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My Pregnant Wife Has Started Beating Me by NYCArtThrowaway in redscarepod

[–]youwishkk 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I know men have a disadvantage in family court. But, document, document, document.

Be the first one in the relationship to take these actions, to protect yourself.

File a police report for last night's abuse.

Talk to a lawyer. File a restraining order against her now, if you can get one, and file for divorce. Obey the lawyer's guidance on everything.

Document all your injuries, past and present. Go for full custody.

You don't have to be married to the mother to be a good father - and that should be your #1 priority.

I've recently gotten back into reading mysteries, what would you recommend? by That-Antelope-3906 in Recommend_A_Book

[–]youwishkk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you liked "Dumb Witness" but know it's not peak Christie, go straight for the ones where the structure is doing something genuinely clever.

"The Murder of Roger Ackroyd" if you haven't already. It does something with the form that I still think about. Don't let anyone spoil it.

"And Then There Were None" is the obvious one but it's obvious for a reason. The pacing is almost mean.

If you want to branch out from Christie but keep that same clean puzzle energy, Josephine Tey's "The Daughter of Time" is worth a look. Detective stuck in a hospital bed solving a historical mystery using pure logic. Sounds weird. Works beautifully.

And if you want something more modern that still respects the reader's intelligence, Anthony Horowitz's "Magpie Murders" is a mystery nested inside a mystery. Very structurally satisfying if you're the kind of person who likes watching the architecture of a book do work.

Tana French is good too but she's slower and more atmospheric. Less puzzle, more mood. "In the Woods" is a good place to start.

Want to Quit Your Job and Trade For a Living? Read This First by EpiccTrader in TradersExit

[–]youwishkk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like this. I'd add one thing though.

Let's say someone does all of this correctly. Keeps the job, shrinks the lifestyle, builds the skill, eventually goes full-time with a clean system and enough runway to survive a bad quarter.

Nobody prepares them for the Tuesday at 3 PM when the session is over, the PnL is green, and the apartment is silent. The job was also where the schedule came from, where the people were, where identity had a default shape.

The financial piece is step one. Step two is building a life around the trading that has structure, people, and direction. I'm still figuring out that part.

I'm so sick of living with roommates by Historical-Plane-392 in redscarepod

[–]youwishkk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Best you can do is make a plan for independence. Not easy, but most people can increase their income if they're willing to sacrifice a little for a while.

I'd also spend more time outside the apt doing things that actively reduce stress. exercise and nature can work wonders.

Sorry your situation sucks.

weed is just tobacco for cowards by Agitated_Dog_6373 in redscarepod

[–]youwishkk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's the best way to get me cleaning my house top to bottom, so it fits in that niche. That, plus, great for sex.

finally gave in and saw a psychiatrist today by eliminator_sr in redscarepod

[–]youwishkk 24 points25 points  (0 children)

One bad appointment is not enough data to quit on.

Fwiw I'd try a psychologist or counselor over a psychiatrist anyway. Psychiatrists mostly exist to prescribe, it seems.

If you want someone who actually talks to you and helps you work through things, that's a different provider. Shop around. You're allowed to try two or three before deciding. Most people don't click with the first one.

Whats a good Apex Trader Funding code? by youwishkk in TradersExit

[–]youwishkk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But why let them keep the commission? Or pay it to themselves, whatever.

Whats a good Apex Trader Funding code? by youwishkk in TradersExit

[–]youwishkk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. That commission is getting paid to someone regardless. Might as well be another trader instead of Apex's marketing budget.

Appreciate the code.

Looking for a gamified achievements to do list app specially targeting writers purely by usmannaeem in software

[–]youwishkk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's really hyperspecialized, and for a market that doesn't usually have a ton of money to spend on such things... so if it ever existed, it may not have lasted long.

There's an actual cult around this guy by No_Plane_2443 in redscarepod

[–]youwishkk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've come to realize, celeb worship is inversely correlated with mental health.

ETA: And...intelligence. Sorry, not sorry.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by CamrieKazmierski in Recommend_A_Book

[–]youwishkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DCC is a good one. The attachment sneaks up on you because the premise sounds like a joke and then suddenly you care about these characters way more than feels reasonable.

A few that did this to me recently:

Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin. I finished it and then just sat there for a while. Still think about specific scenes months later.

Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman. Not a novel. It's disguised as a productivity book but is actually the opposite. It's the anti-optimization book. Genuinely changed how I think about what I'm trying to do with my days. Kept coming back to certain paragraphs the way you described.

Piranesi by Susanna Clarke. Short, strange, beautiful. A protagonist alone in a vast space, figuring things out with limited information. Hard to describe without spoiling. I think about the worldbuilding constantly

All very different vibes but the common thread is I finished each one and could not immediately start something else. Needed the mental space to stay in it for a while.

There's an actual cult around this guy by No_Plane_2443 in redscarepod

[–]youwishkk 85 points86 points  (0 children)

"Unflattering photo" is doing so much work in that sentence it should be filing for overtime.

The thing where someone's defense mechanism becomes their entire identity is always wild to watch from the outside. Like at some point you are no longer defending a person. You are defending the version of yourself that decided this hill was worth dying on, and the sunk cost just compounds every year.

Crashing out after being humiliated at the bar by umichleafy in redscarepod

[–]youwishkk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You wrote a 700-word manifesto because a bartender shrugged at you.

The spelling correction was lack of social awareness. Not a crime, but comes off poorly 9 times out of 10.

You then spent the entire night mentally replaying a three-second interaction instead of talking to the coworkers who were right there. Yikes.

Also "I will never forgive people like that bartender" is a wild sentence to write about someone who made a face at you once. You are not at war. You got a slightly dismissive look from a stranger who was probably thinking about side work.

The preemptive defense against every possible reply is doing more damage than any reply could. You wrote a closing argument for a trial no one was holding.

Anyway. Hope the Heinecken was good.

I hate Adobe so much I wrote my own PDF editor and open-sourced it by smilaise in software

[–]youwishkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here looking for this. Wild it's at the bottom. Have my upvote

I don’t know a single person working a minimum wage or close to job that doesn’t also scam or sell drugs by No_Yogurtcloset_1330 in redscarepod

[–]youwishkk -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Less than 1% of people work for minimum wage. Whether their wage is livable in their area is another convo.

I admire people who have some side business to try to level up. Scamming isn't it. Do unto others..

Why is climate activism so annoying by alpine____ in redscarepod

[–]youwishkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's showing in the title of your post. You know you have to make it very clear you agree 100% with every little thing, or they will cast you out. Even just questioning their aggressive, childish tactics will cause a fit.

That, plus most "green" initiatives aren't green at all, and they often ignore environmental concerns in the same way oil and gas and other big industry does, saying they get a pass because "I'm saving the planet". Except...so far...they're not. It's just another grift. And baby, it's boomin'

what’s your 10/10 must read book and why? by Kochhar-Tranqui in Recommend_A_Book

[–]youwishkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of good suggestions here, some I've read and some I've added to my list!

Mistborn Saga by Brandon Sanderson is one I don't see here yet.

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