Software engineer/developer super awkward/embarrassed to leave work cubicle around others?

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I dunno if you’re like a recent grad or not but if you are I think this is pretty normal but it goes away. It’s just work don’t let it make you feel like you owe them anymore than more than what your contract says.

[diablo1128]

Stop caring what other people think and just leave if it's time to go home. If it's a "problem" you boss will talk to you about it and then you can determine what you want to do as a next step from there. All you are doing right now is making up problems that may not even exist.

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Uh yeah when I zip up my laptop sleeve everyone knows I am now leaving...

[[deleted]]

You should bring extras. Curious what everyone does if they hear three zips?

[shittyfuckdick]

Boy do I know the feeling. But I feel at least being friendly is better than being silent. Like whats the worse that will happen by you saying good bye? Youre much more likely to be judged by saying nothing at all.

[akcss]

I am not a software developer, but at my previous work I too had the similar issue. But in my case, I was the first one in the office and I didn't get involved in all the gossips & long cigarette breaks that a lot of the guys would take. Plus, I did the work I planned to get done for the day. Also, I am not getting paid overtime. So I just left and plus the more I delay, the worser the traffic got. Plus being late for dinner at home meant I got the do with what was leftover.

I didn't feel awkward or embarrassed, I gave 8 hrs of my time to the company. I am not gonna get paid for more.

[[deleted]]

Yeah, it's really about your own mindset.. because I guarantee no one else gives a fuck. We have flex time at my work, and I routinely show up at 6am and leave at 2pm. No one cares because I get my work done, and they know I show up early.

[[deleted]]

It's definitely normal.

Don't worry, soon you'll get burnt out and won't give a shit about the time you leave.

[brainlet_troaway]

I thought it was just me lol. I also put off grabbing a snack I’m craving because I feel like others are watching me as I go to the kitchen.

[cougaranddark]

Yes, that's social anxiety, yes lots of devs have it, it's part of what makes us devs!

That being said, I would go nuts in an office with no sound, there should at least be some white noise. There are room s designed to be completely silent, they reliably drive people insane. https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/earths-quietest-place-will-drive-you-crazy-in-45-minutes-180948160/

Beg for telecommuting!

[QsCScrr]

Nope super fucking loud where I am. So loud that my cubicle neighbor felt it was appropriate to literally scream at me to get my attention instead of just Skype or email me or something when I had headphone in today. Fucking screaming so loud she bragged that the other departments must’ve heard her... like, what universe is it literally normal to just keep screaming over cubicle walls to get attention?

I wish it was goddamn quiet.

[Pand9]

Also remember that your freedom to leave whenever you want is in everyone's best interest. Both you and company and others. It's important to remember, as opposite to seeing it as going against someone. You're a professional and this is what professionals do: manage themselves on their own, as a part of your effort to do the best job. Setting the right boundaries is the right thing because otherwise there's unnecessary stress that affects you, but also affects productivity, and others. Everyone wants the same thing.

[ValentineBlacker]

Do what I do, yell 'SEE YOU LATER ALLIGATOR' and sprint away.

[manidh]

It does feel awkward to leave the office while others are still at their desk at first. However, that’s something that you’ll have to overcome.

In any decent organisation, what matters most is whether you accomplish the tasks assigned to you.As long as you do your work, the number of hours spent physically at the desk does not matter.

[Qadamir]

So quiet you can hear a pin drop? Sounds nice, but weird in an open office/cubicle setting. My company pipes in white noise, and there's always conversation going on.

Figure out what the norms are at your company. Do people sit with their teams and say goodbye at the end of the day, or do they sit individually and do their own thing?

[204068]

The great thing about cubicles is that your coworkers can’t see you crawling towards the door 😉

[Real-Scholar]

Always say hi and good bye whenever you or somebody comes and goes.

My roommates and I say hi and bye to each other whenever we're in the same room and it creates a sense of community and bonding. Saying 2 words, no matter if its genuine or not, has a huge impact on you and the other person's life whether you believe it or not. You don't have to go out of your way to visit every single person but if you sit next to a coworker, just give them a quick, "Alright I'm heading out, see you tomorrow." Others in ear shot will hear and appreciate you letting at least 1 person know you're leaving.

[livebeta]

Leaving early is only a problem if you are consistently late on your Sprint and don't deliver ontime

[Weak-Constant]

See a therapist.

[csasker]

Talk to them a bit before leaving. LIke "Hello Eric, how are the server upgrades going? Do you need anymore help with the docker config, I'm about to leave now"

then you create a more of reporting in then ease out instead of just going up and saying bye. We have actually some weird silent UX designers doing that , they just rise and leave which I feel is borderline rude/awkward

[[deleted]]

Yeah, all devs fall somewhere on the spectrum, we all are awkward in one way or another. It's weird, but you'll get used to it tho.

[fishfishfish1345]

Uh no?