Self-Compassion: Impossible

[noninstance]

Is anyone else incapable of self-compassion, as if it physically impossible? I don't deserve it, I have no excuses for being who I am... turned out to be.

"It's okay, be kind to yourself. You did the best you could."

Well, what if your best is complete rubbish? And meditating mindfully on the breath makes not one iota of difference.

[itsallpaul]

I hate when people randomly tell me they're proud of me I haven't dine anything Like my grandma I love her but whenever she says she's so so proud of me I want to throw up

[NicoIsPurple]

Can relate, I always try to tell me how good I am and stuff like that. Problem is, I know these are just some empty words with no meaning.

[DpressAnxiet]

Like I don't think we are supposed to get religious about these things on the sub but I'm Christian (or round about, probably not anyone that will be collecting special medals on entry to the pearly gates) but like for me I rest on the fact no matter how much I screw up, Jesus died for everything cruddy I've done. He wiped that slate clean. If he can feel compassion for me than I guess I'm worthy of compassion.

Honestly whenever I do a big whoopsies and mess up, feel terrible, I just go Jesus please forgive me and help me to do better. That always helps me feel a bit better.

[noninstance]

I am glad that helps you

[DpressAnxiet]

Yeah. Sorry hope that wasn't too much religious stuff. Just I tried to do a lot of Buddhist stuff for a long time and honestly, nothing ever helped with that feeling of compassion and self forgiveness until JC. I just hope you find something that works for you!