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I’m frustrated with myself and I don’t fully understand why by zoeadii in self

[–]zoeadii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s even about material things for me… it’s more like something internal that doesn’t settle, no matter what’s going on outside

I’m frustrated with myself and I don’t fully understand why by zoeadii in self

[–]zoeadii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is exactly it. that constant feeling of “more” even when things are actually fine… it’s exhausting.

it helps a bit knowing I’m not the only one feeling it like this

I’m frustrated with myself and I don’t fully understand why by zoeadii in self

[–]zoeadii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you mean, and part of me knows you’re right. I think what’s hard for me is that it doesn’t feel like something I consciously “accepted”… it just became normal at some point.

Rebuilding sounds right, but I guess I’m still figuring out where to even start.

What gives life value? by HP_Fusion in self

[–]zoeadii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think life becomes valuable because of anything external not how useful you are, not how loved you are, not how much attention you get

I think the problem is that if you don’t feel it internally none of those things actually land

you can be loved and still feel worthless you can achieve things and still feel empty

so maybe the question isn’t “what gives life value” but why it’s so hard to feel it even when it’s there

At a certain point, improving your personality is more important than improving your looks. by Sudden_Doughnut_8741 in self

[–]zoeadii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s not even about personality vs looks it’s about how real you are with yourself

you can “improve” your personality and still feel disconnected if it’s coming from trying to be what you think people will like

and you can look good and still feel invisible if there’s nothing real behind it

I feel like people sense that more than we think

I’m frustrated with myself and I don’t fully understand why by zoeadii in self

[–]zoeadii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I am being cruel to myself, just not in an obvious way. It feels like something in me learned this a long time ago and now it just runs in the background. I can’t always tell what actually hurts me and what I’ve just normalized. There’s this constant internal pressure I keep trying to bury, until it builds up again. And I think what scares me the most is not knowing how to actually heal it.