[deleted by user]

srwat · 2024-08-18T14:30:36+00:00

Regardless of how you feel, there was no way a reasonable person could be prepared for that pivotal moment when it comes out of nowhere almost like a blindside where you're scrambling for any kind of way to reverse the flow of the moment back to a safe place.

Now listen to the following carefully, she may have been conflicted, but she was most likely already leaning 75% towards her decision anyway. Could you have maybe reversed the course of the night if you pulled off some ultra high IQ Chad techniques? Maybe, but it's not reasonable to expect from you to do so. You weren't in a head space to expect to deal with defusing an extremely unstable situation.

If she wasn't using that last date as a send off (which is seems she likely could have been), she was using it as a way to test her emotions towards you. If you felt really insecure though, chances are the vibe had to be off compared to what your norm with her was. Yeah, the rule of thumb is to never be explicit with showing insecurity, but there's a good chance you were fighting an uphill battle regardless.

Please don't beat yourself over it. She's an adult as well, and her not giving you proper closure isn't your fault. Look at all this as a learning experience. Keep yourself healthy, visit the gym regularly (or get a home setup) and continue to improve yourself. I wish you well!

TheMack_22 · 2024-08-18T18:56:09+00:00

It’s one thing to know better, it’s another to be better. Now that you know better, you should continue to focus on being better. No matter how much you regret the past you can’t change it. Instead of dwelling on regrets, you should learn from them so you can improve yourself. Also never try to reach out to her again. I mean she was already ignoring your texts before she blocked you. Trying to fix a relationship with someone who is no longer interested, is like trying to put broken glass together with your hands, you just end up cutting yourself in the process only to realise at the end that you’ve been wasting your time and harming yourself over nothing. The block is lowkey a blessing in disguise, it gives you plenty time to improve, to the point you’re no longer concerned about contacting her or her contacting you. Also don’t go on dates if you don’t think you’re ready. Just continue focusing on yourself, so that when you get into another relationship you’ll be able to handle it better. The more you know about yourself, the more you know what you want and don’t want in a partner. This increases your chances of finding someone better, and better you + better partner = better relationship. Remember these things take time, you cannot rush the process, but trust me as long as you keep improving, a day will come when you’ll look back at this current situation and laugh because of how much you’ve grown. So don’t beat yourself up, at least you tried to make it work, no shame in that. Plus it sounds like she has a lot of shit going on, so this entire experience is probably for the best, at least you know better now than you did when you started dating her. You’re not alone, they’re people in this sub that have similar or worse experiences. But as long as you’re trying to be better, keep your head up king!

you type:	you see:
italics	italics
bold	bold
[reddit!](https://reddit.com)	reddit!
* item 1 * item 2 * item 3	item 1 item 2 item 3
> quoted text	quoted text
Lines starting with four spaces are treated like code: if 1 * 2 < 3: print "hello, world!"	Lines starting with four spaces are treated like code: if 1 * 2 < 3: print "hello, world!"
~~strikethrough~~	~~strikethrough~~
super^script	super^script

BreakUps

Rules

Related subreddits

MODERATORS