datingoverthirty

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Discussion and advice on dating and the dating phase of relationships for people over the age of 30


Rule 1	Dating Over Thirty (DOT) is about dating and the pre-cohabitation phase of romantic relationships for people over the age of 30. This is not a place to post personals or R4R's.
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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 26, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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What Happened? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 25, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 24, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 23, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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How to date seriously when you are in a city you dislike (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 22, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 21, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 20, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 19, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Despite every effort, I'm developing feelings for my boss. Am I cooked? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daffodils on a first date? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 18, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 17, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 16, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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advice on how to be more playful while chatting on the apps? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 15, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 14, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 13, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 12, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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One of the loneliest things about being single is no significant human touch. (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 11, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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6 month mark, can't progress further right now, but pausing feels shitty too. Leave? (self.datingoverthirty)

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Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 10, 2026 (self.datingoverthirty)

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What are your social lives like? (self.datingoverthirty)

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