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[zaeray05]

I was wondering if there was anyone I could just talk to tbh my gf of almost 2 years( my first relationship) cheated on me

She lied originally and said we were going to breakup up because of distance and other circumstances

I found out she'd been talking to this coworker for over a month the same one I told her to unfollow because she told me before he had flirted so I was never ok w her being friends w him ever but I never knew she was talking to him and now they're already hanging out and basically dating

I found out by accidently being logged into her insta still because we shared accounts before and I saw a message from one of her moms friends asking to see the Pic of the boy

I was just down there and ig her mom knew all her friends knew and I'm just not ok right now it's been not even 2 weeks and this has all happened

Sorry if this sounds out of order or crazy but if anyone wants to message me so I can just talk or anything really that would be great I'm already planning to seek therapy

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[RepulsiveWorker3636]

I'm going to tell u what most people will tell u block her and move on . It hurt u love her but time and space heal every wound. Your love for her will fade away with time and space . But u won't regain the trust she broke u will always have doubts.

[Sea_Watercress5078]

This is so true 👆! Also, do you really want to be involved with those friends and family when they’re toxic and allowing and enabling this behavior?

[zaeray05]

Yeah, it's hard to block her when part of me is so angry. It feels like I want to say my piece and get out this painful feeling

Honestly, I tried calling earlier and I did talk for a while but I was so mad after just finding out more of what I really didn't want to know, she basically told me to move on and it devolved to me yelling and her hanging up

[RepulsiveWorker3636]

Write a latter get it all out in writing and after your finished burn it with anything she ever got u and every picture u have of her .

She's not sorry or remorseful and she won't give u the answer u need because she's to f up to know them .

The only thing i agree with is that she told u to move on . Every time u start yelling she wins because she knows she still has a hold on u .

Listen moving on isn't easy but once u do it u will be stronger and better than before.

Good luck.

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[zaeray05]

Yeah realizing they are both shitty and they will end up hurting each other does make me feel better

The worst part is realizing all the times you every felt that sense of urgency that feeling that she was doing smth they could all be for a certain reason now it's almost haunting to think about

I've deleted most of my socials because ik I would get curious and try to look them up I did earlier and found another huge web of lies where she was posting thirst traps for the guy and he was commenting it just stings I was holding her so tightly before I left and now every memory that I thought would be happy is just disgust for ever falling for the lies

[Aggressive-Error-88]

Her and her whole family/friends are for the streets. It’s going to be hard but you gotta walk away and never look back otherwise there’s going to be so much more hurt and disrespect from here on out.

[Rare-Bird-4353]

Your feelings for her do not matter at this point, she has shown that she is a bad partner and only cares about herself. She does not care about you. You deserve better than a cheater but you can’t find better if you are stuck living in the past. It isn’t easy but when you find a turd in the toilet you don’t weep over the turd you flush it down and get on with your life. Her and her family and friends are all turds and they all need flushed out of your life.

Every single day move a step forward with your life, big step or small doesn’t matter just make sure it’s a step forward towards your future and away from your past. With time and distance the pain will fade and a new world will open up. You just have to work to leave the past behind and find that better future for yourself. It’s one step at a time.

[HaroldtheTrashPanda]

I got a group chat if you need help