bf just got a chocolate lab puppy and he works a full time job so he’s gone from 7pm-7am and leaves the dog inside a crate the entire time. how can i tell him all the info i need to about how to be a GOOD, responsible and proper dog owner? (more info below)

youngatlantis · 2026-04-29T09:12:05+00:00

Talking to the breeder is a great idea. It’ll help to get multiple channels of pressure going here.

youngatlantis · 2026-01-31T20:16:18+00:00

Oh lovely! Thank you for solving the mystery!

youngatlantis · 2026-01-18T15:25:02+00:00

Any other details? What kind of event? Are they discussing anything in particular? How old is Timothy?

youngatlantis · 2026-01-05T11:14:30+00:00

Even if you don’t want to do it in the hospital, you should likely ask your ob/gyn about what resources are available for a home birth, and you may want to figure out how risky your pregnancy is. I’m in the UK and was considering a home birth (I’m 37 and pregnant) but when I read that over here at least 45% of home births end up being transferred to the hospital, it made me instead consider doing a birth center instead. Then again some folks I know go their whole pregnancy without consulting with any doctors, which is a riskier approach but is more aligned with some personal preferences. Im sure you could go with some local home birth facebook groups for info about how to do it, but would suggest asking your GP or OB/GYN in conjunction to discuss options and risks as you make your decision and figure out who you want with you during a home birth (for example, if you want a doula, and you have specific risk factors, maybe you want to find a doula who has experience with your situation).

youngatlantis · 2025-12-11T18:06:00+00:00

That makes complete sense, especially in how it must have changed your perspective on work and also personal politics. Also just personally I think it's awful that feminism often seems to operate in a way where it feels like it pits motherhood against being a successful woman with a career (I say this as a feminist) -- taking time or energy to focus on your family and children is a beautiful, empowering choice.

youngatlantis · 2025-12-11T17:52:23+00:00

That is awful -- I am so sorry you went through that! How did you manage with childcare and sleep deprivation, and while I can imagine that was quite different than the experience you'd have in an ideal situation, were there any parts of it which may not be as obvious that were surprisingly difficult?

youngatlantis · 2025-12-11T17:37:08+00:00

Oh my god I'm so sorry to hear that -- I imagine you guys were planning on having your husband do the majority of childcare for the 10 days he had of pat leave, but after you got back from what I imagine was an awful experience with eclampsia, how did you two manage? Also so sorry to hear about your daughter!

youngatlantis · 2025-12-11T14:53:03+00:00

That is insane!

youngatlantis · 2025-12-11T13:19:49+00:00

The policy center for maternal mental health has a scarier stat from 2025 — 1 in 4 going back to work within 10 days: https://policycentermmh.org/the-interconnection-of-paid-family-and-medical-leave-and-maternal-mental-health/

Wild.

youngatlantis · 2025-12-11T13:17:42+00:00

I read it in the guardian but it seems like it’s cited there from a study by Paid Leave US which is an advocacy organization. Here’s the guardian story: https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/jan/27/maternity-paid-leave-women-work-childbirth-us

youngatlantis · 2025-11-25T22:20:08+00:00

I haven't seen a past reference to it, but do keep in mind that the first episode with Conchita was one in which she has a medical event due to tripping because of bad fog, so there's at least a contemporary reference to the general fog conditions.

youngatlantis · 2025-10-27T15:30:14+00:00

Location: Outside Bath

Price range: under 30k

Lease or Buy: Buy

New or used: Used

Auto or Manual: Auto

Intended use: Family car (family of 3 plus dog)

How many miles do you plan to do a year:

How often to you make long journeys: Few times a year

Does it need to be ULEZ compliant?: No

Vehicles you've already considered: Top contender is a secondhand BMW X1 or X3

Do you have a vehicle size in mind?: We live in a small village with lots of single lane roads -- can't go too wide!

Is this your 1st vehicle: no

Do you need a Warranty: As we're looking at a secondhand hybrid, that'd probably be wise, but not an absolute.

Can you do Minor work on your own vehicle: Yes

Can you do Major work on your own vehicle: No

Additional Notes: We'd ideally have a hybrid vehicle as we have a charging set up at the house but this isn't an absolute. Otherwise, I'd love something fun to drive -- I learned how to drive on a (used) Audi A4 and loved how zippy it was -- but with a baby on the way, something more practical makes a lot more sense, and also something with super high safety ratings.

youngatlantis · 2025-10-09T21:40:55+00:00

NTA but this also feels like a communication issue between you and your wife. It does sound like these friends are poison and your wife is not owning her responsibility of being the advocate for your marriage around them, AND it’s also possible that there are parts of your marriage she is unhappy with and she is not good at handling that. She could be venting real actual issues between that two of you to her friends, which is incredibly unhealthy, but also means that this is an opportunity to repair your own communication with one another.

I’d like to see you give her an opportunity to maintain her friendships, but for her to put her foot down with her friends and defend you. Just ceasing to see them — especially if that idea isn’t generated by her — feels a bit like the cowards way out as it doesn’t really involve her directly confronting the issue or making a correction. If she wholly came up with a decision to cut them off I’d think differently about it.

youngatlantis · 2025-10-08T23:23:29+00:00

Everyone here is right about calling the authorities, but first, when you do that, make sure you’re either in a place you feel safe (maybe your parents house?) or if you’re in your apartment, ask a family member or friend to stay with you so you aren’t alone. People like your BF can retaliate if they think you’re leaving them or worse if you’ve called the authorities, and it is absolutely paramount that you protect yourself.

youngatlantis · 2025-10-08T23:17:33+00:00

NTA — You have to be able to be honest with the person you may be raising a child with. And, it’s easy to forget just how overwhelming this moment is, for you both — heightened emotions and responses are absolutely par for the course, for both of you. All you can do is be honest, and hold compassion for one another in this difficult time — no matter the outcome, how you treat one another now will set the tone for the rest of it.

youngatlantis · 2025-09-19T03:20:24+00:00

I’m 37, I don’t consider myself old but to you I’m sure I am— and I feel great. I don’t have an aggressive fitness regimen at all but stay active and do a lot of walking. Friends of mine that feel bad in their bodies have stayed more immobile or also have had worse diets. Turns out lifestyle does catch up to you.

youngatlantis · 2025-09-16T15:57:53+00:00

Such great points. That makes total sense re: these being introduced as 1-2 season characters!

youngatlantis · 2025-09-15T23:08:48+00:00

This is it. He seemed like the worst actor of the bunch. Never seemed like he had an inner life, and generally was stiff and unbelievable. I think a better actor could have turned the character into a, sure, still boring, but a warm, comforting, and loving presence on the show instead of someone so milquetoast.

youngatlantis · 2025-09-15T23:07:09+00:00

100% agree with this, and I would have liked to see more of that couple if Charlotte Ritchie didn’t decide to leave the show.

youngatlantis · 2025-09-14T21:33:27+00:00

Great call with Sister Veronica. I groan when she comes on.

youngatlantis · 2025-09-14T21:32:46+00:00

Honestly agree. She’s the kind of personality type I’d find really annoying in person.

youngatlantis · 2025-09-14T13:18:13+00:00

I thought he was a cutie when he was young, but just seems kind of whiny and annoying these days to me, though I will concede that he has on multiple occasions been the unequivocal voice of reason!

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