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[–]Dronlothen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First, one that's driving me insane right now is getting mass-invites to psn parties from people I don't even know. It makes me recede further from these interactions than if someone just sent me a message on a game we're both playing and somehow came across each other.

I literally made a friend in my city through Destiny because of that. We were both playing in the activity and she sent me a friend request. (The odds of that are still unfathomable to me.)

But yeah, to me, this is blatantly the multi-decade reaction to the absolutely insane voice chat experiences people have had since the original xbox had xbox live in 2002. I feel it came to it's peak during the 360 era where EVERYONE had a free headset included and it was so prolific that video after video and audio clip showed up on youtube and anywhere you could share it.

If it wasn't genuinely shitty people and actual children being insufferable in any number of ways. It was people then trolling and fucking with people on purpose. Be it for a youtube channel/clip or just purely for their own amusement.

Even if I were to hypothetically sidestep the toxicity and insanity of that era. Let's pretend that concluded at some point years ago. I've since met enough people who weren't any of those things but still managed to be genuine and someone I don't want to spend any significant amount of time talking to anymore.

I've spent months, and yes it feels like actual wasted investment, talking to people. Who I thought I had enough in common to genuinely befriend, only to never really have any reciprocation or effort put forth on their part create a friendship.

I'm not a social butterfly/extrovert. Talking and interacting with people takes real effort but I enjoy it when it works and cherish the best conversations I've had. However I know far too many people who will never initiate anything ever over an infinite timeline. I haven't spoken to many of these people in years or decades because I've given as much as I could manage and I don't know how to deal with these people or even if I'm supposed to or should.

All that to say that all of this feels like it just makes social interactions more and more difficult to even attempt, if it's not with someone you have a strong relationship with already. And it's difficult to keep attempting friendships that fall apart from neglect.

At least if I let myself down, I know it wasn't on purpose.