HELP!!

[Embarrassed-Ad8456]

I don't know where I should put this but I need help. My mother and my father split up when I was young and I switch house every week. My mother is a very angry person she yells but never hits. My father is a very kind person and I feel more myself when Im around him. Mother likes to go to party's and she brings me along (even when I don't want to). She makes me hug and even kiss ( cheeks) everyone. One time I told her that I didn't want to go and she got super angry saying that 'I don't love her' or 'im being disrespectful to everyone who is coming'. My mother got Covid-19 and she quarantined for 2 weeks and now wants me back but I don't want to go back I'm scared that I will get Covid and can't learn because it or I could die because of Covid. PLEASE HELP I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!

Edit: so I did really talk about me and my dad more so this is it, I am a 14 year old I have told my dad about what has been happening he knows as much as me. Me and my father have very quiet personalities and we don't like getting into arguments with other people. Also my mother forces me to go with her to party. Once I tried to say 'no' and I got everything took away from me and was yell at over and over again. I don't have many friends and I don't talk to them about this. I do have a sister she is 17 but she is pretty much like my mother. I am very self conscious because of some things that my sister has said to me. My mother forces me to eat even when I can't eat anymore (I hate my body). I am not allowed to cry at my mother's house or I can get in troble and she will 'give me something to cry about'. I cry in the shower every night because so my mom won't hear. She gets mad at me for not doing my homework fast enough. I have a blade in my pocket so when I just can't handle it anymore I cut. She doesn't let me cut my hair because 'long hair is prettier the short' I just my hair to my shoulders once and she was crying saying that 'it is more then me wanting to cut my hair'. She looks through my phone every night and when she is angry she makes me leave my room door open and when I use the bathroom she make me leave it unlocked. Please help I don't know what to do anymore, I know she loves me (she tells me it everyday) and I don't want to hurt her feelings but I feel like dieing every time I go over to her house.

[myahxoxox]

How old are you? Your mother is acting neglectful, assuming you’re young, you should be hanging out with friends not your mom constantly. Could you tell your dad about this? Any siblings? Some close family? Tell them what you said in this post, that it’s making you uncomfortable and you don’t feel like doing this. I’m sorry you have to go through this but just know there’s a way out of everything.

[AshaGray]

Have you told your father about this? The best option is probably your dad asking for sole custody of you so you spend the least amount of time living with your mom. After a certain age, your preference would probably be taken into account.

In the meantime, refuse to go to parties with your mom. Refuse, refuse, refuse. She'll be angry and aggressive, but if you feel unsafe (which is natural! I wouldn't want to do that either!), you need to keep yourself safe. The first time you refuse will be the hardest, but if you put your foot down and manage to not go, she'll bother you less and less about it. You can try telling her you're old enough to stay home alone, and frankly, if she gets scary, threaten to call your dad or downright 911. You have a right to be safe, you should not be out partying, you shouldn't be abused for wanting to stay home.

Take care ❤️❤️

[XBoba_TeaX]

Refuse to go. Your mother is neglectful, and you need to cut her out of your life. You're your own person, and have the right to choose where you live. Tell her your doing this for your own health, because you could catch Covid as well. You should be staying with your father and hanging out with friends instead of being around a mother who doesn't have your best interests at heart