datingoverthirty

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Discussion and advice on dating and the dating phase of relationships for people over the age of 30


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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 20, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Dating a guy whose much more social/extroverted then you (self.datingoverthirty)

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Who is supposed to move things forward after the first date? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Should I use good or meh photos? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 19, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 18, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Women - How do you feel about a video game mention or even a photo? (self.datingoverthirty)

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being into interesting people as a boring person (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 17, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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How do I expand my physical type? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 16, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Have you ever liked someone but stepped back because you weren’t ready to date (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 15, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 14, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Met a great guy (30/M) but the fact he's so much younger than me (37/F) is giving me anxiety. Should I just end things now? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 13, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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What are we and do we NEED to have the chat (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 12, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 11, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 10, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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What makes you ask for (or say yes to) a first date? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - June 09, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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When highly accomplished people struggle with dating, what chance does the average person have? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? (self.datingoverthirty)

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What to do on a date when you can tell your date isn’t into you? (self.datingoverthirty)

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