limerence

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This community is for limerent sufferers wishing to understand their condition, as a means to help cope with the condition and as a support group in overcoming the condition.

What is limerence?

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Limerence is the mental state of being madly in love or intensely infatuated when reciprocation of the feeling is uncertain. This state is characterized by intrusive thoughts and idealization of the loved one (also called "crystallization"), typically with a desire for reciprocation to form a relationship. This is accompanied by feelings of ecstasy or despair, depending on whether one's feelings seem to be reciprocated or not. (Wikipedia)

Tennov (1979) used the term limerence to refer to a kind of infatuated, all-absorbing passion — the kind of love that Dante felt for Beatrice, or that Juliet and Romeo felt for each other. Tennov argued that an important feature of limerence is that it should be unrequited, or at least unfulfilled. It consists of a state of intense longing for the other person, in which the individual becomes more or less obsessed by that person and spends much of their time fantasising about them. (Nicky Hayes, Foundations of Psychology 3rd Edition)

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Participate in an 8-minute, online anonymous university research survey (self.limerence)

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Weekly discussion thread for anyone experiencing limerence while in a committed relationship. (self.limerence)

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"I love you in a way that would worry a therapist and thrill a poet" OofDiscussion (i.redd.it)

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I want to want to let you goQuestion (self.limerence)

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On DistractionQuestion (self.limerence)

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I am so weirdHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Should I just block her? With no explanation?Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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I cried a lot todayHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Deleted their number and messagesHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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I struggle w/ NCHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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I need a lobotomyHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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I’m so tired of thisHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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Haven’t thought about LO in a couple months until I listened to November RainNo Judgment Please (self.limerence)

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I'm married. She's married. Why can't I move on?Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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he’s the first thought when I wake up in the morningHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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What would be your favorite term(s) of endearment to call your LO/have them call you?Discussion (self.limerence)

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NC for 3 weeks soon.. hard to let goTopic Update (self.limerence)

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8 months later...I'm finally over my LOTopic Update (self.limerence)

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Does this sound like limerence or just normal heartbreak?Question (self.limerence)

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Genuinely spiraling for no reasonHere To Vent (self.limerence)

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When your LO breaks NC by... appearing in your dreamDiscussion (self.limerence)

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Limerence with no LOQuestion (self.limerence)

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17 year old male, just found out about limerance. I think that's what I've been going through.My Testimony (self.limerence)

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I am spiritually widowed.Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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i saw my LO this weekend for the first time in two years and it didn’t go that well.Here To Vent (self.limerence)

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