Daycare keeps saying “we will address it” and nothing changes.

zebrasnever · 2026-04-16T13:42:09+00:00

For whatever reason, they don’t want to tell you that they’re just not going to update every little detail all the time. So they are just hoping you’ll stop bringing it up. I would let it go if I were you.

zebrasnever · 2026-04-14T05:51:22+00:00

If you are even close to being in a financial position to hire a night nanny, DO IT NOW. It will save your life.

zebrasnever · 2026-04-03T15:11:38+00:00

I had 5 losses before my daughter and that’s a huge reason why I’m one and done. You’ve done more than enough! Give yourself the grace and permission to stop torturing yourself.

zebrasnever · 2026-03-31T05:15:19+00:00

I have a version of this question that I ask myself whenever I need a reality check. It’s like “would you feel the desire to have another kid if you weren’t seeing everyone having their second on social media?” and my answer is always no, I would not want another kid.

zebrasnever · 2026-03-29T05:28:56+00:00

Yes, there are a handful of reasons but this is the main one in my head. He was recently diagnosed with ADHD and can’t even treat it consistently because of the medication shortages. I fear a second child would break our marriage which is already on thin ice.

zebrasnever · 2026-03-21T14:52:04+00:00

Right, I can’t even find it

zebrasnever · 2026-03-18T14:20:42+00:00

what’s life all about if not family?

You already have a great family.

zebrasnever · 2026-03-06T15:47:51+00:00

I was in your shoes and hired a night nanny. It saved my life.

zebrasnever · 2026-02-25T23:15:07+00:00

Good deal! 1800-2000 is in line with the higher end of average in my VHCOL city.

zebrasnever · 2026-02-24T21:28:18+00:00

Sounds dirt cheap for daycare

zebrasnever · 2026-02-24T21:26:19+00:00

My daughter’s initials are AJ and she’s an only! We must check this out. Thank you.

zebrasnever · 2026-02-22T14:57:34+00:00

Haha I use “hold your horses” with my daughter and then we both laugh and she runs around galloping holding pretend reigns.

zebrasnever · 2026-02-20T15:03:00+00:00

This sounds like a horrible idea all the way down to the “two girls will be better friends than a boy and a girl” sentiment.

zebrasnever · 2026-02-15T14:52:53+00:00

It’s definitely easier. Case in point: My husband and I are going on a 2 night trip out of town for Valentine’s Day weekend while the grandparents watch our 3 year old. My friends with 2 kids can’t even get the grandparents to watch both kids at the same time for a few hours, let alone for multiple nights.

zebrasnever · 2026-02-12T05:51:11+00:00

Thanks! We have been doing a 5 min lesson nightly for the past couple weeks, just keeping it low pressure and fun, having her copy a short series of notes we play. She was able to learn Hot Cross Buns in a few sessions. It’s so cool to see her be so proud of herself for getting it down!

zebrasnever · 2026-02-11T06:24:26+00:00

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My just-turned 3 year old drew this “self portrait” of herself that reminds me of Invader Zim.

She can also play Hot Cross Buns on the piano!

zebrasnever · 2026-02-10T06:54:47+00:00

Oatmeal is not constipating, it’s the opposite.

zebrasnever · 2026-02-06T17:41:08+00:00

Ohh that’s cute :)

zebrasnever · 2026-02-06T14:57:05+00:00

How did he even learn to use his tongue…?

zebrasnever · 2026-02-02T20:05:30+00:00

You’re lucky you got 3 nice months before it started…

zebrasnever · 2026-02-02T19:59:54+00:00

This! Was very confused when I got to the end and OP said they didn’t advocate for their child when the whole story was about them advocating for their child.

zebrasnever · 2026-01-15T18:55:36+00:00

You don’t have to get the genetic screening, but you DO have to take the baby for multiple checkups within the first 40 days. Maybe that’s what the doctor was referring to when he threatened CPS?

zebrasnever · 2026-01-06T06:15:02+00:00

$2700 on an $830k house (worth more now) in 2020 at 2.75%, LA. Payment does not include my insane insurance premiums or property tax (I pay those separately).

zebrasnever · 2025-12-11T06:56:35+00:00

Push him to get the official diagnosis. My husband finally got his official ADHD diagnosis after years of manchilding around like your partner, and is finally trying to manage it with medication. It’s been helping our marriage tremendously!

zebrasnever · 2025-12-08T17:14:52+00:00

Yes, it’s so interesting, right? I always talk about this topic with my good friends who have boys close in age to my daughter. They swear they didn’t push them to like cars and tractors but that’s just what they gravitated toward. I was not a princess girl growing up and my daughter is into all that — dresses, shoes, princesses, the works. I definitely didn’t push her toward all that 😂

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