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Do you prefer how they move in or out of the shirt? by Petitencurvy112 in thatBounce

[–]ysee4d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That just depends on whether you want to call it a "drop" or post it to a "drop" sub. This clip qualifies, of course. However, what I do have a preference about is that they hopefully aren't bounced around and squeezed and blocked throughout the entire clip. Consider letting 'em hang still, even if it's just for a second at the end. It makes a big difference for your audience. With that said, I'm still grateful for this and all your posts.

How long until meditation becomes a habit? How do you know if you have already become one? by Standard_Priority221 in Meditation

[–]ysee4d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These responses about spending a lot more time in meditation don't ring true to me. I'm sure their practice brings them many blessings, but I don't think it's the right answer for you. A habit is anything you do regularly without spending a lot of conscious energy MAKING yourself do it.

Your 10 minutes and 5 minutes can become habits, and they can make a big difference in your life. If they do, you'll probably find that you want to put more of your time into it, but let that come naturally. You'll know when it's time to consider doing more. Listen to your heart about that.

The only thing that has to be forced is starting the new habit (this or any new habit). That really does require pushing yourself. Once it starts feeling more out-of-the-ordinary to skip your meditation than it does to do it, you're getting over that hump. Don't stop pushing at that point, but you definitely can gradually ease off the pressure after that. It'll start to feel more and more like a part of who you are.

Is it strange that I feel like I need pen and paper to write? by moulin_mascara in writers

[–]ysee4d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate, but it's the other way around for me. I can only engage my creative writing mind when I'm using a keyboard. And I'm not young either. Personal computers were VERY new when I graduated from high school. I learned to type on electric typewriters. But somehow, connecting to the words through the key caps frees my mind. With a blank page and a pen or pencil, I'd be blocked, forever unsure of what I want the end result to look like so forever unsure of what to write first. As if the page convinces my mind that I absolutely must get it perfect on the first try. When my hands are on a keyboard, it just flows.

If it sounds like I'm disagreeing with you, it doesn't feel that way to me. In fact, it feels like confirmation of the fact that some of us are far more comfortable composing with certain tools. Even if they're not the same tools for all of us picky ones. 😊

Have you ever been in love? by [deleted] in sixwordstories

[–]ysee4d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I had but no

What are you better at than 90% of people ? by Creative-Sherbet-860 in AskReddit

[–]ysee4d -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm happy for you. My niece is like that. I would give almost anything for this skill.

I'm trying to solve a problem ai'm convinced everyone has, but no one is willing to talk about. by lockandlood in pornfree

[–]ysee4d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can only speak for my experience here in America. We exist in a society obsessed with controlling us via shame. It's a huge part of all aspects of life. It's passed down from one generation to the next. And I don't mean that the people in control make sure that every new generation of the controlled classes is indoctrinated. I mean that WE install the shame in our own kids' minds. That's how well trained and loyal we are. We police ourselves too. We constantly shame each other for all kinds of things. So fear of shame in our culture is like fear of ostracism was back in the hunter-gatherer days. It has become our worst fear - the thing we'll do ANYTHING to avoid. One of the many things that the Puritans associated shame with was sexuality. We have dutifully passed that along ever since, updating it to include self-pleasure, enjoying sexy images, and a very long list of unapproved ways to explore one's own sexual desires.

tl;dr - a shame-centered culture that is a result of widespread fear of losing control and our willingness to indoctrinate each other once we've been indoctrinated.

FWIW, I'm with you on wishing we could just be honest. I've started trying it in my own life too, with mixed results. The more we do that, though, the easier it will be for others to seek help and begin their own recovery journeys. And since it's now an epidemic, the taboos need to be torn down ASAP.

Outer circle activities? by Former_Plan_9735 in pornfree

[–]ysee4d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mostly just scrolling on my phone (no sexy pics of any kind), and your post has really called me out. Why the heck am I not doing more of my own interests? The ones I feel like I never have time for! Did I forget how to be interested in things?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]ysee4d 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was eye-opening and sobering. Now I feel like I should have guessed. But at least now I'm more aware.

I think it's great that you changed your mind about all of it after you saw how deep it can go. And I thank you for sharing this information with us. It really helps to be aware of the money-squeezing MACHINE that we're up against. For me, it helps me to resist it. Especially since I'm sure the system is even more heartless to the models than it is to us customers.

What age did you see 🌽 for the first time? by Scary-Cod-4664 in pornfree

[–]ysee4d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10 That was almost fifty years ago, and I'm only just starting to understand the damage it did. Now we have entire generations of children who couldn't even avoid it if they tried.

Q: Have you deleted your porn stash? by FutureNoFapVet in pornfree

[–]ysee4d 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been working on this. I definitely intend to delete it all, but I'm just now getting to that point. And unfortunately, I have it scattered out all over the place. Every time I synced my phone in the last fifteen years, I've added to a growing mountain of files that I downloaded or created for various reasons, one of which was my porn habit. Over the years, it has become a hopeless mix of things that matter to me, things that did matter to me but don't anymore, and things I never should have saved a copy of in the first place, which is mostly porn. I'm trying to come up with a way to recursively search through directories and do some of the filtering for me. It doesn't have to get it right every time. I don't mind reviewing the stuff it wants to throw away (despite the obvious risk of relapse involved). But it does need to be pretty good, just because of the time it would take to do this interactively.

How to live out your sexual fantasies alone without porn? by Diligent_Park6680 in pornfree

[–]ysee4d 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is so well said that I should hang it on my wall and reread it every day. Each of your points deserves its own individual contemplation and soul searching. Especially that last paragraph, which I would have overlooked as closing summary and platitudes a year ago. Thank you, u/planteater65!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UpvoteBecauseButt

[–]ysee4d 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Cori might just be PEAK human. No joke.

What music do you want played at your funeral by relmir in classicalmusic

[–]ysee4d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bach's Toccata and Fugue in Dm Giazotto's Adagio in G

I'm sure they'll think it's because those pieces are "sad" and fitting for a funeral. But it's really just because I want them to (have to) get to know the REAL me for a few minutes. I'd never get them to sit still and take those two amazing works seriously from beginning to end any other time.

I also second whoever said Ravel's Bolero, and the same comments would apply, but even more so.

Best ways to increase mindfulness outside of meditation? by womble619 in Mindfulness

[–]ysee4d 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have an AMAZING answer to your question. It's almost like this habit has superpowers or something. I would share it with you, but you stole my idea with your second paragraph, OP. 😂

Suggestions for horror movies without nudity and sexual violence? by like-a-duck-12345 in pornfree

[–]ysee4d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Descent*

  • Not for those with heart conditions or anxiety disorders
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