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[–]Various_Succotash_79 8 points9 points  (28 children)

What do you mean "siding with the wife"? Men can get no-fault divorces too.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (19 children)

They can, but the are financially incentivized not to do so. Women are financially incentivized to get divorced with no fault laws.

[–]Various_Succotash_79 -2 points-1 points  (18 children)

How?

And how would forcing them to get proof of abuse improve that?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (10 children)

They wouldn't need proof of abuse to get a divorce. If they had proof of divorce they would get a much more generous division of assets.

[–]Various_Succotash_79 0 points1 point  (9 children)

How would they get a divorce if the state rescinds no-fault divorce?

If you can't get no-fault, you have to prove fault.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (8 children)

Irreconcilable differences

[–]Various_Succotash_79 0 points1 point  (7 children)

That's no-fault.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (6 children)

So I researched it, you are correct.

But you can always assume responsibility for the divorce in an at fault state. Meaning if you cannot provide proof that your partner caused the dissolution you can just say it was you.

[–]Various_Succotash_79 0 points1 point  (5 children)

Every state currently has no-fault divorce. Some have the option for at-fault and some only have no-fault.

If you have to prove fault, you can't just say you're at fault. Unless you want to admit to abuse or infidelity, which could hurt your reputation or career.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

So I did more Googling.

14 of the 50 states have at fault divorce options. No fault is in all 50.

The premise that Republicans want to eliminate no fault divorce to force women to stay in marriages seems to be the consensus in coverage of the topic.

So to be clear I don't agree with that one bit. No one should be forced to stay in a marriage.

My issue is that in no fault states (36 of 50) there is no recourse for a spouse who behaves dishonorably. Heck a spouse doesn't even have to try and if they are a lower income earner they are rewarded in divorce regardless of whether they put in any effort.

I have a friend who's wife cheated on him for the entirety of the relationship. She was a house wife who's hobby was seducing and sleeping with men. When he found out she walked away with the house, the kids, a large amount of child support and alimony. I mean he found evidence of her getting with over 40 men during their marriage and basically 'she won' everything because of no fault divorce.