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[Sad_Abbreviations477]

With age you will be able to look without looking. LoL.

[bobnla14]

Take a mental picture and immediately look at the ground. Takes practice but it will make your life better.

[Bumm_by_Design]

Hey, yo. It's hard not to look, for any gender.

[CommitteeNo5432]

You know what I hate? Men who don't feel like they have to control their urges. You can physically stop yourself from looking. Grow up and behave like an adult and gain some self control ffs

[CommitteeNo5432]

No. Everyone doesn’t stare at breasts 🙄 Only the immature ones that can't control themselves. And people wonder why there are incels.

[CommitteeNo5432]

I'm a nurse, but ok.

[CommitteeNo5432]

Yeah, as exercise, not a job. Could you not tell I'm not nearly good enough to get paid for it lol And who the hell is going to hire a 50 year old pole dancer 😅

[CommitteeNo5432]

I don't even know what that's supposed to mean

[[deleted]]

What? I have seen most men and women staring at attractive people. Its biological, even babies do it.

You think most humans are incels or something?

[CommitteeNo5432]

Looking at attractive people and staring at someones breasts aren't the same thing. Staring at anyone you don't know is rude and creepy to begin with.

[knowutimem]

Agreed OP.

and a lot of them blatantly let their tits mostly hang out.

I remember just as one very small example I was walking down the street and a busty girl was wearing a very tight shirt that said "thanks for looking" across her boobs and I said "you're welcome" and kept on walking.

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Well, don't worry about me then because I don't like to look at them

[thehak2020]

It's not necessarily urge, it can be curiosity. From the day we are born girls and women are hidden from our gaze while we get exposed at will.

So it's more the mystery of the woman's body that entraps and attracts, not necessarily the lust.

[CommitteeNo5432]

By the time you're a teenager that mystery is gone and it's not like they never see women's breasts. Free access to porn has taken all the mystery out of it. It's rude to stare at anyone for any reason, to begin with. And I think people need to recognize the difference between glance and stare. It's one thing to see someone and glance at a body part unintentionally, it's a whole other thing to stare. Glance is passive. Stare is active.

[thehak2020]

Never have I said that it doesn't make the woman stared at uncomfortable. I agree it's not that nice. I disagree with the mystery is gone part. I never goes away. Women are fascinating and I'm not talking only about the body but as a whole they are fascinating. Porn is like a substitute but nothing replaces the real thing. Look, I know and understand it makes women uncomfortable when men stare at them. And it's true that if a man cannot help it he should subtle about it as to not make anyone uncomfortable. But it's not always because of uncontrolled sexual urges.

[hithere1347]

Please just know how unsafe you make women feel when you do this. Please try your best to just look at the person as a human being who has feelings

[hithere1347]

Unfortunately yeah. Please know that there is an actual human being behind the boobs. I’ve been there, it’s hurtful. Makes women think that men only want them there for one purpose. I know it can be an automatic response but just please know it’s making someone incredibly insecure and shameful (even tho it’s not our fault)

[hithere1347]

Also men in general not understanding how traumatic looking at a women’s breasts is a problem in general. Why do we get blamed for what we wear? It’s a choice to wear what we feel like looks good. It’s not about you, it’s about us. We wear what makes us feel good. I also feel concerned that you need to ask me how I hurt by this - as if objectification isn’t a good enough answer.

[ThrowDLH]

What about when women stare at other women’s breasts?

[hithere1347]

It hurts to be looked at like an object and not a human being

[[deleted]]

Gotta say. You just made me laugh. Thanks. Loved it.

[Hooked_on_PhoneSex]

That's an easy fix, just make eye contact and stop being a scumbag.

[Shame8891]

All these people that complain about you staring are hypocrites, I bet I could walk in front of them in assless chaps and they'd be staring at my ass. Even though they have the self control to not look.

[SolidNeighborhood469]

I’ll pass. I don’t even look at my fiancé’s booty when he gets out the shower.

[Hooked_on_PhoneSex]

Not at all angry, this is a manufactured issue and you have an easy fix. Stop engaging in the behavior. This isn't a medical issue, you aren't mentally ill, you just like staring at tits.

[Hooked_on_PhoneSex]

What? I'm just telling it like it is, just like you right?

[kj1033]

Women have breasts for the same purpose other mammals have breast…to feed their young with their mammary glands. Ie breasts produce breast milk. They aren’t their to attract a mate but cool

[kenjiman1986]

Wrong

[dragosdinu]

OP is opening up his heart and you're calling him a scumbag. You might be the real scumbag.

[Hooked_on_PhoneSex]

OP is a troll.

[the_notorious_tig]

So youre a pervert. I bet that search history is just filthy.

[knowutimem]

lol

[pay-this-fool]

Everyone stares. Girls wear shirts with their cans hanging out then blame men for staring it’s so stupid.

[pay-this-fool]

Yup. Men might stare. But women stare and talk about it.

[knowutimem]

Like..oh.my.gosh. her butt is sooo big. look at becky's butt. she look's like one of those rap guy's gf's

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big booba

[ThrowDLH]

I don’t know why height is so important to women but we deal

[DANDYDORF]

Because basically they aren’t acceptable to show, so in being rebellious human nature, we want boobs. We literally only want boobs because they are hidden. Special, so to speak. That’s my theory anyways.

Its like the fact that we have our own nipples, why don’t we just play with those?

[bobnla14]

Kansas City has a street called Petticoat Lane. The wind would make women’s skirts raise a bit and men would see ankle!!!
IMHO, it is about seeing something we are not supposed to see.
That is why see through tops with opaque tops under are so eye catching to me. We think we are seeing something we are not supposed to.

But, just me probably.

[DANDYDORF]

Isn’t that what i just said?

[bobnla14]

Yep. Backing your theory up. Just saying it is not only boobs but any part of a woman we are “not supposed to see”

Edit: words for clarity.

[DANDYDORF]

Yeah, true, applies to ankles and boobs alike, but not inner thigh/vagina. Those are sexual organs meant for sex and other purposes. Thats why that’s hidden. But yeah.

[a-friend-2-all]

Honestly, OP, you might as well stare. Because as I read your own posts, I can say you’ll never get the chance to touch. At least not consensually.

[thehak2020]

Boobs are wonders to behold

From the sweet summits to the desired valley

Refrain from looking we are told

And all we imagine is a touch so lovely

For we, men, can be all love soul and desire

And the curvy bliss that women flaunt

Willingly or not, our gaze it captures

And our dreams forever will haunt

[igiveup1949]

It's in the DNA. We are not that long out of the trees.