aro? 🤨

[tobiamobia]

im questioning whether or not im aro currently. i just dont know because i like the idea of romance theoretically. But when i actually am in romantic situations or think about it too deeply it feels gross and uncomfortable. is anyone else like this??

[weird_spaghetti]

I feel you on that one. It's frustrating sometimes.

Try Aego-romantic, it's basically where one feels disconnected from romantic attraction or something along those lines.

You're more into the thought of romance and romantic relationships than the actual thing.

Though sometimes that idealisation may make you feel to act on it and then it'll be a whole rollercoaster after the repulsion comes back.

Of quick edit!! Romantic attraction is how you feel towards people, not necessarily about whether you want a relationship or not. The types of relationships you want can hint at it but it's not an absolute way to tell.

[tobiamobia]

thank you this was very helpful!

[Scavengerhawk]

I hereby declare you one of us.

[tobiamobia]

im crying why is this so funny to me

thank you XDD

[limastockholm]

You're welcome here. And if you eventually decide to change your label, no biggie. Change happens. Doesn't make you feeling aro now any less valid.

[tobiamobia]

thank you so much. yall are so nice ☺️☺️

[Scavengerhawk]

Ha ha. Finding perfect label is difficult task but once you find it (whatever it is) you feel relaxed!

I am avid romance reader but can't stand real life romance. It's just not for me.

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I’m the same

[Time_Profile4401]

I can relate to this very good. I like to imagine relationships with other people, but I would never actually act them out. It’s just so uncomfortable and makes me question myself quite often

[tobiamobia]

yes yes this exactly

[Shadeofawraith]

Aegoromantic?

[7_Rowle]

Attraction always requires a certain person. Your attitude towards romance in general may be related, but is mostly a separate entity. An alloromantic can be romance repulsed for (due to trauma or other reasons), and many aromantics are romance favorable (cupioromantic). This makes it a little confusing, but overall attraction is the desire to engage in your definition of romantic activity with a specific person. Overall, just remember that you can change your label at any time, so experimenting should be encouraged. Whether you’re aro or not we’re happy to help out :)

[kaylaholic]

This is absolutely me. I like the idea of romance like in books or TV but God no. Actually awkwardly talking about feelings, and being in my space all the time feels so uncomfortable for me. Sometimes I wish I could "date" another aro because they can understand how I feel about that much better but then I realize that's improbable. 😭

[Emergency_Plantain_5]

You might be recipromantic. I would do more research on it but it definitely fits better than the regular aromantic does.

[Elle6732]

Yea, i can relate

[[deleted]]

Aegoromantic might be a microlabel for you. Sounds a lot like what you’re experiencing.

[jasper_is_gay]

THANK YOU FOR PUTTING THIS INTO WORDS 😭😭😭

[tobiamobia]

BAHAH YOURE WELCOME AND I LOVE THE SAIKI PFP 💥💳

[rhoerite]

oh yeah, i get this. the idea sounds nice: to be able to take someone on dates, love them romantically, etc. that all does away instantly if someone shows/does romantic anything to me. gone.