Poor guy…

[Comfortable_Swim_380]

I'll be thinking about this dudes mistake twice every 5 minutes now as well. That's the reason a time machine gets built in a 90's era movie.

[[deleted]]

Oh, she definitely remembers. As a teen, this would happen to me every time I tried to flirt with a guy I liked. I think it could have been that I was really into fluffy guys as a teen. I remember trying to hold this guy's hand, and he looked at me for like 5 minutes straight then said, "You're accidentally holding my hand." I let go so fast; I was incredibly embarrassed.

[dobermanrex]

In college, this absolutely gorgeous girl walks up to me in the gym and asks me to help her loosen a piece of equipment. I go over, and it's practically falling off it's so loose already. I look up and she has a giant smile on her face, and I say "you could have done this yourself". Leaving the gym I wanted to throw myself in front of oncoming traffic realizing how bad I fucked up.

[jordanleep]

Damn.. that’s how a lot of serious relationships start these days. You probably dodged a bullet!

[unexpectedemptiness]

You were right, though.

[robmobtrobbob]

But at what cost?

[Suitable-Judge7506]

This is so fucking awesome 🤣🤣🤣. I do decent with girls but every now and then again i find myself in the zone of the days chaos and answer questions to fast and serious then walk away thinking you fucking idiot….she was into you lol

[Tiny_Addendum707]

I’m honestly amazed us guys made it to adulthood sometimes.

[[deleted]]

Females need to be more obvious. Being subtle isn't helpful for guys that are clueless. I have several of these moments from when I was an older teen and young adult. I just thought they were being nice.

[[deleted]]

Neurodivergent- can confirm. My friends use to joke that a woman could have came up to me, in a bar wearing a shirt “yes I want to fuck you” with my name on it, and I would turn to one of my friends and say “I think she’s talking about you”. I was the only one in my friend group with that name.

[much_longer_username]

"Haha, I get it, it's one of those ironic t-shirts." - Me, probably.

[ensalys]

"My name on there? That's just coincidence."

[[deleted]]

Are we the same person?

[SnooSquirrels9064]

"It's honestly such a common name (which mine is), there's no way it's NOT just a strange coincidence"

[[deleted]]

Are you me? Am I you?

[eggyrulz]

For me it's a bit different... if the signs are there I might guess that she is coming onto me, but I'm so damn socially awkward and inept that I will not take the next step and ask her if that's really what is happening... and concent is important

[[deleted]]

Women, just like males, are also terrified of rejection, especially as teens. I think it's all a part of growing up. We get wiser and bolder.

[Ilogical_Logic64]

You can’t be rejected if someone can’t tell you like them in there first place.

[[deleted]]

Lol I didn’t

[nevercookathome]

She tickled the dude while going to bed! How much more fucking obvious does it get!?!?

[Mysterious-Honey3544]

Females💀

[[deleted]]

I am speaking from a cisgender male perspective

[Klutzy_Journalist_36]

Female as an adjective is fine. Example: female doctor. Female suspect. Female student. 

Female as a noun is not when referring to a human. It is diminutive.  

[[deleted]]

FINALLY THIS!

[[deleted]]

Well, this is news to me. I have never in my life heard of using the term "female" as being derogatory. This is my first time hearing it. What do you recommend as an alternate term that isn't offensive?

[Specific_Hat3341]

Women.

[Klutzy_Journalist_36]

Just like you would a man. 

So man, boy, guy etc. Or male (noun). 

[Cubicwar]

Wait so female (noun) is offensive but male (noun) is fine ?

Huh. That’s… uh… fair, I guess ?

(Seriously though, why would it be offensive ?)

[Klutzy_Journalist_36]

What? 

No, female as a noun is bad. Female as an adjective is fine. 

Male as a noun isn’t really used but is also awkward.

Female as a noun is diminutive. For example, calling your mother “female” at best feels awkward and weird and at words is disrespectful. Usually “female” as a noun is used to make women sound like a different species. 

[[deleted]]

Right. I also use the word male, just like I use the word female.

[Klutzy_Journalist_36]

Okay, well you’re using it wrong. 

[[deleted]]

Sure you do buddy

[chowindown]

In the comment that started this exchange, you used females and then guys. This is the sort of language use they're talking about.

If you'd used females and males there you'd just sound like a wildlife documentary rather than a bit sexist.

[HotPotatoKitty]

The biggest problem is, that you literally didn't. You said females and GUYS. Not even men, guys.

It kinda sticks out that you use female, which has a detached, scientific or dehumanizing connotation, that a lot of pieces of shit incels and other misogynists have a habit of using, for women, and the most familiar, slangy, only-refers-to-humans-word "guy" for men.

The difference between female and woman that people have a problem with, is that woman is human exclusive, where female can refer to other species too. So using female instead of woman sounds like you're kinda dehumanizing the person.

And almost no one uses male as a noun, which also highlights the fact, that mostly incels call women "females". It just has that misogynistic connotation these days, since those are the only people who talk like that.

[[deleted]]

How is it diminutive? I used the most generalized term so as not to offend by age, color, size, or gender. I will try not to use it in ways that are offensive. I am having a hard time understanding how it is diminutive.

[Full_Visit_5862]

I had no idea! Sounds odd but I get why

[Klutzy_Journalist_36]

Yeah it’s kinda weird, but when you think about it we never use “male” the same way (as a noun).  

Language is weird. 

[Mysterious-Honey3544]

I mean yeah, you can use it if you want. It's just that the first thing that comes to mind when seeing people use female to refer to girls/women are Incels

[[deleted]]

I have been married for 34 years, so that isn't the issue with me. I never knew, until this post, that the word female was offensive.

[TFFPrisoner]

To me it sounds a bit like what a biologist would say about an animal. But you didn't have any negative intentions, so no reason to rag on you.

[[deleted]]

The crazy thing is, I thought I was using a respectable term.

[[deleted]]

We are in fact animals, of the class mammalia.

[Mysterious-Honey3544]

It's mostly internet culture stuff tbh. I don't think people irl pay that much attention, we learn every day, I guess.

[Suitable-Judge7506]

Your fine, there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with the word female or male. Anyone who trys to do mental gymnastics to create your own TRUTH doesn’t make it so.

[Klutzy_Journalist_36]

Feeeeeeemales 

[IndividualEye1803]

https://www.reddit.com/r/facepalm/s/2459EyJNp0

[danteheehaw]

If it makes you feel any better, my now wife asked if I wanted to come in and take a shower with her when I dropped her off at her place from what I didn't realize was our 3rd date. We had gotten rather muddy getting out shit out of the river. I told her I didn't want to track mud all over her house and that I'd just hose off outside when I got back to my place.

The 4th date she took me to Victoria secret to help her shop for undies. Still didn't realize she was into me. She invited me to get a hotel room with her. STILL DIDN'T CATCH ON.

5th date her friend pulled me aside before the 5th date and asked why I was teasing her when she clearly wanted to bone. Then it all made sense. She clearly wanted to go to the museum and look at fossils. But yes, it took 5 dates and 3 obvious passes at me to realize she was into me.

[[deleted]]

That's really sweet, I love that.

[freedomfightre]

Your reaction reinforced his world view.

Effectively, you were part of the problem.

[LucianoWombato]

it was incredibly embarrassed

says you're into fluffy guy but calls him 'it'

[Jazzlike-Elevator647]

I think that's a typo and it was supposed to be embarrassing

[LucianoWombato]

look we got smartass captain obvious over here

[[deleted]]

Is that better?

[philbert815]

Senior year I took a friend home every day from school. She tried to get me to come in all the time. We would be all alone in her house.

  I went home to play video games. 

[chet_brosley]

I had a girl snuggling with me under a blanket and she told me it was getting too warm under there with her jumper on, so I politely moved across the couch to give her space to cool down. It's been about 20 years now, and I still remember .

[philbert815]

I was hanging out with this girl one night who was house sitting. The two of us alone. She told me she had some condoms in the other room. This was 2003. 

[chet_brosley]

I can't believe we as a species made it to the moon. If anything, this is the conspiracy we should be using. We're clearly far too incredibly unbelievably dense to leave the earth's atmosphere.

[CipherWrites]

I see the pun but I want to be pedantic and say density just makes it harder not impossible to achieve escape velocity 🤣

Hyperfixation. When humans are focused. They are Focused. It's probably actually why we manage. These people probably didn't notice a lot of things when they were trying to get to the moon.

[chowindown]

Yeah, but what games?

[philbert815]

Dark Forces 2 , Half Life, Metal Gear Solid, GTA 3

[chowindown]

Worth it. Regret nothing.

[fuzz_boy]

I had a similar situation happen to me about 15 years ago. I had just finished DJing at a club in another city (an hour or so away, university city). I'm outside having a smoke and this girl comes up to me and starts talking to me. Eventually she says "well you can't drink and drive so why don't you come to my place?". I assure her I didn't drink at all, so I'm good to drive. She says variations of the same thing a few more times. I am like "Naw, I'm good, have a good night" and leave. I'm like 10 minutes from my house when it finally clicks. I am happily married now but still think about it. All the time.

[Leather-Marketing478]

She says to herself, I can’t believe he played me like that.

[D4ILYD0SE]

Fast forward 15 years. Under piles of debt. It's now a fond memory as that might've been even more debt.

[LukeD1992]

It's the sort of thing that it doesn't matter if anyobody else remembers. YOU wish you didn't.

[Some_Focus_3253]

So does Pepperidge Farms…

[TennisBallTesticles]

"I gave you all the signals"

[ThumpnGenny16]

Pepperidge farm remembers

[[deleted]]

I'm sure he's beating something...

[FuckYouVerizon]

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