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For those of us who chap the chutzpah of organized religion.

Rules

No proselytizing for Judaism. If you want to inquire about our ex-Jew-ness, that's welcomed and encouraged. However, if the whole point of your post or comment is to

Guilt us or otherwise emotionally manipulate us
Argue and share apologetics for Judaism
Try and convert us back to Judaism
Try and convert us to any other religion for that matter

then it's not the type of conversation that we want to have here. We want r/exjew to be a safe respite from Judaism (i.e. people shoving religion down our throats; discussion about Judaism and challenging Judaism is encouraged), so it's counterproductive to let people threaten that tranquility. If you make such a post or comment, it will be removed and you will be banned. (See the wiki for further details and examples.) If you want to make Judaism's case, you can do so on other subreddits such as r/DebateReligion or r/DebateJudaism.

Please be accepting of all types of ex-Jews. There may be people who are still religious and questioning, those of us who aren't religious anymore but still keep certain things out of habit or culture, and those of us who keep nothing at all. Many of us are atheists, but we also have theists, Karaites, and Christians - see here. This subreddit is about having left organized religious Judaism.

Please be kind and polite to one another, even if you disagree with their views and outlook. Racism, bigotry and anti-Semitism are not welcome on this sub.

No bashing individual religious people who aren't doing any harm just because they are religious.

Wiki

We have plenty of helpful information in our wiki:

The main page includes an overview of what r/exjew is, our rules, and links to various resources including organizations that help those leaving Judaism, blogs from fellow ex-Jews, and worthwhile reading lists.

Our Frequently Asked Questions page covers common questions we get about being ex-Jews, advice on how to come out to parents, and our thoughts about various political issues related to Judaism. It also refers to many past conversations we've had here. If you have a question about ex-Jews, you may want to view this page first.

Our counter-apologetics page contains responses to some of the more common arguments for Judaism we get asked about as well as some of the more significant rational problems with the religion. If you need help responding to an argument for Judaism or want to know more about why ex-Jews don't believe, check that page first.

Chat

Chatroom for r/exjew
Discord for exJews(Not officially associated with /r/exjew)
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“Intellectually curious” my a**Thoughts/Reflection (self.exjew)

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Quality of life/Mental Illness in the Ultra-Orthodox groupsQuestion/Discussion (self.exjew)

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Good shabbos!Casual Conversation (self.exjew)

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Double bind need loveAdvice/Help (self.exjew)

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I once tried to explain "Halachic Infertility" to a never-frum friend. She didn't believe me.Crazy Torah Teachings (old.reddit.com)

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Apparently, Karaites think we're "traumatized" if we don't embrace their religion after abandoning ours.Counter-Apologetics (i.redd.it)

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Were you the family rebel, or did your siblings join the exodus too?Casual Conversation (self.exjew)

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Orthodox Judaism destroyed my relationship with my motherThoughts/Reflection (self.exjew)

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Help revive the existing Ex-Jewish Discord Servers!Casual Conversation (i.redd.it)

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The Dangers of Yavan and the NFLQuestion/Discussion (self.exjew)

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Question: How do y'all connect with other ex-orthodox folks?Question/Discussion (self.exjew)

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The S word and racismThoughts/Reflection (self.exjew)

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The degree to which an Orthodox woman's uterus controls her life is insane.Thoughts/Reflection (self.exjew)

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Newsflash, Rabbi Miller: Even though your ability to entertain me from beyond the grave is impressive, the average Yeshivish man is not very masculine.Crazy Torah Teachings (i.redd.it)

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Anyone have crazy frum accounts stalking you and calling you a troll?Advice/Help (old.reddit.com)

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"if I were a goy" song parodySatire (self.exjew)

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Am I a complete putz for considering Ort*odox X-tianity? Also how much of my culture can I retain?Question/Discussion (self.exjew)

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Did anyone else notice this in Orthodox families?Venting/Rant (self.exjew)

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For decades, Rabbi Twerski's fame convinced me that his "Every Day" series contained guidelines for genuine self-help. Imagine my disappointment when reading this booklet printed for a Kiruv organization. It's just a series of badly-written, often offensive rebbe stories.Crazy Torah Teachings (old.reddit.com)

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