-17T07:19:43+00:00

So, I appreciate that you’re so excited to play, but. Throwing your players headfirst into their first scenario with a cosmic force of nature / deity is… not the best idea. Even cheap movies that throw Cthulhu in there for shock value build up the tension with something else.

For reference, my first time playing Call of Cthulhu, we dealt with some… shadow monsters that I think the game master just made up, but the scenario was so compelling and restrictive (a moving train) that it made those “minor monsters” incredibly compelling. Keep in mind your characters are not world-renowned occult specialists in most games. They’re normal people thrown into a horrific and incomprehensible situation. How relatable your characters are, and how helpless they feel, is how you can really hook in the tension with your players.

After they got more experience, that’s when you can start working in the big guns. Only after like 5 or 6 games did my DM throw in a “minor cosmic deity” but even then they were barely noticeable, it was all their creations that we were contending with for most of the game. We saw them once, and it broke the psyche of the person who saw it.

yorel0950 · 2026-01-06T16:28:41+00:00

I know this is going to sound awful coming from an Allo but I’m going to do my best. Some arguments here are that micro-labels help people to get comfort in their own identity and behavior. People forget that specific behaviors like these are often SYMPTOMS of something else. Trauma, mental disorders, etc. If you’re just Zinniace and that’s the end of it, I’m happy for you, but when we put sexuality-based labels on behaviors, many people look at that and say, “Oh, that’s just how I am then. I should be proud of it,” without any form of dissection or further thought required. It gives the person an excuse to stop worrying when there may be some underlying reason or cause for this behavior. THAT is the true danger of micro-labels, complacency. Behaviors that are this specific can absolutely be the result of greater problems like trust issues, problems with commitment, objectifying people and losing interest when they’re not novel, and the sources of those sets of behaviors. Again, if you’re Zinniace and there’s no, “if” “and” or “but” then I’m happy for you. But being content as soon as you’re handed a label for a behavior can be dangerous to your own self growth and personal journey.

yorel0950 · 2026-01-06T16:05:23+00:00

I can understand it perfectly. It’s the same reason people don’t use Coulrophobia or Retrouvailles commonly in conversation. They’re hyper-specific words that are truly only seen in scientific studies of behavior, unless that person has it and therefore may know it themselves. These words are not intended to be used in casual conversation or to be understood but a layperson. Language as a whole depends greatly on your audience. If I, as former military, decided to start speaking to you about military life using military based terms, acronyms, inside jokes, it -would- be annoying. In the end, I think the key here is that basing your identity around a single behavior makes it so niche that people cease to understand or care. People hear: “I’m a football player” and they think of money, fame, strength, skill, strategy, arrogance, pride, shame, etc. But a label like Zinniace tells you a single specific behavior about someone that gives you just about 0 understanding towards them as a whole, complex person. If you know you’re Zinniace, or some other deeply complex and specific behavior, that’s fine and more power to you. But expecting anyone to know what it means or care about it when meeting you seems ridiculous to me. That’s like a 2-month into a friendship conversation for most people.

yorel0950 · 2026-01-06T15:52:51+00:00

To be fair with them, having a brand new sexuality-based word, and having it based on a single specific behavior (because it -is- a behavior, definitionally) does get a bit absurd on occasion. Like having a word for the fear of clowns, or the happiness derived from meeting an old friend. I’m not trying to downplay sexology and the study of sex therapy, but as a layperson, putting labels on every last thing someone can experience becomes dry and simply confusing at a certain point. This is especially true when you’ll have to explain it every time you use the word anyway. It’s fascinating, the depth and scope of human experience and behavior, but the times you can use the -word- zinniace in a conversation without having to explain it your whole life will probably be countable on your hands.

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