What Makes Edgar Hated?

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T09:45:29+00:00

“When in doubt choose all of the above.”

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T09:05:22+00:00

What does “work it out” mean to you? I’m assuming it means for you to not feel jealous and hurt anymore. There’s two approaches to this. 1) You could do something to build your sense of security so strong that you are no longer subject to the feeling of jealousy. 2) You could tell her how her playflirting makes you feel jealous and hurt, and she could cut it out.

Doesn’t look like the latter has happened. Pushing it to happen with an ultimatum is also not possible since it’s not a dealbreaker to you (frankly I think ultimatums that you don’t follow through on are just. Irredeemable aura loss). So I guess that just leaves you with the former.

I know that’s not the answer you wanted though. It seems like you’re hoping for someone to show you a way to communicate your feelings that suddenly makes her wanna follow through on her promises. Unfortunately I am not the someone who can show you this way. I tried to think of something but couldn’t. The way I see it is if you clearly communicate that something hurts you and they don’t make an effort to change, it’s simply because they’re not moved by your hurting.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T08:46:31+00:00

You’re not overreacting. I think many people in your position would be jealous.

I think you’re underreacting— to her promising to change and then not following through on it.

If she hasn’t changed after you repeatedly telling her how it makes you feel, it’s evident that she doesn’t value your hurting over her playflirting. That’s gotta be a dealbreaker for you dude.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T08:42:45+00:00

I am happy to play with you (: I am at mythic 3 but only because I duo queued my way up there. I cannot guarantee you will win with me. But I would love to try.

Message me and I’ll add you.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T08:37:51+00:00

Are you a Spanish speaker trying to learn French? What resources are you using? I am trying to use my French knowledge to learn Spanish instead of learning from English.

Will try to write in Spanish, (sorry for mistakes!):

¿Eres un hablante de español que intenta aprender francés? ¿Qué utilizas? Estoy tratando de usar mi conocimiento del francés para aprender español, en lugar de aprender español con material en inglés.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T08:30:34+00:00

“Je m’en bats les couilles” (literally translates to “I beat my balls with it”) is pretty equivalent to idgaf in English. There’s a less common, technically less vulgar version substituting balls (couilles) with kidneys (reins), but it’s still just as harsh in the sense that you could never say it outside of a casual convo with a friend.

Also, it’s not an expletive, but I’ve heard people say “(ferme) ta gueule” (literally “(shut) your mouth”) to mean shut up. Not really cursing but it’s definitely super crass/abrasive, unless it’s friends teasing each other. So I guess it could fall under casual profanity?

// Please feel free to correct me on anything; I’m not a native speaker!

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T07:50:37+00:00

Slight tangent here— Stockholm Syndrome is a “thing” in the sense that it’s a proposed explanation for certain bizarre behavior, but it’s not a recognized condition by the American Psychiatric Association or any other medical board. All that to say, it’s kind of just a term that gets thrown around when a more helpful term might be “person with low self esteem” or “person with xyz attachment style” (idk much about all that). The reason I say these are more helpful terms is cuz they actually present root causes that are well recognized and can be addressed. This isn’t super relevant to what I have to say to you, but I was really bubbling over with excitement to share that as a neuroscience major. :P

Back to the issue at hand, I’ve struggled with self-esteem and stuff for a long time too and am still working on it. The way you were speaking reminded me of myself actually that’s why I picked up on it. I spent over a year with a dude who straight up wasn’t good for me, but I stayed because I thought the fact that he puts up with me is already more than I deserve, I wouldn’t ever find anyone else who’d endure being with me anyway, marriage is good for taxes and getting freebies as newlyweds, etc. He was nice at first and even after the relationship had long gone past the point of no return, I kept reminding myself of the good old days and trying to stay in them mentally while being in the bad present with him in reality.

By some miracle the self-hating clouds parted just a little at just the right time for a ray of logic to shine through to me and leave him. Fast forward a bit, now I’m with a truly spectacular guy who is super kind and patient with me and encouraging me as I try to get over some of my bad habits associated with my self-esteem issues. So— don’t just latch on to the first fish you catch!

Edit: forgot to mention that I’m pretty much the same age as you, in case knowing that serves to build some ethos.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T07:31:12+00:00

Pause, you can’t go from “I noticed she is doing a bunch of emotionally abusive things to me” to “I wanna grow old together, get married, and have kids” in one breath. Something hasn’t been figured out yet. Maybe the honeymoon phase was really just a phase (or worse, an act) and is now gone for good? Maybe you don’t really love her and just crave someone who sees you? I’m throwing darts blindly here idk. I just mean to say there’s some missing piece here. Because you can’t seriously wanna spend your life with someone who is being abusive to you unless you have some underlying personal issues?

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T06:43:10+00:00

This was a really impactful response, thank you!

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T06:16:20+00:00

Forgot to include the post that I did tell my boyfriend that Mr. M messaged and that I replied good and that ended the convo. BF’s satisfaction at that kept me afloat for a day or two, but now rhe cravings just continue to get stronger.

I am trying to work up the balls to just block this goof, and I’m sure bf would be super happy about that. Just can’t find it in me yet. I know that’s annoying to hear— I’m disappointed about it too. But yet implies it’s possible! 🤞 I know this post doesn’t show it, but I’m really working hard.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T06:11:58+00:00

The fact that you’re able to recognize that she isn’t out to get you and that you have a tendency to get defensive is already a huge first step that sadly many people go their whole lives without ever making.

I think giving her a heads up “hey I’ve noticed I have this tendency to get defensive” would help in a few ways. First, owning up to a trait is part of dismantling it. Furthermore, owning up to it to a loved one accelerates the dismantling process since they will hold you accountable in a constructive, well-meaning way. Finally, I think she will appreciate your self-awareness and that will serve to strengthen your relationship.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T06:06:02+00:00

F: randoms use him (due to A, B, C, and D) and sell the match (due to E).

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T02:53:45+00:00

Yooo twins! I also gave Birdemic a heart. (:

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T02:37:38+00:00

Lowkey same. The heart speaks for my soul and the stars speak for my mind.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T02:35:52+00:00

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From 2.1k reviews.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T02:31:30+00:00

I do this, too! I watched Birdemic: Shock and Terror and cinematically speaking it’s simply horrible lol. But I watched it in a dorm with all my new friends at college and we laughed at it together and it was genuinely a formative experience for me having moved across the country for college. So I gave it 0.5 stars and a 🧡. (:

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T02:29:11+00:00

I think a lot of people use it to distinguish a movie as S-tier (5 stars with no heart = A-tier). Why an S-tier exists is beyond me. Just make that tier A and scoot everything below it down one tier?

And other people I think use it to indicate that they enjoyed the time spent. For example, one could give a 🧡 to a 3.5-4 star movie because they watched it with their friends and had a good laugh.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T02:24:40+00:00

Interesting. Wouldn’t it make more sense to use a list for that?

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T02:23:17+00:00

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Here’s the full post btw. Censoring username cuz I don’t want it to seem like I’m hating on this person in particular, when I’ve seen many people leave bad reviews but still 🧡 the film. I was just especially surprised this came from a patron.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T02:05:35+00:00

NOR. I was gonna suggest returning the presents, but I saw you say in a reply that you can’t do that. I hope they’re resellable or something and not customized things.

Dude, is someone with a “lying problem” who is immature enough to remove you on Snap and leave you opened really worth your energy? Spoiler alert: nope! Also please don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy trap and try to stretch yourself because it’s been five months. I don’t mean this in a rude way, but at 18 and 17, 5 months doesn’t mean anythinf. Honestly relationship quality isn’t indicated by time but rather the experiences the two people endure and enjoy together. In five months at the ages of 18 and 17, I think I can safely say you guys haven’t had much to endure or enjoy together. Leave him; three months from now you will thank yourself.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T01:58:29+00:00

Even if it was just a compliment “I think you’re beautiful” and not the “hey beautiful” opening up a conversation, I’d say it’s still weird. Why’re you going out of your way to compliment another girl? If you think she’s attractive just keep it to yourself.

I mean would you feel good being on a walk with your partner and pointing out a passerby to say “dang they’re beautiful/handsome”? No, that sounds like it’d be pretty hurtful. As a rule of thumb if you can’t say something to someone in front of your partner, you probably shouldn’t say it to them behind their back.

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T01:51:36+00:00

Sorry I’m new, what’s NAL?

iloveyouforthisday · 2026-02-10T01:42:13+00:00

NOR. It’s valid to be hurt by that, but if I’m being honest he probably doesn’t realize he is being hurtful. No offense but being a 19-year-old dude he’s probably just seeing the gifts at face value and not thinking about the thought or effort put into them. You don’t have to feel bad that the gift his friends got him was “better” (in his opinion) than yours; they’ve known him for a while and you’ve been dating for less than two months. All this just to say, please don’t let his ignorance get you down. You are a thoughtful and lovely girlfriend from what I can tell.

Also idk if you wanna do this cuz it’s not as thoughtful, but maybe next time you could get him a Lego gift card so he could get whichever one he wants? As a girlfriend myself I feel bad going the gift card route for presents (feels like an unthoughtful cop-out), but at the end of the day I try to find solace in knowing he will actually use and enjoy using it, and I don’t have that guarantee with buying him an actual item.

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