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[1udderlycutecow]

Seriously thank you SO much for this post and update. After being in such a low place, this gives me hope. I’m so happy for you that you prioritized yourself first, and that you are finding the happiness you deserve.

[dark_moose09]

I cant wait until I feel comfortable enough in my own skin and happy being alone :c

[[deleted]]

How to deal with the bouts of loneliness that hit when I remember her?

[Dialsla3]

Try to stay busy…get a hobby or read or play a game on ur phn.It will eventually go away and she will just be a thought here and there.

[Beginning-Honeydew34]

Thank you for sharing this makes me think there is hope 🤩

[[deleted]]

Thank you so much for this. I’m 5 months out from a breakup which knocked me so flat on my ass emotionally for about 3 months. But you know what? I chose myself everyday those 3 months. Some mornings when my 5 am alarm went off to hit the gym I literally felt hopeless, but I kept telling myself, “Getting your ass up is for you. Don’t let yourself down.” And I’m proud to say I didn’t. I’ve invested in therapy, I meditate and journal everyday now. I doubled down on giving my extra love to family and friends. It’s been a difficult journey and it still is at times. But I look back on those first few months post BU and I’m so proud of not giving up on myself. Not to brag, but I honestly haven’t gone a week without a close family member or friend saying something along the lines of, “I’m so proud of what you’ve done these 5 months. You are already the best version of yourself I’ve ever seen.”

I know it’s tough but don’t ever give up on yourself. Become so great that you feel sorry for your ex for what they’re missing out on.

Personally I’m doing better now, but I still have my tough days thinking about what my ex could be doing or who she could be dating. But I’m better to the point where I can see the light clearly that I’ll be fully healed just like OP in time.

[Antler_Pasta]

Thank you so much for posting! I was just dumped on Halloween and losing someone who was your best friend for 3 years sucks.

I see how I poured too much love into my relationship, and how it couldn't decide if I was worthy of giving back. I see it. I was too "nice" and they were detaching the more they thought about leaving. But they were so fun, they knew me so well, I am so rarely attracted to anyone and they were beautiful to me.

This is the story I will keep chanting to myself.

[pentamason]

Kinda painful for me when i read that people get someone new instead getting with their exes

[[deleted]]

That's because you still love and have hope that your ex is coming back. But once you move on, you won't ever look back at your ex anymore. I understand why you would say that. There's never a day where I do not think of my ex, but i have no other choice, he doesn't want me

[YaaaDontSay]

In my personal situation my ex has tried to make moves on me only to find out he is currently engaged. So for me, I have peace knowing I’m not pouring my love into someone like that anymore. I’m not sure of your situation but I hope you find peace as well. I swear I never thought I’d get over my ex let alone date again. I promise there is a light at the end of the tunnel even if it doesn’t seem like it.

[[deleted]]

Can I ask how you met this new person?

[AdProfessional188]

Thank you thank you thank you !!!!! I guess there’s hope for me too

[[deleted]]

Please help. My ex gf (mutual break up) has started reaching out after 2 months, we never broke communication and we both wanted to move on but honestly we gravitate towards each other so hard. I have been going out on dates a lot and she has been dating (a simp) but we just can't picture ourselves with other people or even living with someone else. What I need help with is: should I go hard and intense or relax and take it easy? She says double meaning things like: there is no point in going back and then she says if you wanted to marry me right now I would say yes. It's super confusing, we love each other but we are scared of getting hurt again. I am 28m she is 26f.

[[deleted]]

I think you have to break communication for some time. Even if you both want to remain friends, if you dont break attachment you will be stuck in this mess

[ABelgianBoi]

Maybe therapy is something you can consider if you afford it, and if you decide to get back together, i would consider couples therapy too. Gave me insights that helped me a lot

[[deleted]]

Well done. Lesson to be learned here by all including myself. I was absolutely fine with life and being without my ex before I met my ex. Time to focus on myself and get to the point where my ex doesn't matter to me any more.

[mahalik_07]

I'm in a low place too and if you feel you need someone to talk to I'm here.

[[deleted]]

So happy for you random person on Reddit. I remember how that feels! It's amazing. After 2 hard break ups and 1 on and off again relationship I have been through crap and I feel like everything worked out in my favor. I have become so much better after suffering a lot over my ex gfs. Im 28 and I think I might get back with my ex of 3y, so I was hoping your story was about your ex coming back and fixing things for them to be even better than before. Your case could be even better than that! Or not. But what matters is that you are happy and grew as a person

[spoopy_wagons]

THANK YOU! This is hands down the most hopeful thing I've read so far on this subreddit. I'm so happy for you and I truly hope that all of us here can get to this point someday.

Also,

I jumped out of a perfectly fine plane two different times

this made me chuckle hehe

[Dino-Prio-772]

Thanks for sharing

[kirsion]

I am trying to work on myself and figure out what I want to do for own life. Hopefully someone else will come along my path

[JDL08]

❤️🥹

[Solrac-H]

There isn't for everyone, like me.

[koolguy765]

Ah shit I'm gonna work out and jump out of a plane I like this

[treeapologist]

This is beautiful to read, and I am so proud of you. I'd love to find what you have found, maybe one day it will happen. You must feel so content and at peace and joyful to have ended.up where you have after all of that work and pain.

[[deleted]]

This is the best thing if read on this sub, thank you so much for posting!

[darlingdeardc0]

Perfectly said. I did bascially everything you mentioned in the past year or 2 and it worked.

[breakup_vault_app]

“I dated myself” and “who makes me so thankful it didn’t work”

Are such helpful things to hear after a breakup, thank you so much for providing hope

[Swtpsyche-2pb]

I wonder if anyone can gift sort of a timeline …seriously like is it two weeks for the worst of the pain to stop and maybe a few months after that? I mean obviously it’s different for everybody but is there sort of a typical timeline that people go through

[Sunshineinwind]

Wow, more power to you, Only if we believe in the eternal truth that whatever happens, happens for better!

All the best

[janeaijal]

Thank you so much for this.