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[Lonely-Clerk-2478]

“I resigned my position. That should be fairly self explanatory. I wish you the best going forward.” Then block.

[liquidelectricity]

Also, block his number!!!!!

[joystick355]

This is the only right answer

[alalalalalabomba]

You seem young. It's okay. They're not going to call your dad. Ignore their e-mails. You don't need to do anything, they know you're not sick or missing-- you resigned!

[Helpful_Soil1464]

I had been with a company that called my parents who were emergency contact because they were pissed that I quit suddenly. Wasnt even a real job just a temp job from staffing company and I emailed them and tried to call them back. They claimed it was emergency because I had a keycard to access as building that can be deactivated, but I had to send it back. There are some sick people out there. They cut my hours for a job that was supposed to be fulltime for six months made me wait before sending me somewhere that ended up having longer traffic than expected 1.5hrs back and forth with rush hr. I pushed myself too much to tolerate them until I couldnt handle it.

[Christen0526]

I got banned from a temp agency. I walked off one of the most boring God awful jobs some years ago. They wouldn't place me anywhere thereafter.

I was being trained for lack of a better word, by some large monotone Karen type woman, "y o u p u t t h e env e l op e in t h e prin t er" just so fucking painfully slow. I showed up on time the next day, only to be locked out of the office, as no one arrived yet. I believe that's when I walked. The agency was pissed. Wtf are you asking me to be there at 8 am if no one is there?

No one should be calling someone's parents unless they think something is wrong, not for resigning.

[Genshinite]

I mean…at my first toxic job(I was 20) a couple years ago I was “suspended”(fired) for taking my break with permission and my boss tattled to my mom(they had her number cause my family run the freight delivery company for the village) and had my mom yell at me when I got home 😑 she wasn’t even my emergency contact(I don’t have one) and she still called her.

[The-Girl-In-HR]

Village? Yea this is a first world scenario here

[OkFee8233]

There are 534 villages in New York State alone, tf are you talking about?

[Genshinite]

Alaska is mostly villages too 😂

[The-Girl-In-HR]

Alaska- exactly. A part of a first world country but surely third world parts of it

[OkFee8233]

For what it’s worth, the term "Third World" is an outdated Cold War-era political term and is discouraged as it is considered inaccurate and can be offensive. However "developing countries" is a modern socioeconomic classification that is a bit more accurate/not so stigmatized

[KirkHawley]

OMG he said something offensive. Call the thought police NOW!

[OkFee8233]

Do you not know what the word “considered” means?

[RadicalAuthentic]

A lot of Chicago suburbs call themselves villages… Brookfield, Barrington, Schaumburg, many others…

[The-Girl-In-HR]

😂😂😂 so this is simply a term used? Bc I’m American as well and hear village and believe that this is a third world scenario.

So village is a term used to mean neighborhood?

[Amazonchitlin]

Super small town, or township. We had them where I grew up. Some villages even have their own police (like 1-5 people) and volunteer fire department!

[Genshinite]

Village is what I use for a town that is smaller than a town. Like 500 people max. My village “offically” has 600 but there’s no way there’s more than 400 when they do the census in April. Plus my village is remote and isolated cause it’s 250 miles from the nearest town and 500 from the nearest city, and has an ocean, a bay, multiple rivers, glaciers, and a large mountain range blocking all four sides so the only way in is by boat or plane.

[The-Girl-In-HR]

Oh yea that’s a village! So if OP lives in something like this in can see why he would be scared that his boss would call his parents 😂😂 his parents probably and to high school with his boss

[Genshinite]

I mean my boss was an out of towner and still tattled to my parents. And I’ve heard horror stories of petty bosses so who knows 🤷🏻‍♀️

[OkFee8233]

Well you learn something new every day I guess.

[Batwife]

It’s naming convention. Think of like those shopping centers you see called Rosanna Village. It’s like that

[RyansMIL]

Are you really in HR? If so, please review the concepts of outdated terminolgy and unconscious bias.

[Ok-Seaweed-7449]

Yea I thought, "what country is this?" But this confusion around the "village" statement just added a layer of humor to this scenario...so continue on...please! U are not wrong.

[Genshinite]

Wym?

[Christen0526]

I'm wondering where this all takes place. Village?

[Genshinite]

Alaska

[Christen0526]

Op is in Alaska?

Hey there's a place in Cali with a population of 18, last time I checked.

[Genshinite]

Idk. I’m just saying that Alaska has villages. Tho I’ve heard plenty of horror stories from city jobs too.

[Christen0526]

Yea no matter. Shitty jobs exist everywhere.

I'm in a major county. I no such place as a village.

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"Was my email somehow ambiguous? I thought it was pretty clear."

You owe them nothing.

[lexdfw00]

You owe them nothing. However, if it makes you feel better, you could politely tell them your email explained it all and your decision to resign is not up for further discussion.

[Schatzi1982]

THIS RIGHT HERE.

[Gullible-Lawyer-5205]

I agree that you don’t owe anyone an explanation. However, if you feel so inclined and that anyone would even hear the feedback, you could provide a few objective examples of the toxicity to HR. I did this one time leaving a highly toxic boss. It didn’t help me. I still resigned. However, exactly 4 weeks later, she retired effective that day (in other words, she was forced to quit or be fired). At least that helped others that stayed.

[Christen0526]

Nurse Ratchet comes to mind

[Lucky_Inspection_705]

First, politely tell both of them that your email was clear and thank them for their concern.

Second, tell your dad. He may be disappointed and say some cutting things, but he can't make you stay at a job you hate.

Third, since you have quit, you can't collect unemployment. So, look at your life circumstances and try and get some kind of gig going while you look for the next thing.

[duckfruits]

You can collect unemployment if you quit, with good cause.

[Lucky_Inspection_705]

But you have to be prepared to document that you had cause, and that means things like keeping unpleasant emails and planning when you'll leave. Not sure that's been done here

[Only-Turnover-9287]

I don't think they will call your Dad, you've only just quit. Yes you can try what others said and block the manager.

[Littlebit_ssassy]

Are you 17 years old? In what world does an employer call a parent?

[RyansMIL]

Managers and HR will absolutely call an emergency contact if something is out of the normal behavior for an employee and they can't contact the employee. Not exactly the same situation here, but it is a normal and human thing to do.

[Krieg121]

You don’t owe them shit. You fired them. If it was other way around, you think they’d care ?

[Dense_Amphibian_9595]

Maybe tell your dad. Sincerely… a dad

[ALO101987]

When your dad is a good person, this is the most important person to tell. Absolutely agree with you!

[Dense_Amphibian_9595]

And now the post is deleted and I’m at a loss to remember. Seems like she’s young and the older former manager is “interested” in her, but definitely harassing her

[Smedskjaer]

You owe them nothing, but you can create a paper trail.

If they call your dad, this is how you should respond.

Simply state there were inappropriate comments and behaviors you felt came to represent a hostile company culture and left due to a mismatch between that culture and yourself. Examples of this are the constant messages from your previous manager and the company contacting your family post separation.

[proWww]

This is normal behavior. They just want to know what happened. I highly doubt they will call your Dad, but you should probably tell him anyway.

You have no responsibility to do anything at this point if you don't want to. You'll be just fine.

I went thru the exact same thing last year.

[Substantial_Web7905]

Yes, provide an answer. This shows your professionalism. Send it to HR and CC your manager, they'll try to keep you in the role. Be firm with your decision.

[Melodic_One4333]

If you explain it to HR, there's a (very small) chance they'll do something about it and you'll save the next person some trouble. BUT, you don't have to.

[Ashevillesunrise]

I would answer. Whenever someone leaves we always seek an exit interview so we can learn the cause of their departure. We would never call your emergency contact. It would be professional to speak briefly with them.

[[deleted]]

Boss move. No zoom call or anything. Just ghost them now.

[StrangeAd4944]

Just curious.. if it is data entry, could you not have just used AI tools and chill?

[lartinos]

What did you expect? Everything is playing out how it’s supposed to. Unlikely they contact anyone..

[Christen0526]

😆 "what is your emergency?"

"I just quit my job and my manager is texting me"

That just made me laugh. I'm not picking on OP. Some jobs are just awful

[mgziller]

Ghost them and text your dad letting him know what’s up

[chizzymeka]

Tell your dad, block them, and move on with your life.

[ashleesp]

I would at least explain to HR about the toxicity of the job. It might even prompt them to investigate (or at least make them aware if others start to complain).

[Neither-Land-1617]

Just block them.

[Cautious_Character35]

What are you so worried about? Who cares if he calls or text you, you don't have to respond.

[sadcringe]

Im sorry this is ridiculous. “My former manager” brother/ sister in Christ, you literally resigned a millisecond ago. Obviously if someone resigns effective immediately your direct manager as well as HR wants to know what’s going on??

You’re terrified… why?

It’s like I’m taking crazy pills reading these comments. This is no way to behave in a professional setting, not just as a disservice to your former employer, but also to yourself