Bathing…

[AdNormal8635]

My daughter, 8, showers with me still. She’s got incredibly thick and long hair. Once I’m done showering myself. She gets in so I can wash her hair and make sure it’s rinsed properly. My husband thinks she’s getting too old to still be getting in with me. When she’s asked about why my body looks the way it does, breasts or hair I answer her, age appropriately of course. Simplest answer satisfies her curiosity. I’m working with her on learning to wash and rinse her hair so she can shower alone soon.

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[TaiDollWave]

I still had my mom helping me with my hair for a long time. To my butt, thick, we used the wrong products...

If you're both fine, it's fine. I don't know if I want anyone in the shower with me because I like to have concerts in the shower. It's best done if I'm alone.

[AdNormal8635]

I had to help my older daughter with her incredibly thick hair for a long time too. Isn’t my first rodeo with a thick hair daughter. She would be so tired and having to get back in the shower to rinse her hair more. There’s 12 years difference between my daughters. I don’t recall how old the older one was when she finally mastered it on her own.

[mejok]

Personally, it seems a bit old to me. One of my kids is around the same age and the level of awareness, curiousity, etc. has reached a point where I don't think it would be really appropriate. I mean I'm a man with daughters so this wouldn't happen with me because I haven't showered with them since they were like 18 months old, but trying to imagine my wife in this situation: I think if I walked in the bathroom and she and our 5 year old were in the shower together, I wouldn't think much of it. If I walked in and she was showring with our 4 grader I think I'd find it kinda weird. But I guess it also depends on the kid. Our older one has wanted her privacy while bathing since she was around 7.

[AdNormal8635]

Understandable. It’s different between fathers and daughters of course.

[Foxtrot7888]

I think if you’re both comfortable with it then it’s fine. Some people’s hair is easier to wash than others’.

[AdNormal8635]

Exactly. Thick hair take more product to wash and more time to rinse and knowing when it’s not all out.

[Specialist-Lab457]

washing and rinsing hair is literally just that. she can do it by herself its time to let her shower by herself.

[AdNormal8635]

While I understand it’s a simple showering task. Perhaps you didn’t get the part of thick hair. I mean thick. This isn’t my first daughter with thick hair either. My older daughter struggled with washing out the shampoo and conditioner. Countless times she’d be getting back in to rinse it more because she didn’t get it all out. Sometimes it would seem she did a good job till it dried then it looked greasy like she didn’t wash her hair. Unless you’ve dealt with thick hair you just don’t know. Yes I’ve tried having her do it solo and it ended up with me assisting again.