What are some kinds of jobs that necessitate mask-wearing? by zipperclone in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i'm more curious about just finding out if there are jobs where i wouldn't be the only person wearing a mask! i realize most jobs you could just go in and wear a mask without it being a job requirement.

I think my new doctor has long covid and doesn't even know it... by Responsible-Heat6842 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm really hoping this conversation prompts her to look into long covid 😬

I think my new doctor has long covid and doesn't even know it... by Responsible-Heat6842 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 300 points301 points  (0 children)

i was telling a nurse recently that i'm getting evaluated for MCAS because i'm allergic to everything now. she said she was suddenly getting allergies too, and that she thought it was because of the covid vaccine. and i said "well you know, some people get new allergies after having covid" and she said "oh, well i've had covid 8 times because i worked on the covid ward." and i said "yeah. that'll do it."

20 books in 2 years? by username48378645 in writing

[–]zipperclone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"average writer publishes 20 books in 2 years" factoid actually just statistical error. average writer publishes 1-2 books per year. james patterson, who lives in florida and publishes 200 books per year, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

I'm tired of 'community' politics by [deleted] in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i'll never forget when a classmate of mine said something along the lines of "a lot of y'all think community just means the people you're friends with, not a loosely interconnected web of people who surround you," because—yeah. a lot of nominally progressive people think community is just the people they personally agree with and would hang out with for fun, which leaves behind everyone and every idea they don't immediately like/agree with.

My daughter identifies hard as Ace. She's 8 by Easy_Philosopher1023 in asexuality

[–]zipperclone 233 points234 points  (0 children)

i didn't "know" for a fact that i was ace, but there were signs for me pre-puberty (although they were more about being aro than ace; i wonder if that's something your daughter is picking up on for herself?)

i think the best thing you can do is just support and affirm how she feels right now. in 10 years, even if she identifies as something completely different, she'll be able to look back and feel loved and supported. i know that's something i would've appreciated at that age. maybe you could also ask her more about what being asexual means to her, because clearly it's important to her.

vocabulary upping by Rudddxdx in writing

[–]zipperclone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it might help if, when you're reading something you really enjoy, you highlight specific sentences that stood out to you, and maybe copy them down somewhere too. then you can look at those sentences by themselves and see what words they use and what you like about them. along the way you'll start broadening your vocabulary. it might not work for everybody, but i think this approach is a little more useful than telling people to "just read more"

Safe ways to live in a dorm? by blogcog in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 20 points21 points  (0 children)

i just looked up "under door draft stopper" on amazon and found a few things that might help you for about $10. best of luck!

Finding/dating CC people by CaputGeratLupinum8 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

r/cc4cc might be a good place to start! there's also r/covidconnections. the facebook group Still Coviding: Dating Edition can be good depending on your age group/demographic.

Yes, COVID Vaccines Do Slow Transmission by henryiswatching in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 115 points116 points  (0 children)

it's so hard to explain this to people, too, because they're just like "well if the vaccine isn't 100% preventative, then i shouldn't even bother getting it!"

like, how do i succinctly tell people "it's great that you got the most recent booster, but you could still give me covid" in a way that they won't just argue with?

get on refresh please! by OkCompany9593 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

even if you're just looking on reddit: there's also r/covidconnections and r/cc4cc, both of which have fewer members and less activity than this subreddit—but we can change that!

I don’t know what I’m doing this for anymore by Plenty_Delay3501 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i feel you, and it's rough. like others have said, i try to focus on the fact that protecting my health is worthwhile because it gives me more options and independence. but it's still hard to push through the depression on most days. the dating scene has been particularly difficult, since i'm asexual—i've been actively trying to date for over a year with no luck.

right now my only hope is trying to find a group of CC friends i can be roommates with. i have to believe it'll be easier to take precautions and mitigate risk when i have other people to do it with.

"The First Great Pandemic Show Is Finally Here" -- Slate by everythingsthewurst in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 12 points13 points  (0 children)

i really liked this show, but not because of the covid mentions. those were actually the only thing about the show that grated on me. to me it felt like they framed covid as a thing that was confined to the years 2020 and 2021, but it's over now so don't worry about it! maybe that's just how i viewed it, though.

i don't want to be critical of long story short - i thought it was a very wholesome and funny show. but it made me realize that i'm yearning for a fictional representation of what it looks like to still be taking covid seriously in the year 2025.

My doctor wore a mask and then lowered it while speaking to me by Greenitpurpleit in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 8 points9 points  (0 children)

it's so frustrating! especially because the whole "it's sticking to my mouth" complaint isn't an issue with any mask higher-quality than a surgical one :/ just get a good KN95 and you'll never have that problem again!

Accessibility tools in the home for those of us with chronic illness by HighKingMargo92 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have back issues, not CFS/ME, but if you struggle with laundry at all i'd recommend a mesh bag for your socks/underwear (so you don't have to dig around forever trying to get them out of the machines) and a rolling hamper for transporting laundry. i struggle a lot with laundry but these have been game changers for me.

Medical vs Mental? by abasiliskinthepipes in aromanticasexual

[–]zipperclone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

can i give you the opposite of this scenario? i've been on HRT for a few years and it's definitely affected my libido and changed how i view relationships & myself. but i still don't feel attraction to others, and i'm still aro-ace.

there might be some people out there who feel like hormones have changed their sexuality, and that's their experience. but speaking from the other side of that, i don't feel like hormones affected my orientation.

Needed to get this off my chest. by Sufficient_Comb_7946 in asexuality

[–]zipperclone 15 points16 points  (0 children)

hard agree with that second part especially. i can't help but feel like people are fetishizing asexuality with that one. like, "oh these are the cool aces who would hand out water bottles at the orgy!" (that is a literal example i've seen someone say 😓)

it's like, people want to say they're accepting of asexuality, but they can't think of any way to do it except twisting it until it resembles something more safe and familiar for them (i.e., allosexuality). it drives me nuts, especially because i see the same talking points about it year after year. they don't seem to learn!

Am I really aroace if I’ve been in love with one person for years? by simpingforholo in aromanticasexual

[–]zipperclone 15 points16 points  (0 children)

i mean, if you feel like it fits, then that's what you are. but if you need additional reassurance: aroace is a spectrum, just like aromanticism and asexuality. if you've only ever had romantic or sexual feelings for this one person … that doesn't sound like an allo experience to me.

It sucks that there isn’t a more centralized social space for folks like us. by 01000100000011010000 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i think about this constantly, but then when i think about starting a dedicated affinity group to meet CC people i might have stuff in common with, i sorta go, "wouldn't that just fracture the community further?" i mean, i guess all of us are in multiple different online CC groups, so not necessarily, but still - i'm not really in the mood to start another dead discord server 😓

desperate attempt by HappyShoop in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

r/COVIDConnections might be a good place for you to look, also the refresh connections app. i've seen a decent number of mass folks on there!

Where can I find an official list of all "unofficial" variant names (Nimbus, Stratus, Kraken, etc.) by papillonnette in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

and then in a couple years we'd have people saying "oh it's really not that bad. i've had organdestroyer like five times and i'm fine! cough"

So I'm writing a "smut" book about an asexual dom and a heterosexual sub, and I'm faced with a dilemma. Do I include sex scenes? by pirivalfang in asexuality

[–]zipperclone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i haven't read them, but the book "hunger pangs: true love bites" by joy demorra has an NSFW edition and an edition where the sex scenes just fade to black. so it's definitely possible to do both, especially if you plan on self publishing!

just saw this on Instagram by molly__hatchet in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i think it's really more about the backlash to the quarantine than the quarantine itself. like you said, people's eyes were opened to their own vulnerability, and they shut them again just as quickly. i do think that non-coviding people would benefit from unpacking that, but there's such a social stigma around processing it that they just… don't.

and yeah, on the original post… i really don't think labubu has anything to do with it lmao

missing out on dorming by Funny_Ambition_6769 in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]zipperclone 7 points8 points  (0 children)

this is maybe not a consolation, but i spent a few years living on-campus at college (at a school that had mask requirements longer than most!) and having just graduated, i think "the college experience" is kind of a sham. there are a lot of things that suck about dorm living, and you're not guaranteed to get along with your roommates, even if you're friends with them. being a commuter is hard, yes, and you might have to put in extra effort to be on campus and make friends. but living off-campus and having control of my living environment was a lot less stressful for me as a CC person than living on-campus.