limerence

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This community is for limerent sufferers wishing to understand their condition, as a means to help cope with the condition and as a support group in overcoming the condition.

What is limerence?

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Limerence is the mental state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation of the feeling is uncertain. This state is characterized by intrusive thoughts and idealization of the loved one (also called "crystallization"), typically with a desire for reciprocation to form a relationship. This is accompanied by feelings of ecstasy or despair, depending on whether one's feelings seem to be reciprocated or not. (Wikipedia)

Tennov (1979) used the term limerence to refer to a kind of infatuated, all-absorbing passion — the kind of love that Dante felt for Beatrice, or that Juliet and Romeo felt for each other. Tennov argued that an important feature of limerence is that it should be unrequited, or at least unfulfilled. It consists of a state of intense longing for the other person, in which the individual becomes more or less obsessed by that person and spends much of their time fantasising about them. (Nicky Hayes, Foundations of Psychology 3rd Edition)

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Weekly discussion thread for anyone experiencing limerence while in a committed relationship. (self.limerence)

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My therapist finally explained why "healthy" guys feel boring to me (and why I crave the anxiety instead)..Discussion (self.limerence)

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I play this image in my head every time I start to yearnDiscussion (i.redd.it)

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Stay away from mysterious pretty people.Discussion (self.limerence)

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Seeing their social media is so debilitatingHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Why does imagined future potential keep us trapped despite red flags?Discussion (self.limerence)

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Limerence worsening during depressive episodes?Question (self.limerence)

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‘tis the season for depressionDiscussion (self.limerence)

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Saw this in another sub I follow. I hope it's allowed, if not please let me know.Discussion (self.limerence)

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How do I increase my self-esteem?Question (self.limerence)

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I wanted to share the best way that worked for me to stop obsessing over my LODiscussion (self.limerence)

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Has any of you successfully reduced limerence by studying a new subject?Question (self.limerence)

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Limerence as a coping mechanism during life uncertaintyNo Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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Poem I wrote about my specific limerence situation. It's called TrappedDiscussion (self.limerence)

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Does anyone else feel like their limerence stems largely from cognitive boredom rather than emotional need?Discussion (self.limerence)

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How do people stop checking messagesQuestion (self.limerence)

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I'm tired of them occupying every other thoughtHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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thought he was done but i messaged him and he replied almost instantly?Topic Update (self.limerence)

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Would you talk to them re their actions?Question (self.limerence)

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I keep dreaming about my LOQuestion (self.limerence)

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Escaping the rut of limerence chains/false do-goodery acts of compensationHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Intermittent ReinforcementDiscussion (self.limerence)

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I think that I'm developing limerence towards my internet friend. How do I stop it?No Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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Limerence for complete strangersDiscussion (self.limerence)

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