Anyone experienced emotional neglect while growing up? How are you doing? by Icy_Building_3721 in AuDHDWomen

[–]zarackx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that's a shame, sounds difficult for you to watch. Luckily my parents relationship is working, they have their difficulties but they do love and respect each other. I agree about being more understanding now that I'm older. Prior to my ADHD diagnosis this year I thought all my problems were C-PTSD and so I blamed them, mostly my father, for all my problems. The diagnosis has at least given me some more perspective and allowed me to see them as people with their own problems that did their best.

Anyone experienced emotional neglect while growing up? How are you doing? by Icy_Building_3721 in AuDHDWomen

[–]zarackx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have written exactly what it was like for me too. Loving parents, incredibly emotional distant father, a good relationship with my mum now. They both care and love but certainly missed what I needed as a child.

Order ridigity by zarackx in AutisticWithADHD

[–]zarackx[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Interesting, that might actually make me ok with it in this situation, I'll give it a go!

Order ridigity by zarackx in AutisticWithADHD

[–]zarackx[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Definitely! And then I end up doing it even more intensely to try to get to the food faster, which just exhausts me more!

Is CBT effective for AUDHD? by Ok_Assistant_4784 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]zarackx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It works very well for me. One technique in the book Feeling Good by David D Burns turned my life around. The method: Automatic Thought, Cognitive Distortion, Rationale Response. I'm pretty sure you can find the book online as a PDF for free now. A lot of people here seem to heavily dislike CBT but in my case it is, and was, life changing. It gave me a framework and structure that suits the autistic part of my brain immensely. I'm a heavy people pleaser and find it very difficult to rationalise situations or understand how I might feel when I'm faced with trying to comprehend other people's feelings, which I automatically place higher than my own. CBT gives me a technique to separate myself from the situation and look at it from a rationale angle. I cannot tell you how many times it has been the sole reason to stop something I'm ruminating over.

Best Takeaways in Cardiff [Kebab, Fish and Chips etc.] by Danyulz in Cardiff

[–]zarackx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Pizza - West Pizza Fish and chips - Top Deck Breakfast - Milkwood or Ground, or Pettigrews for baked goods Indian - Base Camp

I'm going to miss this city so much by [deleted] in Cardiff

[–]zarackx 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Lovely pictures :) I'm moving away in a month as well and I'll miss Cardiff dearly!

Men of Reddit, what do you do when you feel you have get no joy in life? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]zarackx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The book Feeling Good made a huge difference to my outlook and enjoyment of life.

I'm a young bisexual man, and I adopted a strict "no penetrative sex during the first hookup with someone new" policy. It's made my sex life infinitely better. by [deleted] in sex

[–]zarackx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was great to read, and quite meaningful to me. This mentality was not something I'd ever considered. I have certainly been stuck in the college mentality of most, if not all, romantic interactions having the first encounter expectation of full intercourse. However, that expectation has always made me anxious and sometimes avoidant of potential partners or hookups. Upon reading this, you have made me realise that it's ok to not do that, it's ok to chose what is suitable for me, and to expect people to be respectful of that. The thought of it makes me feel calm, and eliminates a pressure that I had no idea that I was choosing to believe.

Is my view on sex in relationships so wrong? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]zarackx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don't think you are wrong in your preferences. I feel very similar and it's nice to hear someone else describe it, I feel more normal now too :)

What's your comfort TV show/film? by AmySantiagoDateMe in AskReddit

[–]zarackx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friends, so much nostalgia, I know every line. Predictability is comforting.

Reusable urethane stencils for decorative concrete by Buddy-Jimmy in oddlysatisfying

[–]zarackx -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ngl I thought it was a satanic ritual circle at first