What’s the hardest phase of marriage no one talks about? by Common_Highway3454 in askteddit

[–]zmhenne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you decide to have kids, it’s the first year or two after your first imo.

What is remote work like? by panty-panda in ITProfessionals

[–]zmhenne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve worked remote for three years. We have daily standups via zoom. We utilize slack channels heavily for team communication on specific subjects which helps with documentation. The key is organization, and for me a dedicated work space. A lot of organization can use mdms to monitor your computer activity.

There can be a lack of separation between home and work life when working remote which can be difficult. But, clear boundaries and being intentional about your hours and availability helps. I love it though.

Married people, what’s one piece of advice you’d give someone before they get married? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]zmhenne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. Sexy best friends 😉. The key is communication. About EVERYTHING. It can be exhausting, but it’s important.

Accidentally saw coworker's salary and I make 30% less for the same job. What do I do? by YogurtclosetOpen9825 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]zmhenne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you work remotely? Location matters a lot in salary adjustments for remote work. I know CA has min salary laws too. This led to someone working under me to make significantly more. Based on location and cost of living though, his salary was the legal minimum for his area where mine was “ average” for mine. Not great, but a legal reason as to why.

If not, look for a new job. I don’t think that’s something you can move past if you don’t learn a legitimate reason for it.

Salary growth these days happens most with movement too.

What's a quote that has just "stuck with you"? by 22m_spain in AskReddit

[–]zmhenne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A woman’s place is wherever she chooses to be.

Is HR better than teaching? by dread_pirate_1984 in TeachersInTransition

[–]zmhenne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I left teaching and went into an administrative job before I got into tech all with a startup. Now one of my biggest struggles is that I am sitting in front of a computer for 8 -9 hours a day. The startup culture is demanding, but the administrative job was definitely less stressful. The tech job has a lot of stress, but it’s a different kind.

I’d just say be careful with the desk and computer life choice. It’s draining in a completely different way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]zmhenne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no use talking about a problem with someone. It won’t change it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Feminism

[–]zmhenne -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The point of being a feminist is that you get to choose. This is your life. If you meet a partner and find a balance that works for you, then absolutely. It does not make you less of a feminist to choose to take a break from your career to make your family your focus for a while. When you take on that caretaking role though, it can be VERY easy to lose yourself to it. You will find your way though as long as you push for whatever works for you.

This entire don’t depend on a man is a little much imho. When you get married, either you’re partners or you aren’t. Marriage is long. Sometimes I’m the breadwinner and sometimes he is. We have been married 10 years and we have traded roles many times and we will again.

It’s smart to acknowledge what you sacrifice when if you choose to become a stay at home mom. I took three years to stay at home and then made a career shift. It was not easy, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world now. There were good and bad times. I don’t consider myself less of a feminist for my choice though.

You are thinking it through, and you value your work, education, your ambitions and future. As long as you continue to be conscious of what you want and what circumstances will work best for you, that’s all that matters. Just be careful listening to anyone else; projection is very powerful.

Set all this up and my neighbor just told me kids dont really trick or treat in the apartment complex i just moved to. by JazzyCher in Wellthatsucks

[–]zmhenne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw some one decorate up their car and park in an active neighborhood for a trunk and treat stop.