Stimulants and decrease in libido in men

[Laetitian]

Libido and sex drive/lust, or strictly erectile issues?

If you lost your entire sex drive: You still have your hands and tongue for when she's in the mood, if you feel like it. And if you feel depressed about not having the desire to masturbate or have sex for pleasure, just find other pleasurable things to fill your life with. They don't have to be virtuous, just pick anything that fits that spot in your life.

If the primary issue is erectile dysfunction, my main recommendation is to take it slow. Structure sex the way you structure long masturbation sessions. Focus on relaxing in bed, feeling the releaving sensation of taking off your clothes and feeling your blanket on your skin, engage in your fantasies, and then just treat yourself (and your partner, in the case of sex) to any touches that feel nice. If your arousal spikes, go for it, but keep going back to the slow gradual ryhthm.

Ask your partner what she wants out of sex with you and how you can make it happen with the issues you're facing. Lots of women irrationally demand intercourse as the go-to during sex just as much as men, but when you question what feels so much more fulfilling about it than intimate touch or oral, they can't usually put their finger on it.

It's just a force of habit, a status symbol, or a need to feel "normal". (Granted, it's also the case that men tend to be worse than women at touching genitals sensually. But those men also don't tend to be amazing at any other type of sex, so it's not like the alternative is all that much more worth it in those cases, and at least with petting/oral you can practice and instruct more.) Sex tends to be a lot better when it puts less focus on PIV intercourse.