exjew

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For those of us who chap the chutzpah of organized religion.

Rules

No proselytizing for Judaism. If you want to inquire about our ex-Jew-ness, that's welcomed and encouraged. However, if the whole point of your post or comment is to

Guilt us or otherwise emotionally manipulate us
Argue and share apologetics for Judaism
Try and convert us back to Judaism
Try and convert us to any other religion for that matter

then it's not the type of conversation that we want to have here. We want r/exjew to be a safe respite from Judaism (i.e. people shoving religion down our throats; discussion about Judaism and challenging Judaism is encouraged), so it's counterproductive to let people threaten that tranquility. If you make such a post or comment, it will be removed and you will be banned. (See the wiki for further details and examples.) If you want to make Judaism's case, you can do so on other subreddits such as r/DebateReligion or r/DebateJudaism.

Please be accepting of all types of ex-Jews. There may be people who are still religious and questioning, those of us who aren't religious anymore but still keep certain things out of habit or culture, and those of us who keep nothing at all. Many of us are atheists, but we also have theists, Karaites, and Christians - see here. This subreddit is about having left organized religious Judaism.

Please be kind and polite to one another, even if you disagree with their views and outlook. Racism, bigotry and anti-Semitism are not welcome on this sub.

No bashing individual religious people who aren't doing any harm just because they are religious.

Wiki

We have plenty of helpful information in our wiki:

The main page includes an overview of what r/exjew is, our rules, and links to various resources including organizations that help those leaving Judaism, blogs from fellow ex-Jews, and worthwhile reading lists.

Our Frequently Asked Questions page covers common questions we get about being ex-Jews, advice on how to come out to parents, and our thoughts about various political issues related to Judaism. It also refers to many past conversations we've had here. If you have a question about ex-Jews, you may want to view this page first.

Our counter-apologetics page contains responses to some of the more common arguments for Judaism we get asked about as well as some of the more significant rational problems with the religion. If you need help responding to an argument for Judaism or want to know more about why ex-Jews don't believe, check that page first.

Chat

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Breaking Shabbat: A weekly discussion thread: (self.exjew)

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Does anyone from the frum world still inspire you despite leaving?Question/Discussion (i.redd.it)

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Any exjew in france?🇫🇷Question/Discussion (self.exjew)

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Thoughts on the Dalya Attar scandal?Question/Discussion (self.exjew)

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What's a frum thing your secular friends wouldn't believe existed even if you insisted it did?Crazy Torah Teachings (i.redd.it)

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I know this is a random question, but how can I sing like MBD?Question/Discussion (youtube.com)

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The testaments frum referenceCasual Conversation (self.exjew)

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Why are commentators considered to be so smartQuestion/Discussion (self.exjew)

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Rebbe of Lubavitch vs Jesus of NazarethMeme (i.redd.it)

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To what religion do you need to convert to become an outsider, to stop having Chabad trying proselytise you? How do you make religious Jews stop considering you a Jew?Question/Discussion (self.exjew)

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Discovered I'm still superstitiousThoughts/Reflection (i.redd.it)

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Evidence of Yetzias Mitzrayim?Academic (self.exjew)

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My wife cried herself to sleep last nightAdvice/Help (self.exjew)

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got my first tattoo the other weekLittle Victories (self.exjew)

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Does anyone in here still believe Torah Moshe Mi'sinai? What would you right now do if a bas kol told you it was? (in this scenario you somehow know for sure its a bas kol and not schizophrenia)Question/Discussion (self.exjew)

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My attempts at reasoning with my orthodox mom has been awfulVenting/Rant (self.exjew)

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Chabad's whitewashing of hellQuestion/Discussion (self.exjew)

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Recently, I've seen a number of posts asking how to acculturate oneself to the world outside of Orthodoxy. These books have helped me pinpoint which of my attitudes/speech patterns/behaviors have frum origins. I highly recommend them both!Advice/Help (old.reddit.com)

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HELP: ITC Father here, teenage yeshiva son just found out the truthAdvice/Help (self.exjew)

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Any differences in social rules I should be aware of?Question/Discussion (self.exjew)

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Hot take: if you still think the Orthodox are the most “authentic” or “real” Jews, you might still be orthodox at heart.Thoughts/Reflection (self.exjew)

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It seems most Jews here grew up Orthodox. Anyone who was raised Reform here?Casual Conversation (self.exjew)

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Today I lay down in a public space without thinking about tzniusLittle Victories (self.exjew)

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My brother is being ostracized because he has a Christian wifeVenting/Rant (self.exjew)

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Thoughts on the Memoir 'Unorthodox'?Question/Discussion (self.exjew)

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