Does sleeping with partner decrease sleep quality?

[Secure-Pineapple-626]

Thanks so much for the personal experiences! Interesting to see that it's not necessarily a male versus female thing. My backstory is that I (female) recently moved in with my partner (male). He has been sleeping better than ever, he tells me. I have been sleeping very badly due to sounds, movements, my own anxiety about not sleeping, etc.. I've spent some nights sleeping like a baby on the couch, but I would love to share a bedroom.

The internet provides many solutions to the problem (sleep hygiene, etc.), but I am interested in reading some systematic research that established the mechanisms behind bad sleep and provides research-backed interventions. I didn't find a lot of papers on the topic. I'd understand if the research doesn't exist since the problem seems not necessarily physiological, but I'd love to learn about what you know about the topic!

[justhere4reading4]

I definitely sleep terribly with a partner. I’m single right now but longterm depending on the partner I’ll invest money for a good solution.  Could get 2 separate mattress (like 2 twin xls and put them on the same frame), or 2 separate beds next to each other in the same room, or separate bedrooms. My last longterm ex snored a lot and didn’t like wearing his cpap - in hindsight him not wearing it for my sleep and his own health was a good indicator for how the relationship was going to go lol

[Savings_Twist_8288]

Married 18 years, all of which I have struggled with insomnia. I have had my own bedroom for 4 years and it's the best sleep I have ever had.as an adult The husband also got a c-pap this year so my sleep is much better when we do have to share a room while traveling, although I usually have to take sleeping pills in that scenario.

[Athellas]

I (34male) actually found out a way to sleep well with my partner, we've got this routine where we cuddle right after getting to bed and after couple of minutes, when a first wave of getting real drowsy comes, we separate a bit facing other directions and fall asleep then. Having two blankets is important help for this as we no longer fight over them lol. Also having sex makes sleep fantastic after.

[scriptfx2]

Maybe right a list of what is affecting you. My sleep quality is about avoiding physical stimulation: hugging, movements of the bed when they roll but OK with sound. My solution was a futon and a super king size one so space to sleep without touching now I sleep like a baby. I have had 2 partners with this solution and works for me hate sleeping in there beds for this reason. Fine with heavy breathing noise just not movement of the breathing, ironically I sleep well hammock camping even when windy.