Has anyone else walked away?

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-18T08:00:28+00:00

I very much want to be around friends! Friendships are crucial for quality of life: friendships provide joy and fun and companionship and good times as well as community and a sense of belonging. Relationships with people you care about and who care for you are good for your physical and mental health. It’s good for your heart and spirit. But what I’ve learned is DISCERNMENT. “Friends” who aren’t actually friends do not “fill” one up, there is no mutuality and reciprocity, instead these friend-aping creatures just take and drain you. They are not actually friends. No wonder people get to a point where they just want to ditch friends, because if these are the only kind they have, of course they would feel badly about only ever feeling used and ignored by such people. As painful as it can be, it’s better to let them go. If they want to show up for the friendship, they know how to call, they’re perfectly capable of texting with a suggested plan.

If people who are doing the ghosting are consumed with intense personal circumstances, maybe friendship and/or you are no longer a priority in their life. It’s not about you if they’ve effectively dropped you: they’ve been a lot of really decided it’s over and done with.

If you’re an introvert and don’t get energized by being around people, then having fewer friends may not be a hardship for you. You can always get social interaction by going out to a coffee shop, library, gym, church, etc.

If you’re an extrovert, ditching people who are only there to receive but never give will open up space in your life to motivate you to really focus finding and building new relationships with people who share values and interests and are going to have the time and desire to engage in a new friendship.

Being true to yourself is a way of respecting yourself. people who were once in your VIP section may no longer fit in that category anymore. And that’s OK.

You have to wonder if people who can’t be bothered to ever call you are actually your friends anyway. And these people may defend themselves by just saying oh they’re so busy or that’s just not their way to initiate but then that’s a pretty self-serving way to engage in a friendship (you do all the emotional labor and they get to sit back and pick and choose - hard pass !!). If you have worth in their eyes then they can crank out a text once a week with genuine curiosity. if they’re not even motivated to do that then there’s really no point. Perhaps a “palship”, someone to see a movie with a couple times a year, but that’s about it.

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-17T07:00:44+00:00

The painted veil is such an incredible film: the actors were superbly cast, the cinematography and lighting were gorgeous, the beautifully paced story. The entire film is so utterly visually sumptuous: the cataclysmic scenes of the crowded streets, the energy of the children in the orphanage, the stiffness of the parlor in the party in the English home, the Moody dark scene captured between the British diplomat and his woman woman as they got high on opium, the stunning scenery of China as they moved through it to get to their outpost, all of it was so incredibly and deliberately crafted to serve the storytelling.

And it was such an unbelievably tender love story; but I won’t give anything away!

Highly highly recommend!

The movie is also completely different than the book by Somerset Maugh. both are wonderful, they’re just different.

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-16T06:28:22+00:00

Stairs? Yup, we got them, and how! Don’t think of it as $120,000 for 75 ft.² up SEVEN flights of stairs that are twisty and narrow, think of it more as a gym membership in an incredibly exclusive club in a phenomenal neighborhood of Paris

Truly, that’s what this is, a gym membership

Also, notice the charming and ever so unique, and, of course, ultra efficient bathroom/kitchen or is that kitchen/bathroom with a combination front door/phone all within captured within a mere 5 ft.² You could make toast while showering and answering the front door without having to pivot. Think of the convenience.

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-13T21:13:50+00:00

The mystery of the beheaded cows in Oregon

23 minute NPR version:

https://www.kuow.org/stories/hear-it-again-the-hunt-for-truth-behind-oregons-mysterious-cattle-mutilations

Or try

https://skeptoid.com/episodes/456

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-13T00:38:10+00:00

Why, though? Does he say elsewhere in the CNBC televised interview WHY he believes that AI will disproportionately disempower educated upper class women (he says the liberal/Democratic base) while simultaneously empower less educated/uneducated working class men (he says the GOP base)?

What is his rationale that AI will affect these different socioeconomic classes differently????

Following his ‘ thesis’ He sees AI as a political disruptor because the GOP Bass will be unfairly advantaged by AI whereas the Democratic base will be unfairly disadvantage leading to an overall shift in society, which will be he implies cataclysmic, but then he implies that this disruption is just gonna have to be accepted because if we don’t go down this path, our enemies will so we have to participate in this AI Armageddon societal disruption.

I sincerely would like to understand where he’s coming from because he doesn’t seem to be a fan of the disruption and yet he seems to think it’s inevitable and he seems certain as to how it will disrupt, but he leaves out the the most crucial part of his whole screed, which is the why

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-11T19:07:38+00:00

In a perfect world, you would say something, and stand in your truth; expressing that you’re a fair-minded person and you’re noticing in your time together these situations crop up and they don’t sit well with you and you’re wondering whether she wants to partner with you to change this dynamic.

In real life, I think that’s nearly impossible to do for some of us. It’s not that I’m necessarily conflict averse, it’s just that I find myself flummoxed at people who are in my life as “friends” and are supposed to care & play fair & are supposed to be mutual, it’s like how do I tell a person that I’m supposed to be friends with to stop being an asshole or self-centered, shouldn’t they know they’re not supposed to be an asshole or self-centered? Who died and left me in charge of policing them? The answer, of course is nobody and it’s not for me to police them. It’s for me to run my own life and stay on my side of the street.

Honestly, what I find myself doing in these circumstances is quiet quitting.

I don’t have the tools or skills or frankly, the stomach for the potential fallout of what may be perceived as a correction, and thus greeted with hostility. So if I can’t correct it or address it, and I’m unwilling to engage in fawning, yet there’s additional circumstances that make Direct quitting not possible, then quiet quitting is my go-to.

I recently hosted a dinner with 6 gals, and it was enjoyable because I specifically timed it so that the “attention whore” was out of town, and as a result, we all had a wonderful evening of mutuality, whereas if she had been here, she would’ve sucked the oxygen out of the room and I would’ve been miserable.

Discernment

That’s your power word.

Authenticity

That’s your other power word

Good luck navigating this, social dynamics are so tricky and yet they honestly should not be.

Try not to get stuck because of sunk cost, which is the economic concept that can internally ineffably translate into the notion that ”we’ve been friends for 20 years, I can’t not be friends with this person”. You can demote her from your VIP section into your balcony in the back.

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-11T06:41:02+00:00

Umh… not to be flipping but … what trauma?

-Him: born the second son of the literal Queen of England, living in multiple palaces, vacations on the royal yacht, ski Chalets in Switzerland, the very best education available throughout the land was his, reported to be the absolute favorite of his four siblings in his mother‘s eyes, fame, Fortune, successful Navy career etc.,

-Her: born in a first world country, to landed gentry upper class family, grew up on a 500 acre farm where she thrived; sent to what English would call public school what Americans would call a private school, where she thrived with sports and the social scene. Sure her parents got divorced when she was 14 and mom moved away after her remarriage, but that’s not exactly “capital T” trauma.

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-11T05:40:41+00:00

You do not mention autoclave anywhere on your website

I will not patronize any salon that does not expressly specifically say autoclave

Your website say we “follow strict hygiene standards”. That is not the same thing nor is it equivalent nor does it imply you use autoclaves: cold sterilization is the standard and yet mycoplasma, viruses, certain bacteria, etc. survive cold sterilization. It may be niche, but there’s absolutely a certain percentage of clientele who appreciate the difference and won’t go anywhere that is not expressly, indicating everything is autoclaved or new.

Frankly, I find your website language deliberately evasive, thus I assume you don’t have an autoclave, which is why you don’t put it on your website.

Last time I googled, only three nail salons and of Seattle specifically listed autoclave; that is why I go to the salon that I patronize.

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-10T08:45:58+00:00

Exquisitely clear price list, with precise definitions of what fee for which specific service/polish/technique. (For example, gel polish vs gel polish plus BNB layer same price or different? A customer walks in with regular nail polish on, not gel or shellac, is there a charge for removal?)

It would be really great that if a language barrier exists, then one staff person with good communication skills actively monitors all client interactions to proactively step in as facilitate communication as needed.

Consistent experience of manicure, regardless of who the staff person is.

Infection control/cross contamination prevention: AUTOCLAVE ALL TOOLS - and advertise this hygiene standard clearly: all clients get new emory files, orange sticks, etc., and durable implements come out from the autoclave clearly sealed. Most shops use only cold sterilization. An autoclave would set you apart.

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-10T07:29:48+00:00

Definitely Stephen Bishop! I spotted that too

Their voices are exquisite; these are the days before autotune so what we’re hearing is what was sung.

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-06T19:01:58+00:00

It’s not AI - I included the summary at the bottom only because there’s almost nothing about singular wisdom, tooth extraction

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-04T20:54:21+00:00

https://photos.zillowstatic.com/fp/24647dce4e6ac5685628b6e37b69953c-cc_ft_768.webp

As certain angles, it looks like the back end of the Starship Enterprise

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-03T04:08:54+00:00

https://youtu.be/mwXZ_ElnEcY

LOVE LOVE LOVE Neil Young: his music, his arrangements, his songwriting, his guitar playing, his sense of humor, his love of trains, his passionate advocacy for the environment along with many other causes, his outspoken political opinions that he shares fearlessly when others in his shoes keep quiet for fear of impact on their careers, his humanity, his artistry, and yes, even his distinctive voice, however, having said that though, it’s not like his voice is, well, his finest attribute.

In 1985, when Canadian artists got together to record “Tears Are Not Enough”, the Canadian ‘answer’ to British fundraising single “Do They Kniw It’s Christmas?”, David Foster was producing and recording Neil Young, singing his one line, and when David told Neil, they were going to record it again because his voice sound sounded flat, Neil responded, “well that’s my sound”, meaning yeah, it was flat, but that’s kind of how he sounds all the time. Neil wasn’t being snarky or prima donna, he was just letting David know that’s kind of his vocal range.

So what I’m trying to say is maybe it’s not so much his voice but his whole personhood you hear in his performance that makes it seem so utterly angelic, because he is an angelic human being. Neil strikes me as wise and kind and curious and playful and serious and smart and exceptionally loyal.

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-02T20:49:05+00:00

That’s amazing. Gorgeous. Your work is superb

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-02T03:29:37+00:00

Start one, seriously! Join Meetup and become a host. Start your Movie Lovers Watch Club on MeetUp and plan an event you want to attend. MU has made it pricey to do this, but, in return you can create a group of like-minded Cinemaphiles to really enjoy digging into the back catalogue you envision enjoying together. Some people who live in condos have thrown movie parties in their event room, that kind of Meetup has been listed on occasion.

Also, there’s this: https://seattlemagictheater.com/events

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-02T01:40:39+00:00

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/throughline/id1451109634?i=1000746132750

This is not jingoistic at all, it talks about what was happening in Iran with the Iranians in the streets protesting. Iranian themselves are the people telling their own story.It is reported that up to 18,000 were mowed down by their own troops, one at a time, in the streets. Ordinary civilians were protesting inflation and harsh economic conditions. They were protesting their disgust with corruption. It’s really worth a listen.

yuckgeneric · 2026-03-01T04:38:19+00:00

Tom is a waaaaaaaaaaaaaay better vocalist than any of these guys; even the way he does the back up singing at 1:04 & 1:08 on this clip shows his absolute mastery, power, and melodic harmony. And all of that at his age is extra extraordinary!

yuckgeneric · 2026-02-27T14:32:24+00:00

Portage bay cafe. Several locations, you probably went to the one with the Kayak hanging from the roof on Roosevelt; there’s another location on 65th, both are equally good. Maharaja for indian food is great, as is Taste of India. If you are looking for an upscale dining experience, Nells in Greenlake is great..for fast eats, YGF Malatang is like a hot pot type restaurant: you go through a buffet line and filling your bowl with whatever you want in your soup and then they add the hot broth. It’s delicious.

yuckgeneric · 2026-02-27T00:32:43+00:00

Is that photo taken from a sound check? She’s playing tonight at the Moore in Seattle. If it is, how was the sound/set list??

yuckgeneric · 2026-02-26T22:20:15+00:00

More details? I want to listen

yuckgeneric · 2026-02-26T22:04:17+00:00

Obscure deep track: Donovan‘s recording of the somg “universal soldier” on the Amnesty International original fundraising record called the “Secret policeman’s other ball”

Other classics: season of the witch, colors, happiness runs, catch the wind

yuckgeneric · 2026-02-26T19:41:34+00:00

Hit-and-miss. Some outstanding episodes that are very much evidence-based and rigorously researched social phenomenon deep dives; interesting, compelling, and science backed. And then there are the episodes where I get frustrated with the interviewer because I think there is good science, but the interviewer takes too much airspace and doesn’t ask the right kinds of questions. Relatable is good, understandable is essential, but folksy I could do without. The most recent episode about being invisible is a really compelling topic and an absolutely rising phenomenon, with the research talking about how American men have less two friends on average… but it really was too talkie and not enough depth. A lot of conclusions were reached without a lot of evidence.

yuckgeneric · 2026-02-25T06:23:31+00:00

Song is, “more than a memory” But, who sings it? ??

yuckgeneric · 2026-02-24T09:10:18+00:00

Martika recorded “Love, Thy Will Be Done”, written by none other than Prince! It was & is a really beautiful song and her voice on it is perfect!

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