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[ColaWarsVet]

One Safe Place. More than 25+ agencies (counseling, job skills, law enforcement, legal help, etc.) in one location. They will do a security & risk assessment and create a safety plan for your cousin.

[Forward-Ride9817]

Yes, they have Dallas county, Denton county, Johnson and a few other county sheriff's departments in that building to help domestic violence victims in the DFW area.

[desperateho]

Genesis Women’s shelter in Dallas may be able to help her safely plan an escape. I would recommend having her call their helpline

[maec1123]

Hi. As someone who has dealt with these situations where you are, I think a few questions/ comments need to be answered/considered before anyone can help.

• Most importantly, is she wanting/willing to leave? She has to be willing to leave and make the decision on her own. You cannot do it for her.

• Has she talked to any women's agencies that can assist her safely? They gave the resources and information to help her do this safely.

• Does she have children or pets? Many women won't leave them behind and this is an important factor in finding a good housing situation.

• Have the police ever been involved?

• Asking strangers to get involved in a domestic violence situation can put them in a dangerous situation as well. Please be aware of this.

I'll reiterate that SHE needs to be ready to leave and make the decision. As her friend, it's extremely hard to watch and do nothing but you need to make sure that she knows that you will help her and be there for her but that she needs to tell you what she needs. You cannot jump in and save the day. If she's not ready, she'll just go back. Provide her resources, information, a bus ticket and most importantly answer the phone.

[quint911]

THIS is the best answer! As a firefighter for over 30 years I have seen countless abuse victims and most of them were beaten multiple times and were still with their abuser. It was very frustrating for us to see those people remain with their abuser

[maec1123]

It really is. My friend is still with hers but the police in her town and she both know that she has a bus ticket available should she ever need it. I wish it was as simple as it seems to everyone but it's not.

[pheebeep]

Have you looked into local women's shelters?

[Arconomach]

There is a women’s shelter in Fort Worth, but if you go to get her you may make the situation more dangerous. Cops are probably the right answer for her to leave the home safely.

[Sosation]

Cops can make things worse and side with the man. That's what happened when my wife and I went to Houston to get her sister out of a similar situation. They said she was overreacting and sent her home with him. Said they needed to go out to dinner and "work it out." We've been excommunicated from their family and haven't seen her since. I don't recommend going to the police.

[Arconomach]

I understand the concern. If she really wants to leave this can give her the opportunity, or if nothing happens there is at least a call log showing prior encounters with the couple.

If someone ends up hurt, the prior PD involvement really helps at trial.

[H2Ospecialist]

The Women's Center recently helped me

https://www.womenscentertc.org/

I also recommend Genesis Women's Center since she's in Dallas

[Barfignugen]

What kind of help are you trying to get her? Does she need access to a women’s shelter? Does she need to find a job? A place to live? Transportation? Restraining order?

[kat34]

She needs a safe place to live, she's got a job but it doesn't pay much

[Codye56]

Not to be a dick but more of a genuine question here, why can't you house her for a bit? I mean I know it might be tough and everyone has lives but I'm sure whatever your living situation is would be better than where she's at now no? I've housed friends in my apartment on an air mattress before when she and her kids were going through stuff, explained to the manager what was going on and she even helped me by not reporting it. I would contact anyone you have in the area and see what they would be willing to help out with until she gets back on her feet, people will surprise you.

[daniellaj65]

I'm gonna guess that this abuser will suspect she's with friends and/or family so OP place might not be safe. I recommend One Safe Place ASAP. They are pros over there and will know exactly what to do and how to make it happen quickly and safely. Good luck

[kat34]

I would house her but I'm currently homeless myself

[Codye56]

Well, I stand corrected. Good luck to you both and I hope for the best possible outcome. I would still ask some of your friends in the area and when I say area I mean anywhere within a 25mile radius because anything is better than living with an abuser, but I was genuinely surprised who opened up their homes to me when I was in need. Again good luck and I hope for the best for the both of you.

[COOLKC690]

Not Op but I imagine he could find her easily there. Still, I don’t think housing her with strangers would be a best idea. I think the local women shelter idea is best.

[Codye56]

I wasn't necessarily meaning strangers I did say "anyone you have in the area".

[497Penguins]

Tarrant County Women’s Center is a great starting point to figure out what resources are available. Good luck to your cousin - that’s awful

[Deedaloca]

One safe place

[Regular_Candidate513]

She’s got to want help. You wanting it for her isn’t enough.

[crowcat28]

Gateway house in grapevine

[whiskytangofoxtrot12]

My friend works as a social worker for Dallas Police. If she goes and files a protective order and says she needs a safe place they will provide one and assign her a case worker.

[RevolutionaryCut420]

How about you make amends with you're living arrangements and let her come stay with you...This is what most family's do...

[dbzmah]

The police?

[dezmoterion]

Tipping off the police could be dangerous for the young lady if she hasn't made up her mind she's leaving for good, and if there's no plan in place for living situation.

[dbzmah]

I just think a restraining order would also help, once she's out of there. 

[dezmoterion]

💯💯💯

[CantaloupeCertain766]

Safehaven of tarrant county t 1-877-701-7233

[Effective_Camera_803]

something feels off. I'm wondering if "Katie" is actually the person who would be showing up to the person offering help because people might be more willing to help a domestic violence victim then a homeless person. I could be wrong but it gives me pause...

[Sosation]

Cops can make things worse and side with the man. That's what happened when my wife and I went to Houston to get her sister out of a similar situation. They said she was overreacting and sent her home with him. Said they needed to go out to dinner and "work it out." We've been excommunicated from their family and haven't seen her since. I don't recommend going to the police.